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Filed under: Celeb Kids, In The News, New In Pop Culture
Chris Brown, who allegedly beat his girlfriend, singer Rihanna, has decided to withdraw his name from the list of nominees for Nickelodeon's Kids' Choice Awards. Here is what Brown's rep told TMZ on Wednesday:"Chris very much appreciates the support of his fans and the honor they have paid him in the way of nominations for Favorite Male Singer and Favorite Song. Unfortunately, the controversy surrounding the incident last month has shifted the focus from the music to whether he should be allowed to be among those nominated. While Chris would like to speak to his fans directly about this and other issues, pending legal proceedings preclude his doing so at this time. Once the matter before him has been resolved, he intends to do so."
What isn't in that statement is an apology, or any acknowledgement that what he allegedly did was wrong. Not wrong like Alex Rodriguez taking steroids, or Miley Cyrus taking semi-suggestive snapshots with a cell phone. Wrong like hitting a woman until she bleeds and has a black eye.
Nickelodeon, for their part, had taken the non-stance that it was "the kids" that nominated Brown for an award, and if he won, well, hey, "the kids" voted for him. TMZ referred to this strategy as "If Chris Brown Wins, Blame Kids." Which is probably accurate. But this is more important than the Kids' Choice Awards.
When something terrible occurs, it's up to parents to talk to their own children and explain what happened. But kids, of course, have a history of ignoring their parents when it comes to music. Every kid thinks the music their parents listen to is lame, whether that music is Perry Como or Slayer. And going as far back as Elvis, kids tend to tune it out when mom and dad start with the "that music you like is no good!" routine. But Chris Brown isn't shaking his pelvis suggestively on the Ed Sullivan Show. He -- allegedly -- battered his girlfriend, who has now taken him back.
The fact that Brown doesn't appear to be atoning for his actions, combined with Rihanna getting back together with him and not pressing charges, puts parents in a position where they have to contradict the actions of a superstar. I can imagine some of Brown's fans thinking, well, what did he do that was so wrong? She's not pressing charges. Why should we care if she doesn't? This has the potential to be a great teaching moment, but as long as Brown shows no remorse at all, many kids will simply see him as just another musician that mom and dad don't understand.
CNN's Jane Velez-Mitchell says that this incident has a "dangerous message," and she's right. The message for boys is that it's OK to hit your girlfriend, and for girls, that you shouldn't break up with someone just because they gave you a black eye. That's a lot more serious than some dopey awards show.
| Yes, his fans need to know that he realizes what he did was very wrong. | |
|---|---|
| No, he's done enough. |
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ReaderComments (Page 1 of 1)
3-13-2009 @ 11:33AM
Michaela said...I was following the other blog, but I think the comments had stopped. Anyway, regarding the family cars where everyone was voting on the Hondas and Toyotas instead of the American cars, well I too have been looking for a car, and a little bit of research online shows good deals for new car buyers. I think that all the manufacturers, not just Americans, are feeling the pinch and are trying their best to sell cars, so there are lots and lots of incentives. Plus, the price of pre-owned cars has gone up because of the higher demand, which means that new cars are not depriciating as quickly. I think I want a Honda (I do not work for Honda) and have been finding good deals (in fact I've found good deals on Toyotas and Mazdas, too, as well as the Versa that someone mentioned,, but I think that car is too small.) Here are three I am looking at:
http://www.viphonda.com/
http://www.tarrytownhonda.com/odyssey-frame.aspx
http://southhillshonda.com/civic-frame.aspx
I don't know what to get. The Civic is a good value, but I am leaning towards the mini van.
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3-13-2009 @ 12:53PM
ninainindia said...He's done enough? He hasn't done anything! Except for go on a vacation and have fun. But unfortunately the "victim" doesn't seem to mind being beaten up by her boyfriend so she is equally as much as he is giving a bad example to children.
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3-13-2009 @ 2:12PM
Joy said...I couldn't agree with you more.
3-13-2009 @ 3:45PM
Mihir said...i don't know who these people are, but, if he "allegedly" did something, as the author points out, why does he need to apologize for anything?
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3-13-2009 @ 8:26PM
Cana said...Although parents are trying being good parents(http://www.parents-and-kids.com/blog/en/topics/be-a-good-parent/), want to help their kids and protect their kids from failures, kids especially teenagers do not listen at all, they want to test the water by themselves. That's the life, a learning process any way.
3-14-2009 @ 2:11PM
KJSKDGWLK said...Not to defend Chris Brown, who I think is an animal, but he knows Rhianna will stay with him. And now they have recorded a song together. This is all about publicity. I can't stand them both and wont buy their music.
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