Duggar Family - How They Do It

I agree. Parents with that many children and way less always depend on the older kids to take care of the younger ones. It's not fair to the older kids. It's the parents responsibility to raise the children not the older siblings. Once in a while is ok but this seems to be an every day task.

I think you are missing the point. Michelle takes care of the babies until they are a certain age. So she just isn't having a baby and then turning it over to the other kids to raise.

The current generation and the past one are raising spoiled brats. The kids don't know how to accept responsibilty, how to share and help in the majority of households. A recent poll showed that nearly 30% of teens have cheated on tests and homework, shoplifted, and think it's okay to lie.

The Duggar kids will be an asset to our future and they have won my heart. The Duggar Family are an inspiration to millions of parents on how to raise kids. Oh, by the way, they don't need the money from the tv shows. Both Michelle and Jim Bob have their own business.

They live just a few miles from me, and I've never met them, but I would sure like to.

Wow, what kind of unhappy sad childhood did you have? Your comments almost sound like jealousy. I get the feeling you came from a very spoiled or unhappy family life. It was just my brother and I and because I was 5 years older than him I had to help take care of him, just like these kids. I also had to help around the house and learn the tools to run a household and live like a decent human being, everything these kids have to do. So what's the difference? By the time I was a tween I ran our house in the summer. I WISH my mom would have had about 5 other girls to help me. I used to say I had the meanest mother in the whole world, now I bless her every day for giving me those life skills I needed, especially when I saw in college the complete idiots I had to live with who couldn't even boil an egg or make a bed. 75 years ago families like this were the norm because people didn't practice birth control. I've have NUMEROUS people from LARGE families tell me they loved growing up in a big family. Just that many more people to love you they always say. A lot less bickering because you HAD to learn how to get along. Overall the happiest people I know are from large families. People in smaller families are the unlucky ones. I wanted more siblings but my folks couldn't have any more. My mom almost died having my brother and the doc said no more, so they didn't. I felt my brother and I would have gotten along better had there been more of us. Only children or ones from a few kids often become spoiled selfish brats because they want and get everything. Trust me, I've seen thousands after owning a toy store for 7 years. While I think the Duggers can get a little self-righteous about themselves, I'll take their kids any day over what your children are probably like. I sense some real hostility and anger in you which you've probably taught to your children. Why do I get the feeling your kids are not learning any responsibility growing up or that you feel abused in your own childhood? If you want to know for sure, just go and find someone from a large family, 6 or more kids, and ask them how they liked having a large family. You'll find out for yourself and won't have to take my word for it.

The Duggars are a lovingly family and one that people should learn from. In the old days family's were up to 20 kids. Your comments sound like a Department of Welfare employee. Are any kids complaining.

I agree. The proof is in the pudding. Lets see how functional/dysfunctional the younger siblings are in years to come having been raised by the brothers and sisters.

The Lady and Gentleman are doing it right. More power to them. And yes, they are letting the older kids help with the younger ones, so what??? Pre-training for their future. Everyone should have thier job. The family is doing it right. More power to them,. Are you jelous or just embarressed by your own indiscrepancies?

You say about the older ones being responsible? We have nine children and just got custody of our 16 month old grandson. Our older children help tremendously but why do you think the majority of kids in america are like they are? NO RESPONSIBILITY. The Duggars show should shout that in your face when you watch them. Our children are very respectful. We have one autistic child and the rest are very compassionate to her. We adopted all our children, and on top of it had 52 foster children go through our home in 32 years of marriage. Our long lasting marriage and the respectfulness of our children says it all. RESPONSIBILITY, AND THE GRACE, LOVE AND GUIDANCE OF GOD.

Who are you to Judge them or any other parent of more than one child? Have you raised any children at all? My guess would be NO, with that is mind, please do not make statements or take guesses to something you know nothing about.

Guess it is none of your business if you don't like it. If you don't want 17 children, don't have 17 children. But if that is their wishes...more power to them. Thankfully, they don't let people like you get to them.

I think the duggars are a wonderful family and to all the people who disagree. God gave them their great family. I wish I could have been such a good mother to my own four kids.

Evidently you have NO clue to what is real love. You obviously have many many issues with your identity. These children are raised in a home that is loving. They are well taken care of and happy, something that you obviously are not. You shouldn't take out your disfunctional life on someone who is happy. Seems to me you are jealous. You really should let go of that mean streak and be happy for them..

I honestly think its none of your buisness. And further more, who are you to judge anyone? I dont believe for one second that your perfect, so how could you judge anyone.
I think the family is absolutly amazing. They raise there kids to have such great respect and to be so responsible. They're kids court, like it should be! Think of how different the world would be if we courted instead of dated. They're christian beliefs is so incredibly strong I dont know how anyone wouldn't want to have that kind of love. The older ones DO NOT raise the younger ones, yes they do help, maybe more the other older siblings, but how could that hurt anyone?? It might teach the older one responsibility and the younger one to have respect, not only for thier parents but all elders as well. WOW thats really gonna hurt them.
I think its absolutly insane that you could sit there and judge and critisise someone you've never met. CRAZY.

These children are being children, they are being taught responsibility. something that most children in this American society knows nothing about. I feel truly sorry for the children of America, because the adults think that responsiblity is something that they can just jump into when they are older.

The Duggar's have shown that they care and love each one of their children. They do not pass them off to the "state" to educate them, they do not live off of welfare, they provide for themselves, long before this show came along.

I love the show and am glad that a decent show like this exists. Maybe some young parents can learn the meaning of loving and taking care of your children, instead of passing them off to daycares and public schools and being to tired to teach children to learn and grow and be dependable, independant, capable adults.

You are missing something esther since these parents are giving these children the greatest gift in the world and that is each other. What a blessing for them to have all these loveing siblings in their lives. I have never seen any of them looking unhappy with their lives. Now if they just had stopped at a few children then what could they learn to do that would be more important than loveing each other. Perhaps playing the computer games or hanging out at the malls?

Ot will be the Duggar children who you will never see on the pole. They are doing a great job. More power to them!!

I am a 62 year old mother, grandmother and great grandmother that would love to be able to spend some time with this wonderful family. I had a yours, mine and ours family, but never could have been as patient and kind to my family as this man and woman are to their wondeful family. Everytime I see a documentary on this family, I am in total awe. After watching their family I have such feelings of love and peacefulness. The families behavior and cooperation makes me wish that my children (even now) could behave in such a wonderful, easy manner. Bless them all. mg

What upsets me about this family is that none of their children seem to show any interest in going to college or advancing their education or their lives in any way. It seems they are being brought up to be married by age 20, have children immediately, and stay inside their little circle of Evangelical-ism.

None of the kids want to grow up to be doctors, lawyers, scientists, or ANYTHING (even if they say they dreamed of being a cashier when they grew up- at least that's something). They don't show an interest in anything but the Bible, marriage, and children. They don't want to change the world some day. They have no dreams.

I think that's sad. And when they grow up, they will become nothing but a waste of space and energy.

Today I saw something that really hurts.. I want to cry.