My Mother Hates My Baby Name

Agnes is a horrible name,your little girl will hate it too!!

Yep, Agnes was our school librarian...and you guessed it....hair in a bun, glasses on a chain, wrinkly, crabby old lady...so when I hear the name Agnes, thats what I think of. I'm sure thats what your mom envisions when she hears the name....I think its a generation thing.

It's your baby. Your parents got to name you, and you in turn name YOUR baby. Mom and anyone else that doesn't like it can pound sand up their @$$.

I wouldn't leave it to grandparents in all cases. My mother in law was a cruel, vicious woman, She didn't like my bro in law's 'Trisha', so she called the girl Trasha. When one of my daughters was born, we had chosen together Jocelyne Kimberlie for her name. My husband liked the JKL initials and I thought that not only was the name beautiful, but the spellings unique as she is. My mother in law said that if we kept that name, she'd never have a thing to do with our daughter. When she died a year ago, Jocelyne (prefers Josie but loves her name) asked us why her grandmother never paid any attention to her, as that evil (IMO) woman kept her word. At 17 years old, we thought it best to tell her the truth although it took a while for Josie to stop blaming herself for her grandmother's ignorance. She was like that with everyone anyway for one reason or another. On the other hand, my oldest named Margaret and nicknamed Meg as her grandmother was, was called "Meggie pie" by her grampa and only him and she loved it. As a six time grandmother myself, I do my "job" - I love my grandchildren whether I "like" their names or not, There's no more precious gift than our children and grandchildren and some women have to get that straight before she alienates her daughter like my mother in law did to ALL her daughters in law.

The only time someone should comment on a name they don't like is if it will be determental to the child. Ex the name my sister chose, should she have a girl was Alexandra Scarlet... and my sis' last name starts with an S.... All I said was look at the child's initials.

My daughter named my grandson Sebastian and I did not like it at all. I tried to come up with other alternatives. She stood her ground and named him Sebastian. He is now 3 and I am so glad that she did because that name fits him to a T

Compromise please, for the sake of your child ... make Agnes her middle name. I agree with your mother, its an old fashion name and not a very favored one back then either. OMG it reminds me of my childhood friends mother, fat and 40. See what happens? If you must, how about something like Julia Agnes? It has a more feminine tone. Get the picture?

My neice is named Agnes (she's 1 1/2 now) and I gotta tell you, before she was born I wasn't crazy bout it (it's her paternal grandmothers name). Once she was born I couldn't think of anything else I'd rather call her. She is such an Agnes!!! She's perfect in every way. I think that children become their name once they are born and later in life you will look back and think "how could I have named you anything but Agnes?"
Best of luck to you!!

Agnes is lovely, timeless, sounds nice, involves soft buccal and facial muscles to produce it. Stick with it, go with your heart, ignore the grannies. It's your baby, you make the decisions. And guess what, baby Agnes will grow up into a lovely young lady who one day will thank you for giving her such a classy name.

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um, it's her child. they can name their own child whatever they want. on top of that, they both agreed on the name. no need to feel guilty about it.

Agnes is a terrible name. I would certainly want to change my name if my parents named me Agnes. Surely, you can come up with a better name. Sorry, Agnes is an awful name and I agree with your mother.

We had the same problem with my side of the family when we named our daughter, my in-laws never said a word, bless their hearts! My husband and I had a hard enough time of our own picking a name that we both liked that by the time my parents and sister starting chiming in that they didn't like it I really wasn't open to discussion on the matter. When it kept up and kept up I reminded my sister that I didn't chose her sons names and asked my parents if my grandparents had been as tough on them as they were being on me. You would have thought that we were naming her something crazy the way they carried on! Madalyn Grace is almost 9 months old now, everyone calls her Maddie, and I agree with some of the other comments that once that baby is born the last thing they will be worried about is her name. It's your child, the only opinion that matters is yours! Good luck!

I think it is an ugly name. Still, I think the mother should have kept her mouth shut. It appears that she went on and on about her dislike for the name, not nice to do to your own daughter who happens to love a name. It's better than Agitha lol.

My daughter's name is Adelaide. I love it, and I think it's sweet, feminine, and different. We call her Addie for short. It suits her totally.
My father and grandmother both hated it. My father even went so far as to say "Why can't you call her something cute, like Lindsay?" which is my niece's name. Now they both love it. They agree that it fits her, and it was the right choice. Relatives need to realize that even though you're close to someone, it doesn't give you the ok to say whatever the heck you want.
Wait till they hear the names I have picked out next... ;)
They'll get over it...it's your kid, not anyone elses.

Nessie is STUPID! The kid will be teased and asked if she has ever bathed at Loch Ness.

when my sister and I were both pregnant, my mother-in law hate the name Brandy for her daughter's child. She asked me to call her "sissy" together with her, to show our disapproval. I didn't disapprove, and kept my own choices to myself! My child was a boy, and since I had lost my father, we named him for his paternal grandfather. Since my husband's father had the same name, they had no problem, but told anyone who asked that he was named for my husbands father. It hurt but I learned to keep things to myself. I'm happily remarried but the naming of my child still stings. Leave the Mom and Dad to choose the name so you don't dim the happiness of the child's arrival. Agnes is a pretty name!

I agree every name we chose for our children my mother hated. PUT poop on that one child is a whiz bang and has won awards with building stuff and the other has gone on to do 2 short movies sang with a major oprah star in DC and stared in several musicals.

agnes is a fine name besides it is your baby not your mothers it is her job to accept it or be quite

i agree, i solved this problem pretty quick with my mother (which was a feat onto itself given the fact she pretty much thought she had veto power on everything,LOL) by telling her when she is pregnant with her grandaughter for 9 months throwing up all day every day is when she can name the baby..Everyone loves Zoe Arielle now and her name....Lisa

While I agree that it is the parents & only the parents right to name their babies, I could not imagine naming one of my children a name that my Mama did not also like. Her opinion means the world to me & I would want her to be happy with my choice(s). Of course one would have to take into consideration the person - I'm fortunate to have a mother that is the sweetest person in the world & only wants what would be best for my child & not selfishly what she might want as a reflection of herself!