Moms With Young Kids Are the Angriest Americans

I feel sad for those who do not have children.. When we are old and gray we will laugh at those things that made us so angry and realize how great it is to have our children, grandchildren and family around us that love us. It must be lonesome for the poor souls who had a choice not to have children because they were too selfish with themselves, careers, ect in their young ages. I am 26 and the mother of two wonderful little girls.. At times I want to lock myself in my bedroom and hand them over to my husband but when I think about how much love I get from those little girls, I would never want to have a life without children.

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Lela, I really don't understand why you would bother commenting on this page if you have no kids and have all this misplaced pity for those of us who do.
Wendy, stressed, exhausted moms who feel guilty enough for having just yelled like a crazy person at their innocent 3 year old really do not need to read posts like yours. Yes, we know that our kids are a blessing. Yes, we love them more than our own lives, more than anything you could possibly describe...but, sometimes they drive you so crazy that you just want to hurl yourself out of the window, screaming at the top of your voice.
I love my 2 kids (aged 4 and 1 1/2) to distraction, and I know I yell too much. I remind myself every day to breathe deeply and try to keep my cool, but sometimes you just lose it. I think that as long as you are not using cutting or insulting comments towards your little ones, then you're probably not damaging them too much.
Moms are people too.

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Lela, Again I ask, If your life is so great childrenless, why is it you have nothing better to do than to comment on a PARENTING blog? Lets hope you dont enjoy your grayhair days alone with some horrible sickness because you will wish you would have raised a loving caring child to at the very least bring you a glass of water. The noise and chaos is well worth knowing that to a special little soul you are the their favorite person in the whole wide world and that they'd give the world for your happiness as you would for them.

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I have to say that the reason moms angry because they were not ready when they had the kids. Like my own mother, who had 5 children. All my life, i've always seen her screaming and yelling. She always wished that she didn't have us. She wished that she had the abortion or throw us all away, etc. She regret that she had us. Personally, i thought "who ask to be born?" She's been telling me all these mean words since i was young, and still saying them until this day. Personally, I thought she shouldn't have any of us. None of her kids want to get near her. And right now, she's living with me and driving me crazy. Everytime she argues with me, she always said that she'll move, but she's never moved.
I'm a mom of a wonderful 4 years old girl. i always thought she's the best thing that has ever happen to me. There's never a moment that I wish i didn't have her. Every moment, I thank God for given her to me.
All I can say is that don't have kids if you are not ready- it doesn't matter how old you are. If you have kids when you are not ready, all you do is just scream, frustrated, angry, resentment, and yell at your kids for annoying you, bothering you, and ruin your life. And when you are ready to have kids, you'll find that having them is the best thing that have ever happened to you.
So, even for those, who chose to have no kids, they will be happy with their decision when they're old. They don't want to have kids, that doesn't make them bad people. They just know in their heart that they are not meant to be parents, and that parenting is not for them. Therefore, there's nothing wrong for not wanting to have children.
Once again, don't have kids if you are not ready.

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i dnt yell at my son because kids will be kids. my sons only two so i let him act like hes two. and when yur kids get older and yu tell them quit acting like yur a two years old well hell what do yu expect whne they were two yu wanted them to stop acting like a two year old. but dont get me wrong yeah he gets in trouble but not over the little stuff. i think parnets need more self control reather then the kids. and for some ppl if yu qiut having all these kids maybe yu wont be stressing..(lol.)

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As a twenty-four year old mother of 3 ages 3,2, and 7 months and full time student, I can surely say it is incredibly stressful. Anger is a normal emotion and it should be no surprise that having children at an age of extreme defiance and limited understanding anger will ensue.
Although we would all like to have the utopia that Wendy so strongly discribed we as parents know that this euforic moment usually happens at the end of the day when you finally stop fighting/bribing the toddler to go to bed and sleep. Your baby "sleeping like a baby"... that is a utopia after a long stressful day.

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Destiny,
I do not think that being angry at the situation with your child/children is always the result of having children too soon...in your case with your mom that is unfortunate. I do think that having kids no matter how ready you think you might be is a huge culture shock. Parenting is unppredictable, some try to do what their parents did but when dealing with your children each of them have different personalities and therefore there are no uniform answers to parenting.
I do get angry and discouraged, not because I did not want my kids...I actually planned my children there was no surprise, however the surprise was what parenting is like. You truly don't know what it is like til you're knee deep. I don't thik anger is an issue with parenting...it is how you expell that anger that truly matters.

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I agree with a lot of the moms here on the discipline angle. Ihave five kids...15,12,8,5 and 21/2 and I'll tell you what.I was a ppreschool/daycare teacher BEFORE becoming a mom. Time outs did/does not work for all my kids. I as a child never had a time-out. I did something wrong or touched something that I was told not to and I received a slap on the hand or the butt....I dont abuse my children but they do recieve the occasional spanks and if it works for the children a time-out....plus we use grounding and removal of toys....there are so many ways to discipline beyond time out!!

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"Too Late Now", good thing your parents weren't as self centered as you are. I guarantee you, one day you will regret not having children in your life. Guaranteed.

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My kids are now 17,16 & 13...I miss the terrible 2's it was much easier I thought

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Wendy i agree children are a blessing and a beatiful and also a big challange. Its always easier to blame a parent or the mother. I have 4 kids 3 boys(age groups4-15 0 AND 1 girl 7 God help me daily and every min. Let me ask you what would you do at 6:30 am-until7:30 Getting these gifted brain damage childern out of bed dressed breakfast catch bus and make sure everyone is ready from night before.Im as calm and repectful to my kids as they are to me. every day i have to repeat my self 100 times. Also explain why about every thing and kids have no real values as we did;thanks too to many wendy;s in the world. Also kids always think were not fair i'd like to see them raised in our days. screaming comes from not always having the suport we need, and better than abuse some times the real mothers need to show the HAD ENOUGH.

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I am a mom of a 4 year old. And you know what annoys me to no end are moms who are always acting in public like they are perfect, they never have to raise their voices or scold their children, but then I think it's all a facade and how must they be in their own homes. Honestly my daughter does get me angry at least ONCE a day, many more times usually. I try not to yell but when driven to the breaking point I do yell. I get angry. I threaten. I bribe. Whatever it takes. Let me tell you that it does get easier as they get older, at least the types of problems change. I found that after I became a mom for the first two years at least when I hardly ever had a good night's sleep, felt fat and flabby and unattractive to my husband, and argued with him about how to raise our daughter my anger and frustration were very much real. My marriage suffered, I constantly snapped at my husband and became a real bitch. My sex life was practically non-existent because I was so tired all the time. It's not easy. But now things are much better, I can enjoy my daughter without worrying CONSTANTLY about her as I did when she was younger. I look forward to her growing up more and following her on that journey. I probably don't want another kid though because I can't stand dealing with an infant again.

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I have three kids ages 6, 5 and 3. I love my kids more than anything else in the world and they are a blessing but if we all acted like Wendy than our kids would never learn good behavior. Anger is not only a natural human emotion, but is sometimes needed given the situation. Think of how disillusioned our kids would be when the entered the real world if the beleived no one ever got angry. Part of being a good parent is preparing them for when they grow up and are on their own. Its not healty for anyone involved when you make your kids live in a bubble where everything is always ok. Look around, everythin in the world is definately not ok. Kids have to learn thet there are consequences for their actions and normal people get mad and frustrated sometimes. If you keep all of your anger inside for fear of what others think than it will be worse when you are alone with your child. I'm not saying that you should always get mad at your child and/or yell but your kids need to know that emotions are a natural part of being human and that you are not a mindless robot without feelings.

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