Should Brother and Sister Share a Bedroom?

WOW, there are some very close-minded people in this world! No matter how a person my plan, be prepared, etc. Murphy may rear his ugly head, and you may be the person who has to tell you 2.5 kids that they have to share a room for a little while why mom and/or dad get things straightened out!! Kids sharing a room is the same as a camping trip, in which you all share a tent, or do you hike with a tent for each of you? Or going away to camp, as a kid they all sleep in the same 1 room cabin, don't they??? If you become more an open-minded parent, not so high strung, and talk to your kids, I mean real conversations, then there won't be a problem! Then your children will have the kind of friendship, and connect that nothing can break. Don't we all want that. Beside isn't it better that siblings stick together in times of family stress, then go to their separate, lonely corners? Because no matter how well you planned for this recession, you are still stressed about it!! And those who say they aren't are a bunch of Liers!!! But whom am I to Judge? I am not GOD or whomever/whatever you believe in! There was a time folks where it took a whole village to raise a child!

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I think that as long as the kids are comfortable sharing a room with their sibling, no matter the age or gender, it should be allowed. This thing with the CPS is ridiculous. My younger brother and sister ages 6 and 4 share a room and they are best friends and i see no problem with that! Why make a problem where there isn't one?

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My brother and I shared the same room until early teenhood, but never the same bed. Is it "wrong"? We certainly did not think so at the time and I don't think it odd now. Space was limited, we each had our own bed (bunkbeds) and we shared many a late-night confab. When we each needed our privacy, we went to the bathroom, shut the door and did our "business". If my brother, or any of my brothers for that matter, tried any kind of "funny" business, I probably would have jabbed him in the eye! NONE of my brothers ever did anything inappropriate because we were ALL taught that was simply not tolerated.

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I shared a room with my older brother until I was 12 years old and he 15. Even though there was a vacant room in the house, I felt more secure sleeping in a place where someone who was obviously stronger than me could " protect" me if something was to ever happen. Now at 16 and he at 19, I still sleep in his room in the empty bed ( used for when my younger cousins sleep over)next to his from time to time even though I already have my own room. I have cousins that sleep in the same room as their brothers/sisters because they feel that the more time they spend together, the stronger bond they have. Although my brother and I don't get along too well, he fully understands the sense of security I get when I'm with him, especially after those very scary movies. My point is, I feel that there is nothing wrong with sharing a room with your older/younger brother/sister. I mean, you are blood afterall.

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prior to puberty no problem with sharing a room,after puberty why take the chance? as to being able to plan every scenario that may & often does happen to you? That's very unrealistic. No one plan's on becoming ill,no one plan's & or often no's when there employer is cutting back & simply erase's your Title & position in a company [my daughter after 17 yr's had this just happen]to her. Plan yes,are plan's infallible no. That homeless Bum on the street isnt alway's a drug addict & or a drunk ,& @ one time he or she had a job,a car,a family,& im sure even they once had THE PLAN!

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I have adopted twins from Africa. They were orphaned before the age of two and came to us when they were 11. They have ALWAYS slept in the same room. They are now 11. They are very aware of their modesty and neither changes at the same time in their room. We have bunk beds. We tried separate rooms with walkie talkies so they could talk to each other at night, but with in a few days some one was always sleeping on the other's floor.They have been developing separate friends and relationships and We act as if it is a matter of time until they want their privacy.
It's no big deal.

Would I put foster kids together? Not on your life!

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Karen,your holier than thou attitude is disgusting and so is your judgement of others.You clearly haven't had life smack you upside the head yet,have you?You talk about planning for "life events" in advance and being prepared.I wouldn't be afraid to bet that you went from Mommy and Daddys house and into hubbys.Your occupation is probably "homemaker",have you ever had a job and I'm referring to a real job?I sure didn't plan on having breast cancer at age 33 and since my illness,my kids have shared a room but you know what?They are just happy that I am still alive,they know what really matters.That's a lesson that you could certainly afford to learn.

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Hmmm. I think you all have interesting points. I have 4 daughters and have been a divorcee for five years. I didn't plan for this, however I did live within my means even while married so the divorce didn't financially devastate me. I have a very nice house with room for all of my girls in a neighborhood that was considered 'transitional' when I bought my home. I took a chance on it becoming a place I'd want my girls to be reared, and it paid off. But I'm extremely conscious of the fact it could have gone the other way. Life is an incredible (and sometimes frightening) mixture of planning, mistakes and cosmic humor for good measure. I pray, Karen, that the joke is never on you. I applaud your strategic approach to life, even while I cringe at the hard lessons with which, (I sense), life's waiting to ambush you. Continue being strong, but don't forget, flexibility's another sort of strength...

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Isisaquaria,
Reading your comments have blown me away! Someone that I take it to be educated with financial stability that looks at life with such a materialistic view of life. Taking care of your children and giving them what they deserve in my mind is providing food, shelter, love, understanding, education, and moral-spiritual values... Giving each of your children a room to themselves is only spoiling them and teaching them nothing about be thankful for what they have. The more rooms you have the more places you have to get away from each other and that isn't always a good thing... If you have a home big enough than great! If you don't then work it out the best you can. You shouldn't tell people on here that they are not a good parent for not having as much as you do... You should be thankful and see that you are blessed. I too have money and could have a larger home but I choose to help others with what I have been blessed with. I grew up with 4 brothers and two sisters in a 3 bedroom house. The boys had a room and the girls had a room. I will tell you I would not put a son and daughter in the same room after about 6 years old or 1st grade... Hormones come into play no matter who you are and when boys go through puberty they may want to explore those feelings or a girl for that matter. I know of a cause that this happened and with a brother and sister sharing a room and it happens even when they don't... Do your research incest is very common and putting children in a situation that makes it easy to go on the wrong path is just not in the best interest of the child. It has nothing to do with giving a child his or her own space,,, That’s silly!!!

Janet

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i shared a room with my 2 brothers when we were really little then when i was like 5 we moved to a 3 bedroom and i got my own room but that only lasted a little while because my uncle and his wife moved in with us and then i got put back in with my little brothers it was a crib a toddler bed and a twin after that we never shared again untill i was about 11 and my grandpartents came to stay with us for 6 months and i slept on the top bunk and they both slept on the bottom when my youngest sister was born my fater converted the garage into a bedroom for the boys and then both girls got heir own rooms but while this was all goingon none of us kids really ever slept in our rooms we were usually in my parents bed to the point they had to get a king sized bed and my littlest sister 14 years younger (9) still sleeps with my mother. but when i come home to visit i sleep in my brothers (18) bed because it is the best one in the house and sometimes he sleeps with me but as far as something going on... hats just wrong.. because i used to help change his diapers when he was a baby...

i also shared a room with my gay boy best friend for a summer in high school because his mom took off to california for a few months and nothing ever happened there either.. so goes to show you...

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Recently Worthington Minnesota Section 8 sent me a letter saying that we no longer qualify for a three bedroom voucher and that all families with 3-4 people will only qualify for a two bedroom, so that they can open up more help to people that need it. I have a 16 year old girl and a 17 year old boy, and then it's me and my husband. I've always heard that after a certain age they cannot share a room-but I can't find much on the subject and don't know where to begin to look.

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okay I have a question? CPS took my daughter, she is 17. I have a 3yr old son now also. My question is this. The judge gave her to me until the next court date, my home is two bedroom. My son still sleeps with my husband and I, and my daugher has the 2nd bedroom. Will CPS take my daughter? What is the age limit for them to share a room? She was told at the age of 5 they no longer could share a room. However they do not share a room at this time.

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I have 4 children, 3 girls 1 boy. The oldest girl is 16 and the boy 13. I have all three girls in one room, which they hate and my son has his own room. Today, my oldest daughter and son asked if they could share the biggest room to make it better for everyone else. They thought of everything, asking about putting up a partition, getting dressed in the bathroom, you name it they thought of it, knowing I would ask them. Even though my first instinct was to say absolutely no, I am no on the fence over the whole thing. I shared a room with my brother in high school because there was no choice. I just don't know what to say to them. It would make it easier on all the kids but I just don't know.

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