Mayim Bialik - From Teen Star to Attachment Parent
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Mayim Bialik, former child star of iconic 90's sitcom "Blossom," says that her 9-month-old son, Fred, is potty trained, thanks to the philosophy of attachment parenting.
Bialik, 33, has two sons, Miles, 3, and Fred, 9 months, with husband Michael Stone, and she says that co-sleeping, elimination communication and extended breastfeeding go hand-in-hand with the couple's holistic lifestyle. "We are a natural living family," Bialik recently told Celebrity Baby Blog. "We make our own shampoo, our own granola, our own cleaning products. We're a non-obnoxious green family I like to think!"
She credits several of her friends for introducing her to attachment parenting, and says that despite the fact that it takes a lot of time and effort, the rewards far out-weigh any sacrifices she and her husband have had to make. One of the most challenging aspects of attachment parenting, she says, is elimination communication.
What exactly is elimination communication, or "E.C," as Bialik calls it? That's when parents watch babies for the subtle signals infants give just before they urinate or move their bowels. "The fact is, it's a huge time commitment to observe and learn the signals that babies give when they are born, and when they go to the bathroom," she says. "With my first son I started at six months, and it was pretty difficult. With our second son we started at day two and it was not very difficult. I do believe babies are born potty-trained."
Honey, you had me, then you lost me. Subtle signs? Tell that to the poor waiter who watched our not-so-delicate flower give us a sign at dinner a few weeks ago. Bialik goes on to call the experience of potty training her baby "Zen and meditative."
Dude, pass me some of that homemade granola you're making, because whatever you're putting in it seems to make you hallucinate. I don't think I've ever heard the words "mellow" and "potty training" in the same sentence before.
OK, OK, that might be a little Judgy McJudgerson on my part. In fact, Bialik seems pretty grounded. The former teen star is a bona fide Ph.D. in neuroscience, and stays out of the spotlight, unlike a lot of former child stars. She's married to a graduate student (hey, me, too!) and recently took some very public ribbing about her personal style on the summer season premier of "What Not To Wear."
Bialik might not be able to keep up her attachment-parenting style for much longer; she's re-entering the world of acting after a long hiatus, with guest spots on TV shows "Bones" and "Saving Grace." What is it like for her to go from baby-wearing mom to working mom?
"Auditioning, I'm away for just an hour or so, but with 'Saving Grace' they filmed really late, I was there for nine hours when I thought I'd be there three or four," she says. "It was hard, but an interesting experience to be a pumping mom for that day. I've never done that before, and give women who can pump at work so much credit."
I have to give Bialik credit, too, for her strong parenting values and her willingness to share her ideas, even on elimination communication. It would be easy to dismiss her as kooky, but she seems like she really loves her kids. And isn't that the true test of any mom, no matter what your potty training philosophy?
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Reader Comments (Page 1 of 1)
SKL 6-08-2009 @ 12:25PM
I don't understand the tone here. This young woman has made a lifestyle choice. You chose to highlight that, then you spent half of the article attacking her views and experiences on EC. Whatever nice message you might have intended is overshadowed by your nasty attitude.
She has experience with EC, and obviously you don't, so if she says it worked for her, how does that make her a kook?
I notice she's not attacking people who let their kids crap in their pants until they are four.
People confuse me. On one hand, they are unwilling to spend some extra time in the first 9 months of life to communicate better with their child and help him eliminate in a healthy and sanitary way. On the other hand, they are willing to spend 3-4+ years putting up with wilful, screaming, smelly, dirty kids, changing diapers on demand, and going through literally mountains of diapers and related products. And they think that makes them superior. Whatever.
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Uly 6-08-2009 @ 1:31PM
Agreed.
Shannon 6-08-2009 @ 2:11PM
I don't feel the tone of the article was attacking at all. It's plain that Bialik's choices are not mainstream and that's all that was being pointed out. Also, the fact that she says babies are born potty-trained??? Come on! Her baby isn't trained, SHE IS. And that's fine if she believes in that and I have no problem with it. But I do have a problem with calling the baby potty-trained! I can definitely see how this E.C. might make potty-training easier when the child is old enough to use the toilet themselves (as in, can walk to the toilet, undress themselves, climb on and off and wipe by themselves - this is the training of the child part). An interesting article.
Sabrina 6-08-2009 @ 8:01PM
I'm still trying to figure out who is going to do EC, and how that's going to work if she's working and busy. If it really takes as much work as she described and as much forcus and learning about the child's cues, how will a nanny or babysitter be able to figure this out quickly?
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Charndra at Part Time Diaper Free 6-08-2009 @ 8:31PM
Hi Amy,
yes it seems 'impossible' at first thought to some people - either they have had a baby in diapers full-time since birth, and so they have nearly totally lost their natural instincts, a side -effect of our culture of disposable diapering, or there are people around shrieking at the impossibility as they think it must be about rewards and chats and somehow 'coercing' the baby, or the parent being some sort of a slave to the baby, staring at it all day long.
The reality is quite different. Just as we gradually learn when to feed our baby, comfort him or that it's time for a nap or a cuddle, so to do parents learn these subtle potty signs! Just as we get it wrong with those other aspects of baby care on an ongoing basis, there will be wet diapers as we learn to EC!
I hope your interested or intrigued readers might pop over to my site on starting EC gradually - much easier than thinking one must 'ditch the diaper' and never use one ever again! That's a huge misconception about EC.
Charndra http://www.parttimediaperfree.com
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sandy 6-08-2009 @ 10:06PM
I'm intrigued, but I have to wonder how she's manages to do all that with a 3 year old in tow....I can't imagine trying to take care of multiple children while trying E.C.
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SKL 6-09-2009 @ 2:03AM
It becomes a natural part of caring for the child. Could you imagine breastfeeding on demand with an older tot around? Most of the world does it. EC isn't more complicated than changing diapers with an older tot around.
My kids are closer in age, but I took them to the potty together from day one (meaning after I took custody at age 9 mos and 12 mos). It made them realize that "everyone" potties, so it's no big deal and nothing to protest. I couldn't do the pure "EC" because I always had two 1-year-olds going off in different directions - one of whom peed very frequently at that age. But, if one of them was already potty trained before the other was born, I think it would have been relatively easy to EC. Theoretically, with EC, the infant has reliable periods of dryness by the time he is mobile, so we're not talking about chasing his butt with a cup all the time.