Woman Jailed For Dragging Kid on Leash

Leashes/harnesses weren't made for human beings. They were made for dogs. I would NEVER put my child on a leash. It's demeaning, cruel, and absolutely uncalled for. What happened to teaching your kids to listen? They can't learn to obey if you don't teach them. Just because they don't listen to you doesn't mean you resort to strapping a leash to them. Now, if you had a dog who refused to be obedient and heel when you commanded, then a leash would be appropriate. Sometimes dogs are just too stubborn to teach, and giving up understandable.

Don't give up on your kids just because they don't listen the first few times you tell them to stay with you. You continue to teach them until they understand. (And resorting to any kind of physical punishment is completely unnecessary.)

If you know your child is difficult to handle when you shop, leave them with a babysitter, at day care, with Grandma, etc. And if you shop with your spouse, maybe you should take turns staying home to watch the little one while the other enjoys a peaceful and painless shopping experience. You may not want to do that, but they aren't young for long.

I don't know what the circumstances were when this video was taken, but DRAGGING your child?! Yeah, the kid could have been being difficult with their mother in the store (tantrum, crying, kicking, etc) but dragging the kid (the reason has NOTHING to do with it) was inhumane. Why didn't the woman just pick the child up and carry them out??

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now i can understand how children can be little d**k heads but to use a leash is like saying that you are such a bad parent that you have to treat your kid like a mindless beast is f**ked up. i mean even dogs dont need leashes if they are trained properly. and to drag your child is out of the question. i mean WHAT THE F**K!!

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i dont really see a problem with the harness but dragging your child across the floor? im sure the hurt the kid and the mother isnt doing any good for herself..or her kid for that matter.

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I use a harness on my child because I'm afraid of her letting go of my hand and taking off while cars are around or someone grabbing her while I'm picking out groceries. The harnesses have a stiff animal backpack with a leash. She has tried to run off and her head start turned into a got nowhere but the ground end. The backpack protected her and she rarely does it anymore. The harnesses are ment to keep children safe but not to drag children around a store with.

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Wow, some of the comments on here blow my mind. How does anyone know if this woman is a good mom, or a bad mom just based on this video clip. No one knows if she is single parent who got knocked up by accident or in a loving marriage, and had planned this child. Just based on this video clip. Here I see a mom, who may or may not have been dealing with an unruly child. The mom is not jerking or yanking on the harness. The child is riding along, like he might be enjoying it. I see nothing wrong with what she did. Someone even commented about you don't wait till they are 6 or 7 to try to make them act right. This kid couldn't have been more than 4. My kids at 4 would act up some times. We worked out fixes. Every child is different. I know once I took a friends child to the store with me, and they had one of those carts with the extended seating section on it for multiple non infant size kids. My kids were calmly strapped into the cart. although they can and did walk with me. This other child screamed through the entire store because I wouldn't carry her like her mom did. I was like, "honey I can't carry you, and push the cart, and grab the groceries so you have to sit strapped into the seat with the other two." people thought I was aweful for not picking her up. I heard them. But, you can only do what you can do. I myself cannot push a cart, load it with groceries and hold a 2 year old who was perfectly capable of sitting in the seat with the others. I ended up having to let my kids out because when she didn't get her way she began kicking and scratching them. So they calmly walked beside me, a bit frustrated for losing their cool ride. Our rule for walking was you must hold the side of the cart at all times. If you let go without permission (unless they tripped or something) you didn't get your treat. Needless to say my friends child didn't get her treat. My kids knew not to scream in a store. They did get their treat. My friend thanked me later. Her daughter asked about a treat the next time she took her to a store, and my friend told her only if you be a good girl while we shop. And guess what. She was. It only takes once. Follow through is the golden rule.

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I didn't see the child screaming in pain while the mother dragged him/her out. People that see this as an injustice must have never experienced having small children whom are figgety, or misbehaving while shopping. Maybe mom said walk out or I'll drag you out. I remember when I was young my mother used to carry a belt and wore my behind out if I misbehaved. So this is nothing compared to other cases of child abuse. I wish the people that turned her in could spend a week in her shoes with her problems and kids. Then they'd probably get a harness of their own and have someone drag them out the house...lol

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The women dragged her child around! Sure she doesn't deserve to have this video all over the internet, but she dragged her child around in public. THATS WRONG! what part of that doesn't seem wrong?

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Putting her in jail just degrades our justice system further. tattletales at the mall should mind their own business especially if they don't have kids.
I was a miserable boy child but I absolutely loved it when she dragged me around S.Kliens on the Square screaming at the top of my lungs. It is one of my fondest memories and I never said "No" again when she said, "let's go".

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1. My 2 yr. old can wiggle out of my hand in a second

2. When he's throwing a fit, HE DOESN'T HEAR me or at least acts that way.

3. So............when he chooses to embarass me and make us a public spectacle, I let him know, before all Heck brakes loose, That when we get home, mommy has the upper hand.

4. I follow through with an old fashion spanking he won't soon forget.

I love my son more than then anything in the World!!!! I want the best for him. I will teach him........In life "There are RULES" and if you break them, the law will be harder on you then mommy EVER was.

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I saw a woman slap her kids hand a 4 year old for shoplifting and i thought she did the right thing. with in 5 min the cops were there had her in cuffs and the dfs that was there shoping took the kid. they said she was beating the kid and she lost him to dfs. i was there and saw what the kid did and she only slaped his hand and took the candy out of his pocket. she lost her kids and was be in jail a long time. the state wants kids to be thiefs and killers so they can get more money from the few tax payers we have left.

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OK, Mommy don't drag your brat by a leash. Did she think that this was the only option. Maybe she could of carried her kid kicking and screaming all the way to the car?

Or, maybe she could of made a spectical of the situation and let the child scream bloody murder, with the embarrassment of the parent having a child out of control in public?

Its such a sensative issue with a child who is controling the parent and making the poor mom exhusted, feed up and really at her ropes end.

What to do maybe put the mom through some parenting classes, teach her about how to be a strong parent with rules of behavior for her kids that doesn't involve force?

Man, glad I'm not a dad I think I would go balistic if my kid acted like this little person. But I've got to remember the times I acted just like this little person and caused my mom to smoke cigs like a train.

God bless this mom and her kid maybe she's learned an important lesson. May our judicial system be compassionate with her.

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I had two boys that were 18 months apart and the youngest one would just RUN away when we were out someplace. I was so afraid he would run out in traffic, or run someplace I couldn't find him and be picked up by a sicko. I had a harness on him and a leash - I make no apologies to ANYONE, I might have been able to handle him, but not the two going in opposite directions. Stop being judgemental!

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I was appalled when I saw the woman dragging that child. I have grand-children, If one miss behaved, We went to the car, and left, the shopping center, If they were bad, I always tried not to put myself in a situation that got out of control. Some children can be very difficult, But she should of had a stroller to put the child in, The child probabley threw a tantrum, she should of picked up the child and carried it to the car, And went home, Got someone to wach the child, and then came back, It was not good jugement on the womans part, that was involved. the child could of been hurt,

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if children where still brought up in my generation theywould have a harnes and leash on and no one would object, we had less child obductions, better child behavior and a good swat on the back side straightened out many children. we didnt have the punks we have today with no respect for anyone and them selves

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when my son was young , i had a harness for him , i used it when we went to malls , amusement parks , and other places where alot of people were around , i didnt want him to get lost or kidnapped

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Well, as a mom and grandma I say....you either drag the little monster by the leash or throw him over your should and carry the beast to the car. Unfortunately, if you are carrying a screaming kid over your shoulder someone might think you are taking them, with the harness...it is clear. He belongs to her! Maybe the "long drag" is a bit excessive, but I can assure you...some toddlers don't give up. Gotta give the woman credit for trying. (yes, I have a grown son who wore a harness, and my grandson wore one as a toddler too) I was chewed out by random stangers for this ...which I let them know was better than the alternative of my kids getting lost and running into strange people (like the ones who take it upon themselves to approach me like that)

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Ok, I understand that children can misbehave... Wonder if the thought of LEAVING THE KID AT HOME WITH A BABYSITTER ever crossed her mind. She should be jailed and child taken away. END OF STORY.

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C Robert- do you have children w/ any type of mule headedness, stubborness, ADHD, etc? Do you have any children period? I have a son who is 6. I didn't "leash" him, however there were times he did get away from me and it petrified me to death b/c he could have been hurt or worse killed b/c he wasn't looking where he was going. If this contraption was around the torso of this child, no harm was done. Too many people have their noses in too many other people's business. Take care of what you have to take care of personally before sticking it where it does not belong.

As a teacher, I have students just like some adults. Always in other people's business and then not doing what was asked of them. HMMM.... sounds familiar. I tell them take care of themselves first and then worry about others. Unless the other person is hurting themself, dieing, bleeding, or injuring someone else... then don't worry about it! I will take care of it.

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I usually don't take the time to respond to these articles, but Wow I cannot believe the parenting going on here:

--"TOLD MY KIDS YOUNG ABOUT STRANGERS AND IF YOU RUN AWAY FROM MOMMY SOMEONE IS GONNA TAKE YOU AND THEY WILL HURT YOU AND YOU WONT SEE MOMMY AGAIN" I cannot even begin to tell how abusive this comment is to a child. Children need to feel safe and loved and need to feel that the adults in their life are taking care of that. Telling child something like that puts a huge strain/burden on them.

--"My child would fall to the ground while holding her hand. This pulled her arm out of socket while we were shopping."
How hard did this parent pull back to dislocate this child’s arm?

--"They put her in jail and charged her with child neglect. So now she doesn't have her kids and facing a trial on top of it. Just because she went to the bathroom. Now tell me what's wrong with this picture?" What is wrong is that she knew her child had ADHD and she needed to make darn sure he is safe before doing anything that takes him out of your sight. I do agree that the punishment may not fit the crime; I think there may be more than meets the eye here.

--"...the child was NOT in any physical danger or experiencing any sensation other than perhaps a little pressure around his/her torso from being 'dragged' across a slippery store floor. So, if the child was not being hurt physically, what is the problem here?"
How can you judge what that child was physically feeling? You have no way of knowing. The problem is that as parents it is our job to care for and nurture our children and teach them life skills through our positive examples. How does pulling a "harnessed child' teach the child any behavioral or coping skills. It will teach them fear and anger and to deal with frustration by physically over powering others.

Please know that children do not think the way adults do (and they learn much buy imitating) Children don't have "filters" everything that is said or done (or not said or done) affects a child greatly. We are all teachers and we need to be aware of our words and deeds when we are near children!
Parents need to realize that children get tired and frustrated. Each new place is very stimulating and often stressful for a young child and they may not be able to comply with the demand of an adult schedule.
As a note, if you have a hard time maintaining proper behavior of a child and you are unable to leave them with a reliable sitter ...there are strollers, slings and carts with seat belts to keep the child cared for and safe. Be clam, be kind care and love the children..."do onto others as you would have them do onto you" is the best advice here. I don't think that woman would want to be dragged across the floor because she was tired and didn't want to shop anymore. I hope this can get her to learn about parenting in a more effective loving way. I too am concerned that if she does this kind of thing in public, what is she doing in the privacy of her home?

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