Facebook - Does it Make You a Bad Mom?

I chose your comment to add to because I needed a jumping off point. I'm the mom of 3 girls ages 22, 18, and 11. For a lot of years I was a stay at home mom. And for many years I've been a work outside the house mom. I say if you want to cozy up with your laptop, a book, or a tv program for an hour a day....two hours a day your children will be fine. IF you want to do this. If you don't want to do this and you don't need to do this your kids will be fine. I truly believe that we have no idea what's going to send our children screaming to therapy. But I think most of the time it won't be what we suspect. LOL Kids grow up in spite of us. There are so many things that make up a good mom. And one or two little things or even medium sized things aren't going to make us a bad mom. Just enjoy your kids, enjoy yourself...do what you need to do and want to do for yourself. Just be happy and remember........most things just aren't THAT important.

That about Soap Opera's??? Aren't they just as bad. NO one says anything when the dad is watching TV or on the comp when dealing with kids. Why?? Mom's are expected to be machines with no need of adult contact?? I have heard that mom's need to be in view of the kids at all times. Do those people ever use a bathroom? But if you take the kids in there it's sexual abuse, if you don't it's neglect?????

Funny....I find this amazing because I am the birth mom of a 20 yr old, an 18 yr old & a 10 yr old. I'm also the stepmom of a 23 yr old, that is married with a toddler that just turned 2, a 19 yr old, & a 16 yr old. I love all my kids to death, & I'd die for each & every one of them, plus my husband. But good Lord, doesn't anyone think that we are actually human & need time private time to ourselves??? As far as I'm concerned, everyone needs time for themselves....otherwise they'd go insane, (trust me, I've been there for awhile). I can't even take a shower, much less a crap, without someone either walking in on me, or someone knocking on the bathroom door needing something from me. & I'm not even a stay at home mom, the drive to work & home...a whole whopping 15 minutes (one way) is all the time I get to myself...& that's with cellphone calls telling me this or that,,,otherwise I am tripping over someone while cooking dinner, cleaning house, doing laundry, etc...someone, anyone, at all times demanding something from me. I feel like I'm going crazy because no one considers the fact that I might actuallly need some alone time...after all they get theirs...any time they want...but mom is supposed to be at the beck & call of anyone that needs her... All of you who think that moms are supposed to be a superwoman with answers to everything can kiss my ass. It's time for men to step up & take some responsibility for the kids, the household chores etc...Jesus Christ, we don't even get a break when we are sick...I guess we have to die to get some rest.

I am a mother of a 4 yr old, a 2 yr old and a 2 month old. I love my children more than I ever thought I could love another human being. I am a stay at home mom and it is extremely difficult to keep your sanity. When its nap time for the kiddies, I do other things. I call my mom, play video games or watch tv. Is that a crime? I mean seriously, if I was at a job away from home, I would be entitled to a lunch break. If thats neglect, then I am guilty. My kids get everything they need and a lot of what they want. A few hours spent for "me" time is not going to hinder their growth or development.

I am 60 years old with two grown children and seven grandchildren, with whom we have been involved since their births (ages 10 to 19). I was a "worker bee" all the years my children were growing up, but my daughter (and all her friends) think my husband and I were the "best parents in the whole world". My son, who had serious problems for about 10 years has now turned everything around and in the last three years is the epitome of success. All our grandchildren think "we're cool". I'm not saying this to brag; what I am saying is I gave serious thought to the possible harm I might be doing to my kids by working. I once asked a psychologist that same question and she said, "It's not the amount of time, it's the quality of the time spent with them". We did have quality time, not only with our kids, but their friends. We also made sure they were always safe, in a stable environment, had quality family time at dinner, and were brought up with moral values. We have treated our grandchildren as our own children, and they know we'll always be there for them, as well. Kids have to learn to give mom and dad some much needed space, that's how they learn to mold their own lives and find their niche in this world!

Your right i am a stay at ho,e mom witha two year old and a 9mnth old. Being an at home mom is not as easy as it seem people think all we do is play with kids and watch tv it take a lot of oatience especially o go from am adult to a child again because when ur a stay at home mother you turn back into a child you begin to talk like a two year old you have to watch what you say or even whats on tv your baby becames your best friend so much so where you NEED the attention of an adult so if face book or whatever is your only way of geting adult attention do it. when my husband gets home from work i follow him around the house talking about oprah. i bet he rather me get on the net then tell him about oprah and her best friend boyfriend issues

I was against facebook myself, and felt adults could use their time more wisely. However, I have since changed my mind. Since my teenagers have accepted me as friends, I can monitor their facebooks, and since my youngest has a lot of medical problems it is a way for me to help keep friends and family up to date on her condition. It also makes a great prayer chain. It has been wonderful catching up with people I haven't talked to in years as well.

Nothing is better than sitting around drinking all day- except maybe drinking all day while surfing the internet

Hmmm not sure why people use comments like "when it comes back to bite them in the a$$.." For responsible moms that choose to have social networking outlets, what exactly could bite them in the a$$? Catching up with old friends? Sharing photos with them (especially is you make yours private for only friends to see)? Saying quick hello's when you don't have time to make a call? Seriously...get over it. It's just one more way to keep in touch with loved ones and friends these days....when responsible Moms like us don't have time to go hang out in bars or other social scenes...I say YAY to Mom's that take some time out for themselves a few minutes or however long a day to catch up with old friends, brag about their kiddos and just feel like your own person again!!

(Spoken from experience of a Mom with 4 boys, her oldest being blind & multiply handicapped and her youngest being 2 1/2 months preemie...if a Mom can't make time for herself once in a while, then your children are being cheated of the best possible Mom that you can be to them!)

You shouldn't comment about things you don't understand. Facebook HAS privacy controls. The only people who can see my pictures and my words are people I decide to "friend". And I only friend people I know. More people are looking at YOUR words right now than see my facebook page.

MacDaddy, maybe in your experience people post moronic things, but I guess it depends who your friends are!! If you don't have anything to hide, and you conduct yourself like an ADULT, you don't have to worry about "moronic" posts.

Lets see SCOOBE2 your posting something right now so isnt it kind of hypocritical of you to be saying that right now?? Just a thought!!! Think before you decide to speak!!!