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Nudity - Boundaries for Babies?
Filed under: Development/Milestones: Babies, In The News, Development: Big Kids
Do your kids go naked? Photo: nkpix, Flickr
Parents often don't notice their own kids' nudity, especially if they're laid back about it themselves. There's nothing cuter than a baby's chubby bottom, and breastfeeding moms quickly become comfortable with sharing their body with their babies. But as birthdays come and go, nudity becomes an issue in some homes.
"My mother, it used to drive her crazy how naked Ava was," Aly Mandel, mom of five, recently told The New York Times. "My mother-in-law also, they both felt it crossed the line of what was appropriate. My mother-in-law would come in and automatically say, 'Ava, put on your clothes. Put on your underwear.'" Mandel, however, saw nothing wrong with her six-year-old daughter's desire to be naked.
Boundaries aside, are today's parents too worried about what their kids aren't wearing? At The Mommy Files, Amy Graff wonders, "Whatever happened to naked summers?" As soon as they start stripping down en masse, we all get a little uneasy.
It comes down to personal comfort. Kids usually develop modesty all by themselves, in time, and once they do, that needs to be respected. But until then, is it a parents' job to teach modesty or to let them enjoy those few short years of childhood innocence?











ReaderComments (Page 1 of 10)
7-21-2009 @ 1:45PM
Nicola said...We are definitely a no boundaries family as concerns nudity in our own home. However, if people are coming over, we obviously wear clothes. Or if we're staying at other people's homes. My son, now 5 1/2, seems to understand this perfectly. Its not something that we've ever explicitly addressed. He knows that we don't get nude in front of "strangers" and has recently started having a bit of modesty even with close friends of the same age, which is new and totally spontaneous (ie having a shower with a pal after swimming or getting changed in front of a friend). But at home, clothes are optional. And seldom worn.
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7-23-2009 @ 12:54PM
Blood said...cool
7-26-2009 @ 12:15AM
chintzetc said...pagansanctuary ...What does Christianity really have to do with this scenario. We are talking about children and not Christian Pediphiles. I garantee there are no ""true Christian Pediphiles. They are just in your own prejudise little mind. Don't mix up what you feel is true for what is really real!
7-26-2009 @ 3:57AM
Marcus said...I bet dear old mom can't wait to see how little junior is hung at 18.
7-26-2009 @ 12:58AM
Crystal said...At my house as well! I hate to think that other people could be aloud to control how & what we to in our own homes. There is even a nude beach here & I take my children way way far down where no one else is, & they surf nude.play nude etc... Even to the point now my sister lets her 13month old go nude as well!!
7-26-2009 @ 12:48AM
Bon Jour Eddie said...In this hard day and age we live in there are monsters on the internet and just in your neighborhood, its sad really, but cover the children now a days its the only safety new we have to protect our youth, I may be cinical but truthful about your babies, 30 years ago it was awesome but now a days its just not safe for thier safety really am i crazy???
7-26-2009 @ 1:43AM
Laredo said...I agree... It's up to the owners of the home what goes on inside... But once outside, I think clothes should be worn... I actually wish we DID STILL live in a society where nudity was acceptable... but the fact is we just can't anymore, regardless of age... :/
7-26-2009 @ 2:10AM
Julie said...I've had neighbors who let their young children (3-4 yrs) outside in public in the nude - boys and girls. In the privacy of the home, it's OK, but in public it's trashy.
7-26-2009 @ 4:10AM
KAREN said...I hope you are not nude in front of your child. It is not only unsanitary but it is just not right. Wow. Not a good way to raise you child if you are nude in front of him. Don't know about that.
7-26-2009 @ 5:06AM
William said...As a Nudist, I think that one of the worst things that we can do is give children a negative opinion about the Human Body and teach them that their bodies are something dirty. We of course want to teach them early about bad touching and warn them of Pedophiles but we must also show them the beauty of their bodies and the freedom that full nudity brings.
7-26-2009 @ 5:17AM
Gordon said...What else goes on in your house, Nicola, when strangers aren't around? With no boundaries, that leaves a wide perimeter to the imagination.
7-26-2009 @ 6:27AM
Lynn said...If you are running around nude in front of your young sons and or daughters its considered a form of chid abuse under CPS guidelines,
7-26-2009 @ 10:40AM
Ted Adams said...People are born innocent as baby's, we only learn what is evil dirty or embarrassing from adults, Nudity at any age is ok only adult thinking makes it bad and mostly in the U.S.A. most other countrys don't have A problem with it.
7-27-2009 @ 1:31AM
tanner said...I think thats awsome that your family doesnt have such an uptight view on clothing. i agreee that in front of company or at someone elses house you should be modest as to not make them feel uncomfortable. But i honestly think that people take clothing to seriously. I have a tendency to not care about wearing a shirt or even changing shorts in front of people,even my friends that are girls. but my dad freaks about it. haha i wasnt aware that shirts were manditory, especially considering i wasnt born with one on.
7-21-2009 @ 2:22PM
SKL said...I'm the opposite. My girls are 2.5 and I tell them that hanging out totally naked is for bathtime. Before I even started saying that, they would see someone without a shirt on and spontaneously say, "that man is naked. He needs to put a shirt on."
For one thing, it's not sanitary to have naked bottoms sitting all over the place. It's not good for the furniture nor for their plumbing.
For another thing, you never know who's going to walk up and knock on the door or cut through the back patio. And sometimes we have extended-stay house guests. I'd rather my girls were in the habit of being covered up, versus having to be told to run and get clothes on when the occasion calls for it.
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7-25-2009 @ 9:40PM
bellered said...So, your front door is, what, hanging beads?
And if people are wandering through your patio, maybe you've got bigger issues than nudity. Have you considered putting up a sign, or a fence, or a rottweiler? Or using some blinds?
Home should be a safe place. Do they really need their first hangup already?
I'm not a granola-crunchy, everybody-get-nekkid sort of person. In fact, I run a fairly clothing-mandatory household. Still, teaching the kids that the only times their bodies can be uncovered is when they absolutely *must* be so you can get clean seems awfully hardcore. Is it really that you're trying to keep your kids safe, or do you maybe have some issues yourself with nudity?
7-25-2009 @ 11:13PM
Marie said...I soo agree with you, but if I may add you also do not know what the hell kind of sicko may be looking for that cheap thrill!!! I know it sounds extreme to think this way , but your kids are the best things in your life and in this day and age you need to think of this.
7-21-2009 @ 2:42PM
Daisy said...In the safety of your own home nudity shouldn't be a problem, outside is a different story, for instance that innocent looking person taking pictures of the ocean could just as well photograph your naked child and put on some sick website. I don't believe todays parents are too worried about their kids, things have changed quite a lot since the good old days. http://www.womansindex.com
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7-22-2009 @ 12:50PM
Kelly said...Daisy,
I do not believe things are worse in regards to pedophiles.. I think we are more aware of it due to the media. Or maybe even "hyper-sensitive" to it because of the media. There have always been and will always be extremely sick people out there unfortunately. It's our jobs as parents to protect, protect, protect. (and I am speaking from the perspective of someone that was not protected as a child). As far as nudity, I think our children have a very short and limited time to feel the freedom of nudity and to be able to run around the house, free as a bird is wonderful. I agree that it's not okay if there are guests in the house, but to be able to run outside in the yard through sprinklers, and feel the warm ground under their bottoms is part of being a child! We shouldn't turn something like nudity in children into a shameful feeling. Let children be children.
7-22-2009 @ 6:59AM
Justin said...We're certainly a "no-boundaries" house as well. I have two boys who now are 8 and 9 and have basically shown their own modesty all on their own. It was never really laid out as a set of rules for instance "no nudity in front of guests" etc. They just understood it was fine around mom and dad and stuff but not for everyone who walked to the door.
I'm not worried about anyone coming through my back yard (I'm out there supervising as well of course. Like "duuuh" as my boys would say). And as for the door, well a simple "Could you just give my son a second, he's getting changed" is more than suffice if I'm that worried. Most of the time anyone knocking at the door has kids of the same age and are seeing the exact same thing anyway, so it's not like anyone cares.
I hate and am downright disgusted with what society has turned into lately with this kind of thing. Sorry but I'm not following. There's something wrong out there when a kid can't even be themselves. So I'm not contributing to the close-minded stupidity.
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