Mother Admits She Doesn't Love Her Daughter

My mother still to this day chooses my sister and all that is her over me. Even my children are not as good as her child. My heart goes out to the little girl in the story, she will have alot of issues when she grows up and realizes what she went through.

I would like to help Catherine. If anyone is interested in helping me organize a charitable fund to help her personally, please email me at Imperialthh@aol.com. Let's all come together and do something about this.
I am a ballet teacher and have been working with children, starting at age three, for more than a decade. We must do something to help. I believe that we can.

Honestly? I am 45 and have never wanted kids. I tell people I am allergic to them. Sorry, but at least I KNOW what I feel. HOWEVER if I shoule have EVER been in the position of being a mother, for WHATEVER reason, that child is my flesh and blood! PERIOD! How could you not love something that came from you? (and most likely caused you pain at the time-so I hear). Do not judge me because I do not want kids, but those who have chosen to have them, need to LOVE them!!

My mother was the same way with my older sister. She never wanted her from the time she knew she was pregnant with her. The timing was horrible. She was in a bad marriage. She had had a boy first at age 15 and always thought maybe her parents would take her back with just him in tow. But after she got pregnant right away with my sister, she knew she was stuck with my father.

I came along five years after my sister and was then welcomed and wanted. I always got treated like a princess while my sister was definitely Cinderella, having hardly anything, doing way more chores than me, and always dealing with my mom's venom toward her. And never being told she was loved.

This "syndrome" if you will, does happen. And it doesn't get any better. My sister is now 50. And our mother's venom toward her has grown with resentments for everything wrong my sister ever did, or she thinks she did.

My sister knows that the closing of their relationship is at hand with our mother getting old. She knows it will never heal.

NO, I can't relate. Not even in the slightest! Why didn't you give her up for adoption? She is going to spend all her life looking to ANYONE for affection and probably find herself in some young prostitution ring before she's 14. She has been scared for life because you are a selfish and heartless bitch. You should have found her a home, any home! I want her! I'll adopt her. I have three children. All three have given me the stress and strains of every other parent/child relationship and there isn't ANYTHING they could do that would make me resent them or not like them. If you don't like her, at least care enough to give her something better than what you have to offer her, which is nothing! There are 1,000's of families out there willing to open their hearts and homes, without expectation to a child, myself included. If you can't, I will! She will find acceptance, love, kindness, affection, honesty and self respect with my family; something of which you have no understanding.

This woman shouldn't be able to be a mother. How dare she talk about how she loves one child and not the other. What kind of person is she. All kids drive us crazy sometimes but to say all the things that this woman has said is just not fare, her daughter deserves a mother who will love her not sit there and say how much she dosn't love her, there are so many people out there wanting a child to love someone like that should raise this girl not her so called mother.

I have to say I read this article on Saturday night and it stuck with me all day. Like a heavy weight on my chest. Now, I had some pretty severe postpartum depression after my kids were born. I didn't feel attached to my son for 5 or 6 months, and then fantasized about running away after my daughter was born for another six months. Roughly two years of misery. But I never had such a cold calculated sounding dislike for them. It never was about them, it was about me. I always cared for them, the person I didn't love at the time was myself...So you can see, I am a little more open to the possibility of mental issues after having a baby than your average person.

But I still can't get my head around this. A yr ago we got a phone call to adopt a baby. We had an hour's notice, and hour to make the decision. My husband and I met her when she was 8 hrs old, and loved her instantly. He didn't think it was possible, that he could love someone else's baby so whole heartedly but there you go. This article got me thinking of all of the children I love in the course of my day, kids that are related to me, kids in my own kids classes... and it made me want to cry for this 11 yr old girl who's own mother can't seem to see one redeeming quality in her. I also can't believe that no one in this woman's life has seen what is going on, and I am twice as offended that they let it continue.

It's not mentioned if the girl has any behavioral/developmental issues... I suppose that could be a contributing factor, but really I am just making excuses for her so I can try and understand why the mother would feel the need to torture her daughter on a day to day basis. I hope they do a follow up on this article.

Thank you!!!! Does no one else see that? Good comment.

YES, BY ALL MEANS, THIS CHILD NEEDS TO KNOW. THIS CHILD NEEDS TO KNOW THAT IT ISN'T HER FAULT, THAT THERE ISN'T ANYTHING WRONG WITH HER, THAT SHE IS A BEAUTIFUL, LOVABLE HUMAN BEING AND IT'S HER MOTHER WHO HAS A PROBLEM. SHE DOESN'T NEED TO GROW UP THINKING THAT IF HER MOTHER DOESN'T LOVE HER THAN NOBODY ELSE WILL. THEY BOTH NEED PROFESSIONAL HELP. THE MOTHER MAY NEVER LEARN TO LOVE HER DAUGHTER BUT CATHERINE CAN LEARN TO LOVE HERSELF.

It's unfortunate that this made it's way to the WWW.
Not a good legacy for her daughter to live with, but it does sound as though the woman is desperately crying out for some help because she knows something is amiss.

It's an erroneous assumption that mothers automatically love their children. It takes time to bond with a new human being that it totally reliant on you and makes constant demands on your time and energy as a new mom. And without a supportive partner, it can be much worse. At least this woman admits to the problem rather than attempting to make the problem "go away" like Susan Smith and so many other mothers who murder their children or worse. Hopefully this will be a step towards some sort of understanding of her problem and she'll get help to rectify it.

Is it fair to say that she's evil? I don't think so. Aberant, maybe, but not evil. Nor is she selfish. I don't see that there at all. Selfish is putting your needs and desires before your children or "getting rid of them" because they put a cramp in your lifestyle.

I guess what I find equally appalling is that this woman, after having a child that apparently for 9 years she felt no love for (which is NOT NORMAL), actively decided to give birth to another child. Did she not fear that she would feel the same for the second child...or did she DECIDE it would be DIFFERENT with the second child?

This just sickens me for so many reasons. I can not "relate" with this sick, selfcentered, piss poor of an excuse for a human. Her nightly mind game telling this poor little girl "I'm sorry for the way I've been with you" OMG!!! Children dont care if they are beat down by moms and dads.. they seek comfort, love and safety. For this woman to say "we all hate our children at one time or another" is just CRAZY! I am a mother of two natural born children and one adoptive child. I have NEVER had a day of hate for any of my children.
Why is DFYC not taking this little girl out of this ABUSIVE home? Someone needed to step in a long time ago, take this little precious angel and give her the love she desearves a long time ago. Her mother needs to get SPADED!!!
If this woman was to read this message I would only tell her that it takes far more to be a mother. Just because you spread your legs and are able to create a beautiful gift FROM GOD does not make you a mother. I fell in love with my youngest child at the moment the social worker told us we were getting a new baby.. I had NEVER seen him and he didn't even have a name. I would take Catherine in a heartbeat and give her the love her egg donor was unable to!

Ok, so if this woman didn't feel bad enough, she should feel totally lousy now. What a whipping post she has become. I had a difficult delivery with my son, which seemed to spark a six year battle with massive migraines. I didn't like him much when he was first born, and with my migraines, it made it very hard to truly bond with him.I didn't feel well, I was given all kinds of drugs, since this was twenty five years ago, which had their own adverse side affects. Thank goodness his dad was sympathetic and would take him out of the house during a migraine attack so I could just be quiet and try to get rid of it. He was very trying, every bit of mischief a three year old could get into he did it twice as often. And all hell broke lose when he turned thirteen. I can relate to this woman. I feel bad for her, she obviously doesn't like feeling this way towards her daughter or she would never would have asked for a Doctor's advise. I hope she can get the help she needs to learn to love her daughter. It took me till my son grew up and left home for me to truly love and appreciate him.

You are a stupid, ignorant, witch! Bring that child to my home and I will give her all the love and support she will need, just like I do for my children. I got pregnant when I was 19 years old and I never thought I wanted children, but my god when I looked in my daughters eyes, that was it...i was in love forever. You dont deserve any children. Do you know how many people want children and cant have them and would do anything to raise one? No one feels like you...you are alone on this one...so alone

I will Pray for You! You definitely need it!!!!!
You know 1 in 42 Children come up missing before the Age of 19. You need to appreciate the time that we have with them. That's 1 Ingredient in Happiness. The Rest is made up by what you put into it.

Well I'm glad I got that off my chest. Think Amber Alert!!!

The woman doesn't deserve to be called a mother. I hope Catherine is a strong litte girl and has other people in her life who do love her.

Well, I am ashamed now to admit it but something similar occured with me and my now 16 year old daughter. When I was 5 months pregnant with her, I was told that I had cervical cancer. Any medical intervention would endanger my pregnancy. I wanted and loved my baby so I decided to wait for her to be born. At six months, my low life husband had a drinking binge with a buddy and tried to rape a woman. I seperated from him right away.As soon as the law allowed, I divorced him and he was never a part of our lives. The day before my daughter was born, he got a 10 year prison sentence. The next day I went in to labor 3 weeks early. Had to have an emergency C-Section, my baby and I almost died but she came out healthy thank God. When she came home, I was exhausted physically and mentally. I was sick and had to go back in the hospital within weeks for cancer treatment. I tried my best to bond with her but it just did not happen. I could not soothe her when she cried no matter what I did. I lived with my parents and they just gently stepped in and took over and I allowed it. I was 19 at the time. I am 36 now and have 2 other daughters whom I have a very loving relationship with. I did want or choose this. I don't know what happened to me psychologically. My daughter still lives with her grandparents. I have explained to her everything as best I can. She resents me, I don't blame her. When I tell her I love her, I mean it but I just don't feel like her real mom. It's a terrible feeling to live with. I am not a horrible, evil person. I have been a christian all of my life. I had hardships and traumas and always trusted the Lord to be by my side and He was and still is. I hope and pray this will give a better understanding of things like this.

This child needs to be given to someone that will love and adore her! This story had me in tears. I had my son Owen, now 2, when I was 18. I'm only twenty years old and I could never even imagine not loving my child whole-heartedly. He is my life! There needs to be something done about this situation. That mother has ruined that little girls life. I would gladly take her if I could. Some people in this world, TERRIBLE!!

Sadly.... I can relate

That is SO COOL!