Tricking Hubby Into Fatherhood
Filed under: Opinions
"I have a 6-month-old and I want another baby, but my husband doesn't. He changes the subject every time I bring it up. He doesn't know it, but I've stopped using birth control and I am seducing him on my most fertile days." -anonymous
This anonymous woman spilled her secret at Cafe Mom and if she stuck around long enough to read the comments, she's probably wishing she hadn't. Words like "disgusted," "betrayal of trust," "selfish" and "stupid" are being bandied about over there and I have to say I think "anonymous" deserves the harsh treatment she's getting.
However, her confession brings up an issue that no doubt many couples have found themselves dealing with: What do you do when you disagree on how many children to have? Even if you thought you had that all sorted out before the wedding, what happens if one partner has a change of heart? While tricking someone into becoming a parent is clearly wrong, is it fair to deny your partner a child she desperately wants?
Have you found yourself at odds with your partner about family size? How did you work it out? And have you -- or would you -- ever resort to trickery to get your way?
Start by teaching him that it is safe to do so.