Should Brother and Sister Share a Bedroom?

i understand what u r saying, but if the brother is gonna "diddle" the sister he's going to do it whether they are sharing a room or not...
i dont see a problem with kids sharing a room. especially if the parents can not afford a bigger home (which is a very real problem these days). me and my sister shard a room forever. once they moved her out n my brother in, because she was older and wanted her own room. but we fought too much so he got moved back out and my parents moved downstairs and that was their room for a while. but go back a hundred year. two hundred years. whole families shared a room. its not sick or sexual. its doing what needs to be done.
and as far as kids sleeping in bed with their parents? theres definately a time when they get to be too big but whats the problem with a 3 or 5 yr old being scared and wanted the comfort of knowing mom and/or dad are there? some kids refuse to go to bed. my sister did that and the dr told my parents to make her fall off the bed so shes start to not like it and she eventually stopped. but if u arent willing to do that its either let them sleep with you or have the will power to let them cry it out a few nights.
and someone mentioned how things have changed and theres no innocence left in our world. sooo true. there are so many nudepics of us as babies and toddlers. whos running around with no pants or no diaper. my sister was a little nudist and ran around naked all the time. the cute bath tub pics. the pics of us sharing baths. there was nothing sick or wrong about it. it saves time and frustratioin for mom and its just a bath, that said t was only til we were maybe 1-2 and 3-4. one time my mom heard my brother scream.. he finally realized i didnt exactly look the same as him. and thought mine fell off. haha. but now u have a pic of your lil baby taking its first bath or a funny soap buble mohawk or something and you are being accused of sexually abusing your kids. i know its a very reall problem out there but the people who arent doing it shouldnt live in fear that a totally innocent picture took in a inocent moment that noone thought was any kind of sexual anything is going to get the kids taken away and you in jail...

Grow up....its parents who instill values in their children not geography...and the environment a child is raised in breeds abuse not proximity

I just guess it depends on the situation

speaking from personal experience, there seems to be a point in the pre-school years where there is a little curiousity about differences and no concept of the social stigma behind brothers and sisters seeing each other this way.
we were fortunate enough to have separate bedrooms for my oldest two at this age, but recently we have had some financial difficulties and had to go as far as all 5 of us (myself, my partner, my oldest son, my daughter, and my youngest son) all in a room with separate beds. the family members and friends that we have stayed with over the last few years shared my view that although it was crowded, it was better than my partner and my oldest son inaccessible down a seperate hall in a shelter!
we are blessed to have found a two-bedroom apartment this past fall, and a set of bunk beds and a toddler bed provide the children each with their own sleeping space, the mornings and bedtime routines are a bit of a chore as noone dresses in the kids room.
my partner and i get up and dressed then go wake up the children, one of the oldest heads for the bathroom, the other for our room.... leaving the children's bedroom for our 3 year old who still has no self-conciousness when dressing and usually wanders into the living room.
not since my oldest were pre-schoolers have i encountered any instances of inapropriate viewing or touching between siblings, and we just don't do sleep-overs in these crowded conditions.
Lucky us! we will be closing on a house of our own in the very near future. Our girl will have a room of her own and the boys, despite an 8 year difference in ages will still be sharing. but we do have an extra room in the basement as well as a large garage, we're hoping to carve out some personal space for my son in one of these spots... his sister has even volunteered to let him keep some of his things in her room that he doesn't want accessible to his little brother!
The state has been through my home on more than one occasion and found my children all to be sharing a room. There may be rules about this in other states, but fortunately Michigan recognizes that a crowded home is better than a shelter, and their only requirement is that each child have a separate bed available... they have even given a nod in the direction of those choosing to employ the family bed, as the children are not required to use their separate beds.

Your right..CPS would stop it and in some states it is illegal to rent to parents who will place opposing genders in one room. I have three rental house with my dad, and we do not allow such. We also do not rent to someone who will place children more than five yrs apart-same gender in the same room.

IMO-no child should share a room everyone deserves a space all their own--it all goes back to not having the foresight to have the money to care for the kids BEFORE they are in need.

isisaquaria- judgemental much? My dad was in the Army for 22 years, for 17 of those years he had 3 kids- 1 boy and 2 girls. As a high ranking officer the biggest on post housing he was considered for was a 4 bedroom. That does NOT mean that that is what was always available and when there was no housing the temporary housing (which at one post lasted almost 6 months) was a 2 bedroom, meaning we three kids shared a room and at that time we were in junior high and high school. Usually we had a 3 bedroom and my sister and I shared a room, it taught us the art of compromise. My siblings and I are all really close to this day and none of us resent ever having to share a room.

At this time my husband, 6 month old daughter and I are all moving home to live with my parents. We are losing our house because my husband broke his back and his business has slowed considerably (elite level personal trainer in Hollywood) due to the recession. My daughter will share a room with her 9 month old cousin (my sister lives at home with her daughter.) My parent's house is 4,500+ sq ft and every bedroom will be put to use. Are we bad parent's because we didn't plan on my husband breaking his back? For not planning on our house losing over $100,000.00 in one year taking ALL of our equity with it? For not planning on this craptastic recession we are in?

I think that we need to not judge a family who is doing what it takes to keep their family together. One of the biggest travesties of the Great Depression was the families which were torn apart. Parents who asked for help had their children taken away from them and were not able to get them back until they could provide a room for each child; don't you think it is much better for siblings to share a room then to be separated from their parents and, a lot of times, each other?

Jen-
As an active duty wife, I know about base housing---which is why we have never lived in it.
As for your husband, I am sorry for his injury and your loss. I have lived my whole life with physical challenges-and having it dropped on you all of a sudden IMO is much worse.

But this is the situation that proves my point. We just finished our building our home to make room for our four kids to have what they deserve--all 7500sq ft paid for before we stepped in the door to live in it.

It goes back to a thoughtful consideration of the lives I bought into this world. I knew what I wanted for them--the same thing you want for yours--the best I could do. We just made different choices to get to it--

Congrats on being able to build your home. However, please don't judge those who are not able to do as you have. Like Jen said you can't always plan for certain things and you have to work with what you are given.

My mom was a single mother of 5. She moved to this country for a better life and IMO she got one. However, we did live in a 3 bedroom house. My brother had his own room the entire time, but the rest of us girls shared rooms. I even shared room with my mom. Well at one point my mother blocked off a corner of her room so my brother could have his own room. Not to mention having to take care of her grandfather also made things a little tight. It's unfortunate that in todays society there is no innocence. The days of sharing rooms, taking bath together, and taking pics of your baby naked or in the tub has become sexual, but that's a totally different topic.

I'm just saying because someone didn't make the decisions you made does not mean they didn't make the right decisions. I never thought I would have gotten pregnant again after my 13 year old, and took all the precautions not to have one but came up pregnant anyway. I have been blessed to rent a house where we all have our own rooms, plus a guest room, but not everyone is that blessed. we r all doing the best we can.

Well said, John. Kids who have their own rooms are privileged. It is not a God given right.

your comments are very well said. Humans a;most always evaluate the question based on their own perception/teaching/culture. I shared a room with my brother for years and no bad effects or inappropriate activities. We had bunk beds and I was always mad cause he got to sleep on top and I had to take the bottom bunk. lol