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Sometimes, loving your children means disciplining them. In today's world, one of the most effective ways to punish a teenager is to take away their cell phone. The only problem is, teens generally don't like that. They might actually learn their lesson, but they might also respond a bit more negatively.
Such was the case in Delaware where a couple took away their sixteen-year-old daughter's cell phone.
Instead of accepting her punishment or even just throwing a tantrum, she headed for the kitchen and grabbed a pair of large knives. She then set after her parents, who were forced to lock themselves in their bedroom to get away from her.
The parents called the police while she started in on the bedroom door with the cutlery. According to Delaware State Police Cpl. Bruce Harris, it took officers ten minutes to convince the girl to put down the knives. So why did she get her phone taken away in the first place? Her father suspected the girl of stealing money from her mother's purse with which to purchase more airtime.
I've dealt with people who have pulled knives on me and other family members and can say you have to be pretty darn messed up to do that. I hope this girl gets both the discipline and the help she needs. And that her cell phone is taken away for good.
Such was the case in Delaware where a couple took away their sixteen-year-old daughter's cell phone.
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Instead of accepting her punishment or even just throwing a tantrum, she headed for the kitchen and grabbed a pair of large knives. She then set after her parents, who were forced to lock themselves in their bedroom to get away from her.
The parents called the police while she started in on the bedroom door with the cutlery. According to Delaware State Police Cpl. Bruce Harris, it took officers ten minutes to convince the girl to put down the knives. So why did she get her phone taken away in the first place? Her father suspected the girl of stealing money from her mother's purse with which to purchase more airtime.
I've dealt with people who have pulled knives on me and other family members and can say you have to be pretty darn messed up to do that. I hope this girl gets both the discipline and the help she needs. And that her cell phone is taken away for good.
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1-28-2009 @ 3:54PM
Ms.Clark said...This is an example of our children not knowing their place in the fanmily. And even if she had bought it with her own" earned" money,the rules should have been in place prior to ownership. As a former teacher,in public,state correctional and juvenile residential facilities,I have had to discipline students for using in class and they knew it was(phone) against the rules.,We as parents have to be more stern and discipline with "tough love". Yes ,this child needs some intervention, beyond the home, until she can understand what her role as a member of the family is and the roles of the parents.
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1-30-2009 @ 9:25PM
kru said...For someone who has as much experience teaching as you say you do, you would think that you would read over your comment and make sure all your words are spelled correctly. Obviously the child has issues, but maybe some words of encouragement to get better instead of the whole "her place in the family" - what is that? There is no way saying that comment to ANYONE in a family is going to help things.
1-28-2009 @ 5:33PM
Melissa said...Maybe the mom with kid who threw the bear out the window should read this article, just to see what it's in store if she doesn't start setting some boundaries!
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1-29-2009 @ 4:02PM
L C Bock said...OMG! The spoiled little brat! I hope her parents lock her away in military school where phones are not permitted.I always think that unless you are over the age of 21, your parents should not buy you a cell phone. I told my son that if he needed to talk to someone so bad and the house phone was busy, I would give him a quarter but not my cell phone to use. That yound lady should be under lock and key away from her parents. I hope they are alright!
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1-29-2009 @ 7:49AM
poet1111 said...This is what happens in a country where parents are too lazy or too afraid of possible repercussions to spank their children. Discipline and ruling the roost has to start and be consistent from the time their little, by 16 it's too late, and only a matter of time until the police are bringing them home at night or you're picking them up at the police station. You know all those bratty kids who are allowed to run through restaurants, play with things in stores, scream and act like animals in public? Those are the kids of the next parents who are going to be chased with knives. That girl needs a good old fashioned walk to the woodshed. Daily.
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1-31-2009 @ 1:01AM
Linda said...I agree 100% and put spanking back in the schools
1-30-2009 @ 8:47PM
susan said...These parents got what they deserved. They raised a spoiled brat with an overblown sense of entitlement. A child does not chase their parents around brandishing knives out of the blue. I suspect there were other incidents, increasing in severity, before this particular incident. They dropped the ball a long time ago, and they have no one to blame but themselves. This is what happens when a parent takes the path of least resistance and gives into every want and whim for their own convenience.
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2-01-2009 @ 9:21PM
vickyabeals said...no doubt they are reaping what they have sown, poor parenting, perhaps influenced by a greedy world that promotes the notion that if you don't have this and you don't have that, you are a failure...but to say they got what they deserved? May you never get what you deserve.
1-30-2009 @ 8:58PM
Jacqueline said...The Big Problem with children today is, they are raise not to respect adults not even their parents or teachers. When our children went to school they were told if you get in trouble in school
you will be in bigger trouble when you get home.
Before they started school they were taught that you do not speak back to adults if they had a problem they were to come to us.
I am talking about adults the knew, not strangers they were taught not to talk to strangers. When they were being punished for something they did wrong We alway followed though with the punishment. So by the time they were teenagers they knew what was right or Wrong and that for every action there is a reaction.
You have to teach children respect when they are small it is to late when they get to be teenagers.
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1-31-2009 @ 4:06AM
Bonnie said...I have a friend who has a nephew raised by 2 women, he is the MOST considerate&loving young man.
1-30-2009 @ 9:19PM
kru said...You warren, are an idiot!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Your babbling makes no sense and the problem with the world today is people like YOU. I know plently of people that are liberal and/ or gay that are incredible parents. And by the way, there are plenty of good girls out there, and my daughter is one of them. How do you sleep at night? How do you catergorize everyone because of what one girl did. Oh, I know because you are a racist bastard. I hope you get the help you need!
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1-30-2009 @ 9:24PM
Ericka said...To this garrison character, you obviously have some deep seated issues with whom you perceive to be liberals. This has nothing to do with such labeling as I have seen just as many with conservative ideologies raising spoiled and over indulged kids who grow up with a sense of entitlement. As a teacher, the problem I see are parents who are resentful of the way they were raised and promise themselves they would never be so hard on their own kids. Then they are lazy too boot so instead of actually spending time with their kids they buy them everything they need to keep the kids occupied and out of their hair. I just had parent teacher conferences and was very open and honest to some parents about their child's dismal performance in school. Those same students came to school the next day in a great mood, indicative to me that they suffered no consequences for getting poor grades. And they also have on all of the latest fashion. It is quite disturbing. I'm a parent and while it's easy for me to point the finger, I just hope I am nothing like that with my own kids.
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2-27-2009 @ 3:38AM
Sandy said...I have read the initial article and all the following comments to it up to Ericka's. I agree with all of you who are reacting to Warren Garrison. Warren, I am not sure what has happened in your life, you childhood or your home that has made you so judgemental and hateful. Children from every race, religion, family size or individual choices adults make as to what and/or who is consideed family. I have raised 6 kids. We had problems naturally - every family does. Anyone who claims to have "perfect" children are not living in reality. No one is perfect. Yes it is true that our society has gotten to a point where we have so many teenagers & young adults who have children of their own long before they are ready and they are struggling to deal with being an "adult". Should you blame the parent's of those teenage parents. Sure you can. But realistically we all know that if a teenager wants to have sex they will find a way. You can talk to your kids till you are blue in the face about safe sex, abstinence, etc. but in the end you can only hope they really listenend. I had a lot of interaction with teachers and other school employees over the years having a big family. Plus I volunteered for ten years as a leader of two different scout troops. There were so many parents that made it very difficult as an adult leader for these girls when there would be an issue (language, inappropriate talk, valndalism, etc) and the parents would pretty much shrug their shoulders, gave a "kids will be kids" attitude and head home exhausted from working. Are there parents out there who need to be firmer with their children? Sure. Are their families ou there who have done everything "right" - given appropriate choices and consequences - that have kids coming at them with knives, etc. Warren - It happens across the board and for you to try and label or blame certain groups is wrong and very disrespectful. You should be ashamed of yourself. Your reaction is part of the problem and not part of the solution. I sincerely hope that you do not have children.
1-30-2009 @ 9:46PM
kathy said...Unfortunately, I have witnessed such uncontrolled outbursts from children/young adults who have a Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder. I would hope that before punishment is administered or theraphy prescribed, it be determined if mom consumed alcohol while pregnant. If so, serious brain damage could have been the result and this young woman will require an intervention and help which is specific to FASD.
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2-01-2009 @ 7:24PM
Lori said...I agree with you Kathy. The story doesn't mention whether this girl has had a violent history. Sometimes other issues contribute to this sort of violent behavior and has nothing to do with how the child is being raised. I have a 16 year old daughter who is diagnosed with bi-polar disorder and she has had a violent history since she was 3 years old. She has pulled knives on me as well and threatened her siblings. She has attempted to jump from vehicles in motion and tried to cause accidents when she is angry in a vehicle by grabbing steering wheels, fuses and gear shifters or keys. Stating the whole time that she didn't care if both of us ended up dead. When she is not cycling in her disease she is the most concientious and well behaved girl you could ever wish for. Very polite and abides rules.
I believe this girl needs a psychiatric evaluation before dismissing her as being an unruly teen.
I have 2 other teen daughters who do not do these things and respect all adults. It is not always the way parents are raising their kids that contributes to this behavior.
My husband and I have been told by several individuals in the human service field that we would make great foster parents.
2-01-2009 @ 10:57PM
Donna said...Kathy are you serious. It is all too easy to blame something for a child's bad behavior. Perhaps we should blame the child. I have a 21 year old. I have raised him to respect God, parents, people of authority, along with his peers. There are times when I am afraid of his reaction to some of my discipline. I did not drink while pregnant, nor did I smoke. I took great care of myself. I was 40 when he was born. I suppose you're going to blame me for being that old. WE do our best as parents, but what our kids see in school and on TV can color their perspective. I never backed down with the discipline, but I worried about his reaction based on what he had told me about others.
1-30-2009 @ 10:04PM
Buykh2ordie said...Lesson: Don't take a teenager's phone away over a SUSPICION. You might just get stabbed.
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1-30-2009 @ 9:58PM
Dee said...I'm a black female and God would had to have mercy on my soul if I had ever pick up a weapon or even thought about disrespecting my parents, grand parent or any other adult. The problem started when the LAW started telling parent how to raise their children. I have 7 boys and I wish that one of them pick up a knife or any other weapon or even talked to loud to me in my house. They would be the next major headline in the news.
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1-30-2009 @ 10:14PM
Rosa said...This kid should have had TIME OUT at age 2, she wouldn't be this bad now! Parents give in too easily these days, kids take advantage of it.
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1-30-2009 @ 10:16PM
Dee said...That is why you teach your children to repect (everybody and everything) when they are young and when they grow up it will not leave them. Then you won't have this kind of news on the internet. I taught my son's when they were very young and now they thay are all grown and moved out they are still respectful adults.
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