A Surprising Upside in a Down Economy - Family Togetherness
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Most families I know have been affected by the recession. Some moms have shifted from part-time to full-time work. Others have returned to the workforce for the first time in years. Even in homes where jobs are intact, folks are cutting back on luxuries and extras -- like cleaning-service visits.
Times like these call for family teamwork as never before. Requiring kids to help with housework is a good thing to do anyway. You're teaching them responsibility, which is a lot like the measles -- if you don't catch it 'til you're an adult, it's a lot worse.There's an economic upside, too. While your kids are learning to help around the house, you can cut spending and teach them the value of money at the same time. Here's what I mean.
When children lose essential items, you have to replace them -- right? -- and that costs money. If they store things in designated places, you'll have to buy fewer replacements. Try some of these ideas.
Designate a plastic bin for orphan socks and gloves so everyone will know where to look for missing mates. Hang a see-through shoe organizer in a handy place and label the pockets so kids know where to put small parts items, such as hair accessories, game pieces, guitar picks and shoestrings, when they find them.
Put a plastic bin near a door to collect sports gear. After games or practice, have kids deposit knee pads, cleats and batting gloves inside so they always know where to find them.
Create clutter-free zones in your home. Belongings left in these designated areas go to "Clutter Jail" -- and there's a fee to get them out. This plan works best when mom and dad play, too. Let kids collect the fine when you leave things out.
Assign family members certain areas to clean. Define what "clean" looks like and set deadlines. For example, you might tell a child to clean his room by noon Saturday. Make it easier by providing a clean plastic dustpan to use as a toy scoop for multi-piece toys. Put a small laundry basket in your child's closet for tossing dirty clothes until it's time to tote them to the laundry area. Encourage compliance with a "Swine Fine" for those who don't cooperate.
Create opportunities to use less water, electricity and gas. Put kids who are old enough in charge of washing their own towels and sheets. This way they'll think twice about using a new towel every time they take a shower or climbing into bed with sandy feet. Plus, fewer loads mean less energy consumption. (Install child-level hooks or towel bars in the bathroom for easier hanging.)
Even a toddler can join your clean team. Put a sock on her hand and show her how to wipe off baseboards. Obviously, this will help you little, but your child will learn from an early age that everyone contributes to your home's upkeep. What's that? You say, My kids simply won't cooperate when I assign chores.
Whoa! Never take no answer for an answer. And by all means don't do the job yourself.
If your kids watch TV, play video or electronic games...if they spend personal time on the computer...hear this and relay the message to your kids: Activities such as these are not God-given rights. They're privileges. And with privilege comes responsibility.
When you help your kids connect those two big dots, you prepare them for the big, real world: No work, no paycheck. Your kids need to know that. (Download a Kids' Chore Chart)
Do your children have designated chores? How do you encourage them to pitch in and care for their belongings?
Kathy Peel is the winner of the 2009 Mom's Choice Award for The Busy Mom's Guide to a Happy, Organized Home
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2-18-2009 @ 10:10PM
Mary Sullivan said...I love your ideas and want to implement a bunch of them. Organization is not our strong suit, but I know it would help our family if we could conquer at least some of the clutter in our little house.
A few years ago we started a very simple chore wheel for our kids, who are now 11, 10, and 10. It's just a paper plate with a cardboard circle in the middle, affixed to the plate with a metal clasp I stole from an envelope. The kids' names are in the center circle, with chores written on the larger. Every Sunday the middle circle gets rotated, so the kids take turns doing different jobs. We haven't worked up to serious cleaning duties yet, but they do basic stuff like unload the dishwasher, sort and fold laundry, haul recyclables, etc. I did heavier-duty jobs at their age, but then I had a lot less homework than they do.
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2-18-2009 @ 10:16PM
Kathy Peel said...Mary, your chore wheel is a great idea. And, you're right. Kids have more homework nowadays. You're smart to not overload them with chores. But they're learning that everyone who lives at home contributes to its upkeep, and they're doing things that really do help. This is good for them and you, too. I'll write soon about things they can do if they only have 5 or 10 minutes. Keep up the good work. You're a great mom and Family Manager. --Kathy
2-19-2009 @ 8:12AM
Tracey Guidinger said...I too like your idea of the wheel. Recycling the metal clasp from an envelope is great. You do realize that you taught your kids a lesson there too!
With seven children, we too have assigned chores. Someone does the dishwasher, another the trash, floors, and upstairs bathroom. (Those are done by the older four ages 16-22) Now they are beginning to teach the little people (ages 4-7) how to set the table, clean up, sweep, load dishwasher, etc.) I tell them they are getting 'parents training'.
We used to assign the chores and rotate every week, but found that by having the kids(especially in the learning stages) do the chores for 2 weeks or a month they learned to become 'experts' in their 'field'! Now they prefer to do the same chore all the time. Occasionally they will trade jobs on their own. We are fine with it as long as it gets done.
The older children also do their own laundry every week. We keep a colored chart in the laundry closet. This way if they really need something washed they can check with the person whose day it is to get their item cleaned.
Kathy's article is a good reminder to me to include the 'swine fine' and 'clutter jail' into our routine. We don't often have a problem, but when we do it isn't pretty! So next "family meeting" one topic will be about this very thing. It is always interesting to get the kids perspective about family life.
2-19-2009 @ 10:06AM
Mary Sullivan said...Kathy--Thanks so much for the vote of confidence :) Would love to get your ideas for when kids there's only 5-10 mins. available. Our PTO/community is doing some exploration right now on how kids use their nonschool time, and a "quick chore" list could be a great resource for us.
Tracey--Wow, there's always so much to learn from large families. Do you have the older kids/young adults doing their laundry individually, or taking turns doing each other's laundry? Just curious about how that works. I can see pros and cons to either system ;) Can also see how having more time to learn and "specialize" in certain jobs might help the little ones. And it's nice that they get the choice to trade with each other, or not. I think with my guys, we'd likely get one always wanting to trade and another refusing....but that's a separate issue, lol.
2-19-2009 @ 11:10AM
Kathy Peel said...Tracey, you and Mary both should give yourselves a pat on the back. Your comments remind me that there are moms out there who wish they had started their kids doing chores early on, because now they resent being everyone's personal maid and their kids' lack of cooperation. I should write some time about how it's never too late for things to change and give moms a game plan for getting family members to do their fair share. Thanks for your comments. --Kathy
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2-19-2009 @ 9:03PM
Ramsey said...Kathy,
It was your books that confirmed for me that having the children learn how to help around the house from an early age is vital to not only my sanity, but their self esteem. When you catch them doing some clean up or pick up and compliment, you would think they reached the top of a mountain! As they get older, the "shiny-ness" wears off a little, but my daughter still shows off her clean and organized room to me.
2-19-2009 @ 9:34PM
Kathy Peel said...Thanks for writing, Ramsey. You're practicing an important parenting principle: praise and encouragement. No matter what our age or stage in life, we enjoy someone praising what we've done right instead of focusing on what we did wrong. If one of our sons did a household chore but he didn't do it thoroughly, if I said,"thank you for cleaning the kitchen ... let me show you how to get the sink clean so you'll know next time," that kind of response went a lot further than barking disappointment like, "You're not finished! The kitchen is not clean until the sink's clean!" There's a list of 25 things you should never say to a child and 25 things you can't say enough on the Family Manager web site: www.familymanager.com. (Sometimes it's hard to think of positive things to say, so the list comes in handy on those days!) Thanks again for weighing in on this topic. --Kathy
2-20-2009 @ 1:52PM
Cari Pemberton said...Not only will teaching kids to do work around the home improve their self-esteem, but Mom's mental health will certainly benefit!
I enrolled in college this January to finish my degree and am pleasantly surprised when Dad takes the lead in asking if he can help with dinner. The only time this used to occur was when BBQ was on the menu! I appreciate the example he is setting.
I agree wholeheartedly with the no work, no pay principle. We pay our daughters "commissions" instead of allowances. They can earn extra commissions for doing seasonal tasks. But, occasionally they lose some money buying an item out of Clutter Jail. More often, I assign them drudge work like cleaning baseboards when something needs redeeming from Clutter Jail.
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2-21-2009 @ 6:56PM
Kathy Peel said...Cari, love your idea about kids doing extra chores to spring their belongings from Clutter Jail. --Kathy