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Fantasy Escape Plan - Do You Have One?
Filed under: Just For Moms, Just For Dads, Opinions
What does your fantasy escape look like? Image: sxc.hu
I had it all worked out in my mind. I would live alone in a simple house on a beautiful beach and make my living selling hot dogs from a cart. I would wear bathing suits and flip flops to "work" and spend my evenings in blissful solitude with only my books and music for company.
Of course, I never seriously considered running away. But often just dreaming of that world was enough to get me through the day. And judging by this post at Cafe Mom, I am not the only one with a fantasy escape plan. And based on the comments, my beach scenario isn't even all that original.
But while moms may freely admit to hatching secret getaway plans, I rarely hear a dad acknowledge similar thoughts. I can't help but wonder why.
Are moms more stressed than dads and therefore more in need of a break from reality? Or, as one father suggested to me, are dads more likely to skip the fantasizing and head straight for the beach when things get tough?
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ReaderComments (Page 1 of 1)
7-08-2009 @ 2:18AM
nora said...I had 8 sons and taught religous ed, Was president of PTO. Had a 4-h group and a cub scout group plus I worked wekends from 5:00 to 1:00 a,m.
I was too busy to fantaize. Althouth we had our favorite saying in our neighborhood and it at that time was calgon take me away. But I soon found out the bathroom wan't even sacred.
I baked my own bread and cooked meals from scratch. Everything except my night job was kid oriented..
One day when I turned 39 I decided I would take a day trip by myself.by this time I had 7 sons and didn't know I was expecting my 8 th son. Hubby was home and I got in the car and decided to do something really daring. I drove up to the mountains and drove a road that I had been scared to drive as I am scared of heights since I was a little girl. I fanatized going to the Mt. and not coming home until all my kids were grown up. I went through the Canyon area and then on to the Mountain. I spent a couple of hours just looking at the wild flowers and watching the camp robbers eat food that people were throwing to them. Then I made believe I was footloose and fancy free and went an had lunch at a cute little resturant on the way back. I got home and my youngest came running up to me throwing himself around my legs. Looked up at me and said I love you I'm hungry. I hugged and kissed him and knew I had my fantasy and that road was always there to drive if I ever felt like I needed a little r&r.
The last time I was there was with my Great grandkids.
I think that if Dads had a full time job and had to take care of kids do the cooking cleaning and all the things a mom goes through he would have his fantasy also. But he would probably hire a baysitter and go fishing or to the beach forget the fantazing,
I learned watching my mother never taking time off from her kids that we all need the calgon or the time to fantaziewith out feeling guilty.
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7-06-2009 @ 11:48PM
Pierce Hibma said...Fantasy vacations are a staple in our marriage. We haven't been able to take one yet but the thought of it is still important and when we finally get the opportunity it will be that much better. Thoughts...
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7-21-2009 @ 11:08AM
Wendy said...I'm 44, have been married for 21yrs. We have 2 kids: daughter-20yrs. Son-10yrs. Our daughter has a son, he will be 2 in Oct. She lives with her baby's daddy. About 5mins. away. I've been laid off since Mar. They are here everyday. So, yes I do have a fantasy escape plan. First I need to hit the powerball. Buy a shack on the beach and sell jewelry made from sea shells. And drink strawberry daquaries in my beach chair.
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8-31-2009 @ 3:07AM
Tara V said...My hubby thought of the escape plan to kidnap my Oma to Germany when our son is an adult.
He gets detailed and goes off into his own world that seems amazing.... Some dads do it, just prob. worried to sound like bad parents (the hubby asked co workers before and that was the geeral response...)
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