Kids From Gay or Straight Parents Fare The Same in Life

I haven't read this article nor do I care to comment on this subject. Whether a child's parents are gay or straight makes absolutely no difference to me. I just feel compelled to point out to the writer that spell check should not be relied upon as his sole means of checking the accuracy of his spelling and grammar. The title of this article should read, "Kids from Gay or Straight Parent(s?) FARE the Same in Life," not "...Fair the Same..."

Call me nitpicky, but this kind of thing irritates me to no end. (I'm sure it is otherwise a brilliant article.)

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That would be "fare" the same in life.

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Love when my readers give good edit!

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Thanks, CLM. We love when readers alert us to typos.

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i hated that i was raised by gay women

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It might be argued and I'm confident there are many many studies that indicate many of our social disorders, even many of our committed people in jail, are a result of our social "approved" definition of marriage. Let's sit up, and listen. Studies, for those who are analytical are showing that children focus and need to be able to depend upon the relationship a grown has with them. They are not as influenced nor do they focus on the relationship of the adults that are raising them. Here is the overall powerful truth. As a child grows up, real life issues are taught to them and they learn at the right times. Along the way, in a gay parenting home, they witness loyal and loving interaction. A child has a parent, hold them in their arms, and tell them stories, or they sit and enjoy the scratching of their back. This love and nurturing goes on for years, and it goes on in a male/female marriage, and it goes on in a female/female marriage and it happens to go on in a male/male parenting relationship. We need to stop thinking that a child being raised in a gay couple home is not going to "fare" as well as a child who is raised in a "convention" male/female relationship. Of course there are going to be more "conventional" homes for a long time, but those who have the courgage to parent, straight or gay alike, are to be commended for their focus on such a personal self-sacrifice. I commend you, and when your children grow up to be good talented and contributing citizens, others will congratulate you as well. In the meantime, and at the same time we need to know and understand that many 'conventional" and "gay" marriages are going to experience tough times while they raise their children. Stop thinking , please everyone stop thinking that these problems what they might be, are tied to the parenting relationship. It just isn't the case. The problems children have are related to issues that can grow up and develop from either a "conventional" female/male parenting relationship, or a "gay" relationship. I am referring and emphasizing that these unfortunate issues are for example: anger, selfishness, materialistic, arrogance, conceit, judgmental, class sensitive and the list can go on and on. Just as the sex of a baby is determined in the genetic process and is determined in the tummy of a woman, so is the sexual preference stamped genetically in the tummy of the woman. This is one of the most interesting processes of maturing that is involved in the growth of the human being. It is the same process as when the youth reach adulthood and they feel all of their adult emotions and experience their sexual drives. This is life. This is real. And, this isn't going to be any different and it will never change this natural process, just because a child is raised by "straight" parents, or "gay" parents. This is what we must focus on as a social order. It's a beautiful chance to help otherrs to "perceive" a little differently, and to allow all people to embrace and experience the calling of parenthood.

Now, I'm going out on a limb a little in this next and final part of my comments, but listen. Just listen, and don't judge. Just feel how this thought process might plug in to our social order and help us so much with our health and parenting issues. Especially if we look beyond our borders, we can appreciate maybe this line of thinking and/or consideration. First, the number of orphaned children, and foster children is a huge consideration for our social order of things. The cost of a state taking a child into custody, from the maternal mother and possibly a boyfriend, is huge. On top of that, the challenge of finding a consenting couple to to take over the care and safe keeping of those children is a very tall order. If you limit that search to just a "straight" couple, can you see the point. It's possibly a social blessing that "gay" couples absolutely want to balance their relationship with children. Anyone who has been a good parent knows the challenge. With the help of any loving couple who wants to adopt and began paying and caring for a child a social order is going to experience the cost of child welfare go down. This is what we need and this is what we should want. Of course those who are more feint of heart towards this attitude are going to need time to allow their hearts and mind to discover the way to change. Let me just suggest that the very best way to give yourself a fair chance is to come into touch with a "gay" couple who are parenting, and make friends and observe how they are facing the challenges of the day, and still, in spite of obstacles socially in the way, they are raising a courageous and confident child. We want to see this more and more I know we do.

Brian

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