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Reborn Dolls - Just Like Having a Real Baby?
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I see it as the no harm, no foul approach to trying out parenting. Of course, this approach doesn't prepare you for actual parenthood either -- these fake babies don't cry or wake you up in the middle of the night screaming and don't impress with their capacity for projectile bodily liquids. Yet perhaps the reborn babies take the fear out of holding a fragile little baby, of wondering and worrying if, indeed, someone is ready to take that next step towards pregnancy.
Eve's Realistic Newborns
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There are also those of us who've had our children and are decidedly not having anymore. I just had my second baby and now have two kids under the age of two to put through daycare and college. I don't know that I'd have the time or the resources to have yet another child. Yet every time I hear about a baby being born I think how nice it would be to cradle another little new bundle of joy, perhaps one that won't spit up on my last clean shirt. Really, though, I consider myself blessed to have children--but what about women who are unable to have children and don't want to or cannot adopt?
Linda, a 49-year-old reborn baby owner, told ABC's 20/20 that she loves her reborn doll because "It feels like I have a real baby." Linda buys baby clothes for her reborn, swaddles it, takes it with her wherever she goes. "I take them out to the park, if I'm walking the dog, and maybe put it in its stroller, or put it in its sling, or hold it in a blanket, and people do think it's real." No one knows the difference and she gets treated like a mommy. Which is probably to say that people are nice to her and give her positive attention. Florida artist Eve Newsom, who creates reborn babies, said that the dolls filled that empty place in her heart created by numerous miscarriages and the financial inability to consider adoption. "My reborns bring me a medium of joy and happiness." Is there any crime in that?
I live in New York City. Literally, not a day goes by when I don't read, see or hear about a child who was injured or killed by abusive parents or caregivers. Those are the people that need our energy and attention -- not these gals who happen to have a fake baby. You want to go after someone who has a weird attitude about kids -- take on those who are inflicting violence on their children. And to those who would look down at a woman who has a fake baby, I would ask them how it feels to have a miscarriage or be told they'll never be able to have a child of their own, to be told they don't have enough money to adopt, to suffer from empty-nest syndrome or find they are at a point in their lives where children or more children simply aren't in the cards. Those things hurt. A real baby these reborns are not, but, like real babies, they bring with them much joy and love. And how can that possibly be a bad thing?