Mommy's Makeover Scares Toddler

That haircut would make me cry too! My toddles loves it when I get glammed up.

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I've been having highlights added onto my medium redish brown hair for many years. A couple of years ago I went for very blond on the topmost layers & dark red with an almost burgandy tint on the under layers. My then 7 year old looked and said "I hope some of that redness rinses out a little so you won't be embarrassed at school."
Both girls (now 11 & 9) gave me a "look" after returning from the salon with much more elaborate make-up than usual for my wedding in Oct. 07.

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I know what you mean. The younger kids definitely notice more than the older ones (and might panic when they can't express that something isn't quite right). The made-over Mom might have also smelled different because the lotions and hairspray, so that could be part of the reaction as well.

I have had so many hairstyles over the years, I was thinking I should create my own coffee-table book that I could loan to the salon lobby. :) Maybe I'll start a collaborative book at Remarkable Tributes (www.RemarkableTributes.com) and have friends submit their photos and comments and ratings. On second thought, that just might be too scary!

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i can relate to her. I don't usually wear make up anymore or fix my hair other then a ponytail and when i do, my little 18month old doesn't want anything to do with me.

They do the same with my husband when he shaves...

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Naturally curly hair + hair stylist who wanted to play with straightening + very sensitive 6-year-old child = instant tears and a promise from mom to never straighten my hair again. (Good thing it only lasted until the next shower.)

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Great parenting! How about teaching the overly sensitive 6 year old that hair is just hair, and whether mommy's hair is straight, curly, long, short, red, black, purple or green mommy is still mommy?
Letting the six year old make the rules is just asking for trouble.

I have a friend who's seven year old child was afraid of death after their dog passed away. "i don't ever want to die, mommy".
She had a great idea. Tell him he doesn't have to die if he doesn't want to. Promised him that it worked like that.
( her idea being that in a few years he would be old enough to accept the concept of death, but for now, why worry him or upset him unnecessarily).
Sounds great right? Well his beloved grandpa died shortly after and the kid couldn't understand why Grandpa wanted to die. Worse still that same year the Mom was diagnosed with breast cancer and very nearly died, all the while her child reminding her she didn't have to die "if she didn't want to".

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Ahh, I see now that it was the six year old child's hair that was straightened. Sorry.
From the thrust of the article I thought that you were relaying another tale where the mother's change of hairstyle caused a child to become upset.
A child should have some say in their own haircut, though of course that mostly happens trial by error.
When my sister cut her three year old son's little ringlet curls off, He cried for a week every time he looked in the mirror. Poor little guy.
Worse still, they didn't grow back.
But lesson learned, hair is hair and it doesn't change the person.
Glad your mishap cleared itself up.
I am curious, When you were older did you experiment with straightening your hair?
My little girl had tight curly hair as a baby, and as she got older, the curls relaxed but her hair was still more curly than just wavy. I loved it and always have. She hated it and always wanted to straighten it. ( from about 5th grade) She wants to be like the other girls in her class with straight hair. Did you have the same experience in middle/high school?

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This is for "Rebecca Biernesser". You don't fix yourself up because it upsets your 18-MONTH-OLD? Who's the parent here? And after years of pulling your hair back in a ponytail, wearing no makeup, will you be ready for the constant comments about how tired you look? (Not to mention going bald; my 39-year-old sister usually pulls her hair back in a ponytail because it's the easiest "style" for dealing with the demands of a full-time job [teaching] and raising a child. As a result, her hairline is already receding in front.) But if you're OK with how you look, who am I to judge?

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ITS NICE TO CHANGE YOU HAIR COLOR OR A MAKEOVER EVERY NOW AND THEN BUT TO HAVE YOUR FAMILY NOT NOTICE YOUR MAKEOVER EVERY SINGLE TIME IFTHEY DIDNT NOTICE HER HAIR COLOR CHANGE THAT SHOWS THEY DONT EVEN NOTICE HER AT ALL IF THEY DID THEY LOOK AT HER HAIR SAY THEY LIKE IT THEN THEY NOTICE HER EVERYTIME SHE IN THE ROOM WITH HER OWN FAMILY. AS FOR HER 10 MONTH OLD HE WASNT SCARED HE WAS CRYING MEANING UPSET HE DIDNT RECOGNIZE HIS OWN MOM THE WORD SCARED MEAN FRIGHTEN SCREAM YOU DONT CRY WHEN YOUR SCARED YOU GET FRIGHTEN SPOOK BUT YOU DO NOT CRY SOMETIMES A NEW HAIR COLOR WHOLE NEW MAKEOVER FROM HEAD TO TOE MAKES YOU FEEL SO DIFFERENT THEN WHAT YOU WERE BEFORE. ITS OK TO TRY SOMETHING OUT ONCE IN AWHILE IF IT DOESNT WORK OUT KEEP TRYING NEW THINGS OUT SEE WHAT WORKS FOR YOU I CHANGE MY HAIR COLOR 1 TO 3 TIMES A YEAR IVE GONE FROM BLEACH BLONDE HONEY CARAMEL BLONDE TO LIGHT/GOLDEN BRUNETTE TO A CHOCOLATE TO SOFT BLACK NOW IM A COPPER WITH BLONDE HIGHLIGHTS(SIMILAR TO A STRAWBERRY BLONDE) EACH OF THESE COLORS MADE MY FACE MY EYES LOOK DIFFERENT THE ONE THAT STOOD OUT THE MOST MADE MY WHOLE FACE L;OOK WAY SSOOO DIFF WAY THE BLONDE.

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