Hot on HuffPost Parents:
North Dakota Yoga Teacher Marries Herself
Erin Mantz: I Want to Talk to My Kids About Etan Patz -- But I Don't…
Moms Get "Mad at Dad" Once a Week, Survey Finds
Filed under: Relationships
"I don't need a husband," a single friend often complains. "What I need is a wife."If men are from Mars and women from Venus, the difference is never more noticeable than when there are young children in the house.
In fact, an astonishing 46% of women report being angry with their husband at least once a week. That number goes up among moms with tots under the age of one.
Why are moms so "mad at dad"? Parenting's national survey of 1,000 mothers on MomConnection is revealing. Take a look:
- 44% of women feel angry when dads don't help around the house (and they also don't like having to ask)
- 40% of moms wish dads would take care of the kids like they take care of the kids
- 40% of moms wish their husbands could multi-task
- 31% think their husbands don't help out with chores, and they generate more work for moms
- 33% of women wish their marriage felt more like a partnership
- 50% of women feel like their husbands get more time off
But I think the biggest reason moms get angry is because of this last statistic: One third of moms feel that they're lives have been turned up on end by parenthood, and they think dads are getting a free pass. "We're the walking, talking encyclopedias of family life, while dads tend to be more like brochures," says Parenting columnist Martha Brockenbrough.
"Men and women really are different," said my close friend who is also a counselor. "It's a fact of life that women pay more attention to the details of their lives than men do."
The answer is communication -- talking to friends when things get tough, but also talking to our spouses. Buried anger is just plain bad for your marriage.
This question is for the moms and dad out there: How often do you get angry at your spouse? Is it about the division of labor in your house, or something else? Share your stories with us.
Your<span>Voice</span>
Ask Us Anything About Parenting
TheTalkies:RelatedVideos
-
The Difference in Stress Between Moms and Dads
DadLabs is back with all new episodes of The Lounge, the series where dads and moms answer some of the most important questions in parenting. This week we ask these parents: Are Dads as stressed as Moms?
-
Splitting Parenting Duties
The moms/authors of 'Babyproofing' Your Marriage invade the Lounge to teach the DadLabs guys a thing or two about co-parenting. Biff! Take that Daddy Clay. Pow! Take that Daddy Brad. It's a 50/50 Parenting mom vs. dad cage match.
-
How Parenting Magazines Can Help You
There are many parenting magazines out there, and these can sometimes be scary for dads. At DadLabs, we think men shouldn't be afraid and should seek out these publications for their great articles and useful advice.
-
Tito Ortiz and Jenna Jameson 'Jenito' On Being Parents
Hollyscoop's Diana Madison caught up with Tito Ortiz and Jenna Jameson on having twins, being parents and life after kids.
SitesWeLove
- Site Map
- |
- Staff
- |
- Terms of Service
- |
- Privacy Policy
- |
- Trademarks
- |
- Advertise With Us
- |
- About Our Ads
- |
- AOL Downloads
- |
- Contact Us
- |
© Copyright 2012 AOL Inc. All Rights Reserved.
Aol Family
ReaderComments (Page 1 of 1)
2-02-2009 @ 12:02PM
isisaquaria said...I am the minority--but the answer is never. We have never argued over anything in 21 yrs of being together and almost 17 yrs of marriage...
It seems unbalanced when he has to answer to Uncle Sam, but he makes up for it every day he is home with us--and by doing what he can daily to make my life better, and I for his--no gripes here.
I married my hero, he made me a queen. Our three princesses and our prince deserve a respectful and calm parental unit.
Begin bashing now....
Reply
2-27-2009 @ 2:29PM
Amanda said...I have a comment not a bashing moment. lol I do tend to do all the housework and the cooking and the laundry and all that but my husband does almost all the baby stuff. The changings the feeding the nap time and even bath and bed time. I do take over and help out alot by getting him things and taking her out of the bath drying her and getting her in jamies and alot when we are out it is equal but I happen to love to clean and cook and do laundry so I take over that and go to school online and he works and takes care of our wonderful daughter she is 9 months old and her name is sophia rain. Hope this puts hope out there for all you dads and moms.
Reply
3-26-2009 @ 9:12AM
Rhonda said...My husband and I are in this rut right now. I think a lot of the anger I feel comes from us not having enough quality time as a couple. If we don't have that time I don't feel as connected and feel somewhat alone in the day to day care of our three young children and our home. If we do have time for ourselves I am so much more calm and satisfied. For the record, when we had just one child there was so much less strain on us. Now we have no time for ourselves. We know we need to work on that but right now the kids require so much care and I'm just not willing to trust my kids with others.
Reply