Prince William Remembers His Mother

Serendipity, i wished my mother would of left at age 7, instead she died of a heart attack. She left a 9, 8, me just turned 7 and a 6 week old baby. Everything my parents did, was for us children. Everything was perfect. IN his undying grief, my father turned to the bottle, and eventually grieved himself to death. I blammed God. We were raised by someone that did things to us, that would go to prison today. Am I bitter, no. I am sad. I was not given the childhood i deserved or so truley wanted. She has been gone since feb 64, and i never understood why God took her. But i know it made me a better person, a better mother. It has made me strong, and i cherish the moments i have with my children and grandchildren every day. I have a good marraige and a healthy family. I thank God daily for making me now, the person i am.

I wonder how old you are and if you are not ready to feel that yet or if you have had any children or any of those, life changing events, because those are the things that bring up everything inside of us. When my parents divorced, my world fell apart, I was only 8 but I felt like a baby, I was and still will never be the same. I grieve now, after all of the years, for the happiness I missed, because all the destruction a divorce can cause for a child. Back them it was, oh there tough, they'll bounce back. Now we know that is not true, children from divorce need twice as much more of everything in the way of love and understanding. I became tough, because that is how I got through it, it is a natural reaction in our brain, that we really don't even know we have, it's there to protect our bodies. I remember seeing all the kids crying over not making it for Cheerleader, when someone was moving away or some girl who just broke up with her boyfriend and I just had no idea what all the tears were about, I could not feel much of anything. I felt bad for them but I could not understand what all the fuss was about. I raised myself as well, even though I lived with my Mom, she had to work all the time, just to support my sisters and I, so she was never there when I came home from school, when all the other kids mothers showed up for school functions and the list goes on and on. My point is, I have had many years to peel away these layer and find out just how raw I am inside. When my Mother died I was only 27, sounds like, Oh, that's not to bad but it was devastating. We never had much but we always had each other and now the circle had been broken. After she had been gone about 10 years, it hit me, not to say I wasn't a mess before that but everything hit me, it almost completely destroyed me, I couldn't even label some of my emotions, I just knew I was in deep pain. It wasn't until I was watching t.v. one day and I saw a girl, about my age, who had lost her mother to cancer, as well and she said how odd it was, that even though her mother didn't choose to leave her, she felt abandoned. Well that came at me like a bullet, my heart or whatever it was inside me, just fell to the floor, I realized that was it, that is what I had been feeling, all these years, that may even be what I felt when my parents divorced, my father was suddenly gone, we moved away, I might even have felt betrayed by the entire divorce. Needless to say, I cried for forever, that is when I finally decided, I need help. So I thank that girl on t.v., she started my road to recovery, I may never get there all the way but I feel a heck of a lot better. Understanding your mind and body makes a big difference in your life. You may have that moment yet, waiting for you and after it happens, it not only will help with the pain but it lets in love and many other feelings that you might not even think you would ever have. I pray that day comes for you. So don't be so hard on others, you don't know what life has in store for you. Everytime I think I am old and wise, I do something stupid and realize, we are never done growing.

As for Prince William, as long as you are alive, your mother is alive inside of you, you are her. Even though it may take awhile for you to understand, it is very true. I am pretty sure, from up above, your mother is watching you and feeling, oh so proud of you and your brother.

divorce is not the same as death. your mom can change her mind & find you and explain her actions. no comparison. & i know both.

you sound like you haven't really finished raising yourself when you can't have sympathy for someone who's lost a parent forever.

Serendipity, you have issues and your past problems are a reflection of who you are. There are people in the world with a warm heart Perhaps you are not one of them. If you have nothing nice to say, then don't say anything at all.

Please talk with someone and try to get some help with your problem. You clearly have issues, though you may not recognize that you do. I pray for your recovery from those tormenting issues.

You seem awfully angry from the choice of your words. You clearly do not understand the difference between the choice your mom made and the choices of Princess Diana. She loved her boys deeply and would never have left them by choice. She was murdered.

What's really sad is you. Why? Because you never had the love of a mother dead or alive. It really explains your cold nature.

Serendipity,
Your words are bitter and lack compassion.
Part of "growing up" is learning to leave the bitterness behind and find compassion.
Part of finding God is learning to love yourself and forgive others.
You have not found God yet. Keep looking.

You didn't grow up or get over it. Your spreading your anger and pain everywhere.
Maybe you should get some help. I am not saying that flippantly, I am hoping the rest of your life will be better.

Dippity,

Everyone grieves at a different pace. Your mother didn't even die so you don't even have a knowledge base to speak from. You shoot-from-the-hip know it alls do no one any good.

Good for you that you were able to "get over it"---but just because you were able to it doesn't mean everyone else. Maybe you're not a very sensitive person, where other people are or maybe you have emotional issues relating to your mother abandoning you.

My mother died of a heart attack 26 years ago and it still hurts to this day, and my father died after a long illness 5 years ago. I GRIEVE EVERY DAY FOR THEM BOTH and there is no "pitty party". Get over yourself.

I agree...you never "get over" a death. My sister, soul mate and twin to my heart took her own life on March 31, 2006...I don't know if I will ever feel whole again. To me, losing someone you love is rather like losing a limb...you learn to live with it but there will always be times, even after years, when you hear a song or see something that reminds you of this person and the grief takes your breath away all over again. I think it is awesome that Prince William is using his grief for his Mum by doing something to make a difference in the lives of others...what better way to honor those we love and have lost!

What you have said is so true. My father has been gone for fourteen years and one wshes he was still here... he departed at 78.

Loving parents have a permanent role in the lives of their children. Diana was a special gift to the world. In her short live the Princess proved that, more than the 'gems' and a title she was a person a human being, frail and capable of making mistakes.

However she has left behind to wonderful sons.. who clearly miss her and still love her. I can understand their grief. But in giving back as she did, that will help to fill the void. May they be blessed with long an prosperous life ... filled with meaning!

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Dear William .. You Mother has left you so much each other for one thing You and Harry are beautiful examples of how beautiful she was... its a pleasure to watch you Young Men grow I think happily of your Mom whenever I see either of you be proud of who you are always ... your Mom adored you Children and she is very proud as she should be of both of you....