Tune In: "Expecting 15 Babies"

Agreed! What happened to waiting patiently and just conceiving naturally? Most people try for a year, then automatically think some thing is wrong and they have to get invitro. It took us almost 2 years to conceive our first, then 15 months for our second. Why rush to invitro and all that ridiculous medicine. Just wait and it will happen if it is meant to be. Sorry I dont think there is anything special about multiples, especially when modern medicine is involved. Maybe some people are not meant to be parents. Why not adopt one of those needy children out in the world that honestly need a home?

Women were not created to have "litters". Yes, if it were possible to naturally conceived in such numbers, it would be very exciting, but science in its arrogance tries to outdo nature.

ALL babies are exciting! The fact that they needed help to conceive is not the fault of the babies.

I think that you are wrong about overpopulation. Seems to me that most of Americans having pets instead children and have problem later on in life because nobody looking after them. Look how many people die in war and accidents. Another clue is that big families are fun and actually more active and outgoing then with couple kids or one. We need big families and less selfish parents in our country.

yeah, nothing like breading like cockroaches. We should make them eat their young on live tv, now that would be a show. Atleast then we wouldn't have to be the community that it takes to raise soo many children.

i have to agree with you. the world population has tripled at an alarming rate and we now have t genetically grow food with no nutritional content just to feed the masses. the population is a major world issue that is destroying all other populations of life that enable a healthy balance in the world. where i live the deer graze in pop up developement areas because there are no real forests anywhere around anymore. these people need to put away the fertialization drugs!

Thank you! Yes! There is nothing wrong with having a large family (we are currently expecting our 4th) and we have a lot of love in our house. We are going to stop after 5, as we want to ensure that we as parents are the ones raising the children, not the other children (*ahem* Duggars *ahem*)

As for those crying about overpopulation, in many countries, particularly Spain, Italy and other European countries the population is decreasing! So if you don't like it here, just move there... :)

Peace!
Inger

Hi Alexandria - I totally understand your pain it also hurts me when people bash our new medical breakthroughs that allows us to be parents. I have been married for seven years and have tried for six and have never had been able to have a child neither. What many people don't understand is that no matter how many countless procedures you go through or do when god is ready to give you a child he will - I know because I have tried other treatments (no invitro) and still have not been able to conceive. So, for those people who are blessed with that fortune to downplay the right for a person to conceive when they naturally can't is very wrong.

It's unfortunate that so many people are anaware of what "infertile" couples go through. That's why these folks turn to ART (assisted reproductive technollogy) procedures. You don't just go and ask your doc to refer you to someone to help you have multiples. They are referred to specialists after not being able to conceive naturally over a period of time (based on age). It's easy to judge when you haven't walked on their shoes. I've read other comments these folks should adopt to give a home to a homeless child or because of overpopulation issue in the nation, but how can any of us say what is right for another persons circumstances? There are financial and legal obligations in adoption & there are time constraints & even heartbreaking disappointments. It is a blessing that so many folks are turning to adoption, but most of those are not candidates for ART procedures and/or they have biological children of their own and can afford to love another child and welcome them to their families! I highly doubt any of these folks ever imagined they would end up with quads or quints or sextuplets. I would dare guess those are rare cases where a person actually plans for a risky pregnancy. If you go to sart.org to view the summary of success rates for IVF (invitro fertilization), you will see the percentage of multiples is not over the top. Women under 35 have the highest twin rate, but they are also the ones who are most successful with these procedures because a woman becomes advanced maternal age once she hits 35. The rate of triplets or more was only 1.8% for this group of women in 2007 (the most current stats reported). This is much better than prior years (2006 was 2% and 2005 was 4.3%) because reproductive endocrinologists are practicing more responsibly now that the procedures have been around long enough to know how many embryos are appropriate to transfer per age group & diagnosis. There are always going to be a few cases that make the news even with the safest practice procedures. Just be glad you are not the ones having to resort to these costly (both financially and emotionally) procedures.

I happen to be 43 and have a natural child, but I am very sensitive to these families and what they go through simply because I am close to many that have gone through it, both successfully and unsuccessfully.

There is a difference in not being able to conceive and these people that are doing it on purpose for the sake of getting their own T.V. show or news popularity ... Octo-mom anyone?

That’s the problem, the me society! In your statement, you said "how can you enjoy...", but you don't need to enjoy. The children don't even need to enjoy. There are some children from large families that truly enjoy the experience, and some that don't. There are many only children that wish they had siblings. If people needed to enjoy everything, what would this world come to? Who enjoys, taking out the trash, cleaning poopy diapers, or many other things? We have the responsibility to do those things. That includes parents of 1 or 7 children. You enjoy the love each child brings, not the work that goes into it, I believe that parents of large families, and ones with multiples, feel blessed not necessarily enjoyment. Some people feel that this is their chance to have a child that is truly part of their DNA. They take the risk of having more than one. That is a choice they might have to make, but that doesn't mean that you know what’s right for their family. They have weighed the options themselves. Should someone choose for us how many children have? Most people who would answer that "yes", would be horrified if someone told them that something they wanted was not accessible to them, because they might be offending someone. People like doing what they want to do, but when it comes to someone else making a personal decision, they can't stand not being in control of their life too!