Father Loses 2 Young Children In Tornado
Why It's Hard To Get Along With Your In-Laws
To Bail or Not to Bail
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Now mom is trying to decide whether to let him sit in jail until his trial date or bail him out. She's admits that it is hard to see her son behind bars, but worries that by bailing him out she might be minimizing the seriousness of his crime. "Despite realizing that it's not really that uncommon of a thing for someone his age to be out drinking and partying some, I couldn't overlook the fact that he made a conscious decision to drive drunk," she says.
Almost unanimously, Cafe Mom readers agree that if he was big enough to do the crime, then he's big enough to do the time. But then again, it's easy to talk tough when it's not your kid, isn't it?
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6-18-2009 @ 4:30PM
Elizabeth said...I think jail might be safer for my kid, in those circumstances, than being home with me. I find drunk driving to be so incredibly selfish and thoughtless and horribly immature, that I'd probably do something way worse than prison, should my kid get bailed out and brought home.
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6-18-2009 @ 5:47PM
Sandyone said...I'm with Elizabeth. I don't know that I'd help him at all. Drunk driving is a total scumbag crime. That's all I can say that is appropriate for a public message board.
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6-19-2009 @ 4:36AM
damoki said...I may be stumbling into the cauldron of eternal pain for saying this, but I would get the “adult” out of jail. According to some guy I know, even overnight, jail is no fun, and apparently most people believe this is the point... leave him in the pokey, it is what he deserves… you know, the consequences of his actions and all that.
For repeat offenders, or people who have a history of bonehead acts, jail until trial may be a good option. However, for the first time offender with an otherwise “clean” record, bail as soon as possible… then yell or not, depending on what you are trying to accomplish.
Truthfully, most people with no prior experience with jail do not need long-term exposure to appreciate the bitter aftertaste from being locked up. Keep in mind, “long term” does not often include the shock of parental yelling, in fact mixed with various levels of embarrassment, humiliation, fear, discomfort, and an unsure future, your voice will be diluted or lost in the crowd.
This guy knows he screwed up and probably feels like crap, if so, an aggressive reaction will not change much, but your responses over the next few days and weeks can. On the other hand, if he does not feel remorse or accept blame, your words will fall on deaf ears.
Unless you are a moon dweller, you know well the potential harm of drinking and driving. Parenting involves pointing children in the right direction and encouraging them to make the right decisions; that should be your goal whether they are doing well or poorly. So get the kid out… this time, and if you wish, issue the warning that next time will be different.
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