Divorced Mom Not Allowed to Have Lesbian Partner in Home

I agree with you ame....he is married to this new woman....if the mom and her girlfriend were married it wouldn't be a problem....i am a single mom, and i have made the decision not to have a guy when my daughter is around (which is all the time lol)....if we want to do something he needs to have his own place so we can hang out there!

I was widowed in 2003, when my daughters were 3 and 5. There was no decree issued, but I still didn't ever choose to have a man stay over at my house when my daughters were present. In 2005,when I met my current husband, he did stay overnight when my daughters slept over at my parents' house.
I do not see this as a gay/lesbian issue, but as an issue that deals with what is best for the child/children.
I do not think that a parent should allow a lover to sleep at their home if the children are home also, regardless of their sexual preference. I'm not a prude, but I believe that Mom and/or Dad should be married to a person before they allow said person to stay overnight in the home if the kids are home. On weekends when the kids are with the other parent, hell, have at it, but don't confuse the child/children. I've seen too many divorced parents bring home multiple boyfriends/girlfriends and the hope on the child's/children's face that this person is here to stay.
A divorced parent's sexual life is private and has no business getting anywhere near a child's life.

This is not a "lover" people. It is the woman's spouse but because of the stupidity of people, they are not allowed to marry. The situation is EXACTLY the same as the husband. Both have long-term relationships that the children have come to expect and accept. This sounds like a father who is trying to use everything possible to wrest these children from their mother.

I think the problem is the fact that the law is archaic. Such laws were enacted before 3 out of 5 marriages ended in divorce as well as when most children were born within the confines of marriage.

IF they were allowed to marry, I would say fine, the paramour clause should be applied, but they don't have that option!

The mother and her partner do not have the option to marry. This is not an equal situation at all. As a lesbian, I am again reminded how we are treated as second class citizens. I, we, are human beings who want what every human being wants, a person to love, make a family and be with for the rest of our lives. This is just another example of how unequal treatment of it's citizens works and how some of the citizens of America allow that to happen.

EARTH TO COMMENTERS. The women was dating her partner for 9 years, this isn't some fling. You are all supporting the ex-husband because he and his new wife are married. Have you forgotten the gay rights issues our country is currently facing? The mother and her partner of 9 freakin' years are unable to marry because of anti-gay marriage laws. If anything, they have a strong partnership of 9 years...that in my opinion is stronger then the ex-husbands new marriage. This judge and story is ridiculous. Let people live! The women was found to be a positive influence on the children...you all say you want what is best for the children afterall.

How can this woman ever get on with her life if same sex marriage is against the law???? I am confused. If it is not legal than she will never be able to get on with her life with her partner. To me a family is what you make of it, no matter if it is 2 moms or 2 dads raising children, as long as the children are raised with love.

We do not seem to mind when we have foster families raising as many as 11 or up to 15 children per house hold. I have seen horrible conditions in which foster children have been brought up in, so that the parents can get the monthly pay chack. ( NOT ALL FOSTER PARENTS DO THIS, BUT SOME HAVE FIGURED OUT A WAY TO WORK THE SYSTEM)

No one says a word about the way the state runs their system. All I hear is it is better then where they came from. But God forbide you have a child brought up by 2 loving same sex parents.

What harm would this cause??????? The children would learn to be accepting of others....... And be loved by more than most children????

Actually, Openmind, this would not be happening of this lesbian had not been married to the girls' father previously. So it's not like they are making it illegal for gays to get together, or even for gays with kids to get together. I imagine this is a narrow issue.

However, gay or straight, I don't have a sex life around my kids. It's not right for a single parent.

Can you just come out with it and say that you don't think that Gay or Lesbians should be allowed to marry? What is "unusual"(that's your word) about a homosexual couple living together? The article states that the live partner is a positive influence on the children.

"this would not be happening of this lesbian had not been married to the girls' father previously". I'm sorry why is this all the mother's fault?

You seem to have great disdain for homosexuals perhaps you should consider a more open mind, that the world is changing and people are now open about their sexuality, my parents(FYI man & women) were by showing affection for one another and it didn't bother me. Sure when I was old enough to understand what it meant it grossed me out to no end.

The fact remains their has been no conclusive reason given as to why two women or men cannot share a bed together, create a life together, other than god doesn't like it.

I know several couples that live together that raise a children, why because they see no reason for marriage until they are sure of it. Yet they continue to create a life together for the benefit of their children, knowing that if the relationship does fail there is no high cost of divorce.

Sincerely a guy with wife and child who sees no good reason to deny anyone the right to pursue happiness.