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Celebrities, politicians and other women in high-profile jobs are heading back to work soon after having their babies. Are abbreviated maternity leaves becoming the new norm for new mothers, especially now, with the recession looming over their heads?What do TV star Alison Sweeney, Gov. Sarah Palin and French Justice Minister Rachida Dati have in common? They all went back to work just days after giving birth -- and they aren't the only ones. More and more moms are cutting their maternity leaves short, citing economic and career pressures as the main reasons for their quick return to the office.
A recent story on MomLogic points out that the United States is one of the few developed countries that doesn't offer women a lengthy paid maternity leave. In fact, a Harvard University study showed that of 168 countries surveyed, 163 had some kind of paid leave for new moms.
So which countries don't subsidize new moms, you ask? Swaziland, Lesotho, Paupa New Guinea -- and the good old US of A.
Stateside, women are forced to cobble together a leave made up of short-term disability, vacation days, sick leave and unpaid leave. In these tough economic times, it isn't feasible for most mothers to take unpaid time off to be with their babies. And let's not forget about the fact that taking six months off work makes it a lot harder to get that promotion.
Bonnie Stewart, 37, is one of the lucky ones -- she lives on Prince Edward Island, in Canada, one of the countries that does offer extended paid maternity leave.
Nonetheless, this mom of two isn't taking any chances. She plans to go back to work a full five months earlier than normal after the birth of her daughter, Josephine, and began applying for jobs much sooner than she did after the birth of her first child, Oscar, almost three years ago. The current downturn is affecting her less than others, Stewart says, because she and her husband haven't been "living the dream," but she is still aware that good positions are few and far between right now.
"The economy is a factor in my applying to new jobs earlier this time than I did with my first," Stewart says. "I know that competition for what jobs there are will be even stiffer than it was two years ago, when I was looking for work after Oscar's birth."
Stewart also points out that while Canada does subsidize new mothers, there is still an economic impact from being out of work for 12 months.
"Canada offers employment insurance to new parents for 50 weeks after a baby's birth, but the amount caps at approximately $1,500 per month (or 55 percent of salary), so unless one's workplace offers a top-up, many families find this limited compared to usual earnings," she explains. "Top-up was not available to me, as I don't have an ongoing employer or a job to go back to."
Julie Murphy does have a job waiting for her, but she says she is "heartbroken" that she will only have a scant nine weeks at home with her new daughter, Brenna. Murphy, 30, is a first-time mom from Champaign, IL, and her decision to return to the office three weeks early was driven by her childcare situation.
"A space opened up for us earlier than expected at our preferred daycare facility, and I can't afford to pass it up.," Murphy says. "Other factors include the fact that my maternity leave chews through all of my vacation and sick days, and I'm about to run out and go on unpaid instead of paid leave, which also means I'll have to pay through the nose to keep our insurance benefits."
While she knows this is the best decision for her family, Murphy still worries that her daughter will suffer: "She's so little, and she's not going to see very much of me anymore. Just in the mornings, for about two hours in the evenings, and at night feedings. She's going to see so much more of the daycare workers than she will of her parents, it breaks my heart."
Like Stewart, I was one of the lucky ones: When my first child was born, I managed to take three months off without taking a serious pay cut. The second time around, I found myself back at work a scant four weeks after the baby came. Granted, I work as a freelancer, but that doesn't mean I didn't want time to bond with my new baby. But no work means no money in the bank, and so I had to make a tough choice. For me, the only alternative was to get back in the saddle as soon as my C-section incision healed up.
Do I feel like my baby and I suffered because I went back to work after just one month? Yes, I do, but I didn't have a choice. Knowing that my situation isn't unique is cold comfort, indeed. Isn't it time we demanded what most other women in the Western world take for granted?
Are you taking a shorter-than-expected maternity leave? Is the recession forcing you back into the office before you and your baby are ready?












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3-25-2009 @ 7:16PM
Joy said...You've got to be kidding me!!! I have never once had anything handed to me. I chose to have my kids and I chose to stay home to raise them until I could work when they were in school. That stupid statement is downright insulting to all of us who've played by the rules and not whined over "give me everything for nothing!"
Most of my extended family lives in Canada and I'm half Canadian and if I wanted to live the way they live in Canada then I'd move there but I know better than anyone where the better place to live is. You don't know what you're talking about and you must not know many "real" women.
3-25-2009 @ 12:11PM
SKL said...Respect?! People who believe women are too stupid or helpless to think, plan, and produce are the ones who have no respect for women.
You are a real idiot.
I could be the poster child for a woman who came up from very difficult circumstances without any "handout" or help from family, who has been successful, who has given back hundreds of thousands to the tax man as well as hundreds of thousands to charities and needy relatives, and who does not believe in paid maternity leave.
I am a real woman born into a family with two highschool dropout parents (including an illiterate dad) and six kids. I was born legally blind but couldn't afford glasses until third grade. I always had less than welfare kids, and had to listen to the welfare moms complaining about it, too. I took a heavy class load, graduated and went to college at 16, financed my entire education through work and student loans, graduated with 2 grad degrees and $100K in debt, and worked 60-100 hours for 15 years after graduation to pay my debt, help others, and save so that I could cut back on my work and have kids (by adoption as a single mom). I have continued to work full time since my kids came home, and I think that's a good thing for them, for me, for the US Treasury, and for the charities etc. that I continue to support. But I have money in the bank in case I should decide that staying home becomes a better choice for any reason.
I think I qualify to be called a "real woman." I believe in women. I am sick of the attitude that suggests women "can't" do ANYTHING. When I was young, the mantra we always heard was that girls can do "anything." Now people who consider themselves pro-woman have changed to to "women can't do it right without a handout." That is a huge step backward. Maybe it's true for YOU, but it's not true for REAL WOMEN.
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3-25-2009 @ 2:52PM
a Real woamn said...At least you got your glasses by 3rd grade - try growing up so poor you had to have hand-me-over down from a cousin who had a different prescription and having to make due for years because your parents didn't have insurance. I grew up so poor we often didn't eat. No welfare here either. And I too worked a full time and part time job while putting myself through college as well. You don't sound like you had it any harder than me.
It is because I have had these experiences that I see the value of paid maternity leave. Because I respect women and realize that after giving birth a woman and her child deserve recovery and bonding time wihtout sacrificing her professional career. It is because I work and pay into a government that I believe all working women have EARNED a paid maternity leave.
Obviously your experiences have left you bitter and you feel if you suffered so must all women. You see women who work hard and think they are asking for a hand out when they are demanding what they have earned and deserve. My pain/sacrifices/hard work have made me stronger and given me insight and not afraid to speak up for other women.
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3-25-2009 @ 4:43PM
SKL said...My experiences have left me BETTER, not bitter.
Next time think twice before you accuse people of being clueless because they have had things handed to them.
You have a right to your opinion, but don't make stupid ASSumptions about where I got mine.
There is no logical connection between hard work and maternity leave. Hard work should result in earnings that you put in your pocket and save. Then you can use your savings to take time off to have your kids - or to travel the world - or to retire early - or to donate to the Sisters of Charity - or whatever you choose. Your suggestion is that people who have never had kids, or who have fewer kids than you, should pay more into the system and get less out. Like your having kids is a service to humanity. You like the idea because you would be on the receiving end, and you don't care how it would feel to be "one of those other people" on the paying end. It makes no more sense than people demanding employers to foot the bill for a three-month overseas sabbatical. How about a year's service to the Peace Corps? The latter would actually make more sense - at least you'd be helping others and not taking care of your own business.
3-29-2009 @ 4:18AM
ncsparkle said...I have never heard such a load of BS as most of these comments. Why shouldn't a women have maternity leave? If all women decided not to have children because it was not affordable where would the world be. Would we even be debating this point if a man had to have the children, it seems to me that all our benefits stem from what men think is good for women. Childbirth and raising children is a job in itself. Not every women is ready to return to work after just 6 short weeks, not to mention getting the infant on a schedule that allows the women to get any real sleep and recover from childbirth. Yes I believe we should take care of our children when we choose to have them, but I have been working for all of my adult life and I could not afford to stay home with out my benefit of paid maternity leave. If I broke my leg and had to stay home for 12 weeks no one would say I was abusing my benefits and most maternity leave will only pay for 8 weeks c-section or not. Women get short changed in the corporate environment every day and it does not have anything to do with paid maternity leave, we still for the most part make less than men but we have the hardest job of all, bearing children, we need to support that and honor it.
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3-26-2009 @ 10:18PM
SKL said...Do you realize that most of what you just said is the logic they used to use for women/mothers not being in the workforce at all?
Women need to figure out what the hell they want. If they want to be supported when they have kids, then they can't expect economic equality. This isn't just an opinion, it's absolute reality. If more women would put logic ahead of emotions, they would understand this.
3-27-2009 @ 9:14AM
jersey said...ncsparkle - AMEN!!!
I cannot even comprehend those who are anti-paid maternity. Please take a look at all the other countries that have it - they are far better off economically and socially.
5-07-2009 @ 3:53PM
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