Guilty Mom Confessions from CafeMom.com
Categories: Toddlers
Guilty Mom Confessions from CafeMom.com
I Let My Toddlers Go Naked in Public
"I let my toddlers run around the house, the front porch, and the yard without clothes on. So cute, so innocent and free!"
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My Kid Watches TV Close Up
"My son sits or stands directly in front of the TV to watch his Baby Einstein videos and favorite television shows. It doesn't really bother me."
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I Let My Toddler Play Outside Alone
"I let my toddler play in the yard alone or without adult supervision. I live in a quiet neighborhood with mostly elderly neighbors and our yard is fenced in, so I let my 3 ½-year-old play outside with our two dogs, who bark at everybody that comes near our house."
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My Toddler Wears Crude T-Shirts
"My daughter has a t-shirt that says 'Daddy's Little Squirt.' I love it; I think it's funny. But the other day at the mall, another mom pulled me aside and told me how offensive it was and that I'm defiling my child, especially since my daughter doesn't even know what it means. Well, I told her off, of course. She's my child and I'll dress her however I like."
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I Let My Toddlers Climb Play Equipment Unassisted
"When we go to the park or playground, I don't hover over my toddlers. I sit on the bench and watch. If they want to climb up the slide, I let them. I loved climbing up slides when I was little. It was challenging and fun -- and my mother never shadowed me to prevent a fall or little mishaps. This is how children learn -- by making mistakes. And if my kid is arguing with another child, I usually don't get involved unless one of them is going to get hurt. They need to learn to work out their own problems."
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My Kids Go to Sleep After Midnight
"I have three kids under the age of three, and we all go to bed after midnight and wake up at 11 AM the next day."
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I Leave My Toddler Alone in the Bath
"My son is just about to turn 2 and he has been playing in the bath by himself for about a month now. He likes to take long baths, and it got to the point where I had stuff to do and I got tired of fighting to get him out. So now he takes a bath in the master bathroom while I'm close by in the bedroom folding clothes and picking up his toys. I don't go far, but I don't hover over him, either."
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My Toddlers Eat Pizza for Breakfast
"My kids have had pizza for breakfast. At least they are eating something and have food in their stomachs. I would rather feed them a non-traditional breakfast than have them be hungry!"
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I Throw Away My Kid's Artwork
"If it doesn't make me laugh or cry, my kids' objects d'art have got to go. I'm a neat freak, so before I became a mother, or at least until the kids hit preschool, I was able to maintain a minimalist household. Now my house is gasping for air beneath an avalanche of construction paper. My kids generate a minimum of one piece of artwork a day, and that's conservative. Therefore, I throw the art away on the sly."
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I Scold Other People's Kids
"If a child comes in my house and starts breaking the rules, I'll scold them if their parents refuse to. I treat all children the same. I demand respect as well as give respect."
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Reader Comments (Page 1 of 7)
rorygil5 5-22-2009 @ 2:09PM
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Fred Noweck 5-22-2009 @ 6:25PM
I am 62 years old now and when i was under 3, i was constantly running around nude. it hasn't damaged me! i say let them run around like that if they want!
britney 5-23-2009 @ 8:02AM
omg how did the kids get out waz it warm u left the door open and they got out
schoen185 5-22-2009 @ 9:14PM
Well, like most mothers I have often wondered if I'm doing good enough for these two angels I was blessed with. I've questioned myself. After reading these entries I feel like mother of the year. Most of them made my jaw drop!
vicki6886 5-24-2009 @ 1:28PM
how can you keep a toddler's clothes on? mine strips at daycare, at walmart, in the car, everywhere.
crys 5-22-2009 @ 2:22PM
Some of these aren't that bad, especially when the parent lets the child play independently in the park without hovering. The one that really ticked me off was the woman who lets her 2 year old bathe alone. Every couple months, I read in the newspaper about a child drowning in the bathtub. These parents who have their kids die are usually charged with neglect. I understand not wanting to be a helicopter parent, but a child playing outside, even in a fenced in yard, needs supervision...even if it's a glance out the window. Also, letting kids eat food not paid for in a grocery store is so rude. Feed the kid before going to the store. Lastly (and not on the actual list, bring something for your kids to do when out and abou...and stay off your damn cell phones. We don't want our experience out and about being interrupted by a bored, ill-behaved and screaming child.
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marchingdd 5-22-2009 @ 3:16PM
Every couple of months you read about a child drowning in a bathtub? I call BS.
Rose 5-22-2009 @ 4:59PM
Kudos!!!!
Princess Poon 5-22-2009 @ 6:58PM
Yes, aren't some of these things just so charming and adorable? Let me tell you--I work as a grief counselor for parents who have done thoughtless things and their children have died as a result of it. No, these things aren't charming or cute, and yes I can tell you dozens of stories of kids who drowned in two inches of bath water, or who got mauled by the family dog when left unattended.
I should not even have opened this page. I am disgusted with how callous some of these parents are. You should talk to the parents I do--who spend the rest of their lives blaming themselves for putting their children in danger and then losing them, all because of laziness or stupidity. God help some of you that thought these were funny.
Annabelle 5-22-2009 @ 7:29PM
You sound like a mean person. I bet you wanted to sound concerned, responsible and assertive, but you don't. You sound mean. Find something fun to do. Don't respond for my benefit. I won't be returning to this site again.
Melly 5-22-2009 @ 2:24PM
I don't think most of these are a big deal. I don't agree with the one who lets her toddler play in the fenced yard with the dogs alone. You should never leave that young of a child alone with dogs anyways. I also disagree with letting a 2 year old play in the bathtub by themselves. I never left my toddler unattended in the bathtub until she was about 4, and I only leave her for a few minutes at a time.
I also would have told off the person who commented on their child's t-shirt. It's none of their business. I also am guilty of letting my toddler stay up late, sometimes til midnight. Then we usually get up by about 10 am. Let them enjoy the time while they are young. My hubby doesn't get home from work until 10 pm, and my daughter likes to visit with him before bed. That can't last forever, so I let her do it now. SHe's going to have to learn to go to bed early soon, as she starts kindergarten in Sept.
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Liz Elalm 5-22-2009 @ 11:27PM
We don't mind the part about the child going to bed after midnight and sleeping until 11:00 the next day. The child is getting the rest s/he needs. However, I didn't like the part where the writer said "we" sleep the next day until 11:00. Hold up here. Doesn't someone work? From where do you receive your income?
Jeannie 5-22-2009 @ 3:47PM
as a daycare provider I can tell you that as innocent as it may sound to let your child stay up till wee hours of the night or morning for what seems like good reasons, is NOT good for your child. I see more and more parents who let their child/children stay up until they get tired, some even after the parents themselves have gone to bed, and the children are not getting the proper sleep and rest their bodies and minds need to develop correctly. I honestly feel that it is a huge contributor to the increase in ADD,ADHD and Autistic sysptoms in children. A child younger than school age should be getting atleast 12 hours of sleep per day. Most parents never even attempt to disipline nap into a childs schedule then keep them up all night just so they (the parents) can sleep late.
camcole11 5-22-2009 @ 4:11PM
Well like anything else common sense goes a long way. If the kids are young enough and there is some discretion I think its fine. But as most of us have seen there are some trailer trash and other who are adults and wear their pajamas to Walmart or to the mall. (while talking on the phone and smoking a cigarette.) So some adults dont always have comon sense.
Emily 5-22-2009 @ 5:53PM
Absolutely I agree with allowing your child stay up and see her daddy. My husband is a chef and when my daughter was young (prior to kindergarten), she would stay up until 11ish to visit with her daddy. She is not ever going to have that time again once school starts. It builds a lasting bond.
melly 5-23-2009 @ 12:55PM
As far as MY situation goes, currently I am unemployed. It is my hubby who works and I stay home with my daughter, and receive unemployment. However, I have a disability and I'm working on getting SSI. My disability gives me a lot of pain, so many times I cannot sleep. I've always been the night owl type though.
Believe me, my child gets enough sleep. She sleeps about 10 to 12 hours a night. She rarely takes naps. All children are different. I was the same way when I was little, if I did take a nap, I'd be up ALL night. My daugther is extremely intelligent (not that others aren't) and one of the signs of a gifted child, is having difficulty falling asleep at night. We have to get her physically and mentally exhausted for her to sleep.
Still, we should all be able to raise our kids how we see fit. As long as we do not put our child's lives in danger. Like I said, I disagree with letting a 2 year old bathe by themselves, or letting a 3 year old outside by themselves with the dogs. Glad others agreed on that issue. It's not worth taking those kind of chances with your kids. I only have one beautiful, magnificent little girl, and I'll be damned if I'll let anyone get to her, or anything bad happen to her. I'm a very overprotective mom, and in today's society I think that is a GOOD thing. ;)
Natosha 5-22-2009 @ 2:28PM
I dont find anything wrong with most of these confessions. two though drive me nuts! they are dangerous. I just dont see how anyone can leave a child under 2 in the tub alone it only takes a second for them to get a lung full of air and drown.believe it or not a small child can get a lung full of water and seem ok for ours and then die in their sleep.. or a 3 year old alone outside. my 14 mo old son can climb on the couch or any chair. im pretty damn sure he could climb the fence in the yard. I dont hover, but I am always outside with him and in my line of site. and he runs around naked all the time when we are home. specially when he has a diaper rash its good for their skin to get air. when I read the line about it being in public im thinkin they have their kids naked at the park or something lol.
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Pat 5-27-2009 @ 5:12PM
How old is the child? How long is he naked? Is it all day, half of day?When he runs around naked, is there guest visiting you in your home? Do they think that it is cute. And if there are friends over, how well do you know them? Would you know if one of your girlfriends, or male friends answer their cell phone while there? Do you know if they click a picture of your child? Do they say "they have to look up a number or that they put some information on the phone, so that they can pull it up for you? Are you confident that when you go on line that you will not SEE your child on the internet for the perverts to see him? There has got to be a better way.
Pat 5-22-2009 @ 2:31PM
Letting your little ones run around the house is not so bad but what I fear is having there pictures published all over the internet. All sorts of things can happen doing that.
I would just hate to see anything else happen to any child from his or her photo being out there. Lotta sick people.
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Samantha 5-22-2009 @ 2:34PM
Okay, not all these things were bad... but the others, makes me wonder 1. Why did they have kids? 2. Why have these kids not been taken away from them?
Leave a child unattended in a bathtub? or in the yard? I take it they don't read the news much. What about the kid who was lost in a national park for 2 days? I am sure everybody thinks "their" child is perfectly healthy... that is until one day your kid for whatever reason has a seizure and drowns in the tub.
Let your kids stay up til midnight? They will have a wonderful time adjusting to school hours.
Telling your child they need to go to bed because they are in trouble for something they did not do right at that moment will definitely cause trust issues.
These mothers are just wrong.
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