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Sarah Palin: Levi Welcome at Thanksgiving Table; Johnston Declines
Former Alaska Gov. Sarah Palin told Oprah that she is willing to bury the hatchet with Levi Johnston, baby-daddy to her first grandchild, and says that he is welcome at her Thanksgiving table.
Palin told Oprah that she's trying to move past the negative and concentrate on life without drama. Johnston, she says, is part of the family and she's willing to "bring him into the fold" and under her wing.
"And he needs that, too, Oprah, I think he needs to know that he is loved and he has the most beautiful child and this can all work out for good," she says in the interview, which is scheduled to run Nov. 16. "It really can."
But it doesn't look like he'll be taking a bite of her sweet potato pie anytime soon, according to Gawker. In an interview he did today with Playgirl, Johnston says of the former vice-presidential candidate's invitation, "You could tell by her laugh she was full of it." So much for that reunion.
The Palin family generates reams of tabloid coverage, and Johnston is among the principal players. From his mother's arrest for drug dealing to the infamous "Vanity Fair" interview wherein he did his best to further tarnish the already endangered reputation of the former vice presidential candidate, Johnston has done a lot to engender Palin's wrath.
Her willingness to forgive and forget got us thinking: What is it about the holidays that makes us open our hearts? The cynic in us wonders if all the warm fuzzies are just an effort to divert attention from the more sordid aspects of the Palin clan's family history, but the holidays do offer plenty of reasons to reflect on family and what it really means.
Susan Stiffelman, Califorina-based family and marriage therapist and ParentDish's Advice Mama, said that the costs of alienation must be weighed against the benefit of keeping our distance from family members who may upset us.
"Regardless of the who-did-what-when-and-why, in the end, no one wins when families splinter and disconnect," she says. "The holidays offer all of us a chance to weigh the benefit of maintaining our righteous position versus the cost, and inspiring us to -- hopefully -- discover that reconciliation and forgiveness offer us a chance to wrap up the year with more love, connection and more peace of mind."
Johnston and Palin are odd bedfellows indeed, but they are forever linked through DNA in the form of Palin's grandson, Tripp. Perhaps this unusual grandmother recognizes that fact.
We do, however, wonder what Bristol Palin had to say to her mother behind closed doors about the impromptu invitation.
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Start by teaching him that it is safe to do so.