How Many Names is Too Many?

I just use the initials of the love ones……

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This worked for us--We used one grandfather's middle name for a first name and the other grandfather's first name as the middle. Both equally weighted and allowed us to have more flexibility in the choices.

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My daughter has two meaningful middle names and she is very proud of both of them.- Whats the problem?

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I named my son after his father although I wanted to name him Tyler with my dad's name as a middle name.
I just added the Tyler in there as another middle name. So he has two middle names

It is a bother on paperwork however and very uncommon.

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I am a product of a family pleaser. I have 2 middle names myself and to be perfectly honest, its not a bother. It doesnt come up on anything but my birth certificate, so no one will ever know unless I decide to share the 2nd name with them. No matter how many names he/she may be given, society always asks for First Name, Middle Initial, Last Name.

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My family is very small. When chosing names for my little two, I chose names from both sides of my husbands and my family. My children are Camille (original) Aynsleigh (incorporates my side) Mozelle (my grandmother in law) and Miles (original) Ngosi (husbands name) Everton (brother in law). This way, everyone feels a part of it. My children mostly go by their first names, but when they are in trouble....the whole alphabet comes out. LOL.

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I take exception to the people sayihng 'this isn't Europe' or 'I thought only Mexicans did that'. My family is from Europe (non-Hispanic) and there's both the tradition for multiple middle names and NO middle names. My grandmother was the youngest of 8 and none of them had middle names. My father on the other hand had two. I gave both my children two middle names as well, and 3 of those 4 were family names.

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Yea! i'm a melanie also1 i got an idea how about intials? something like Lyla CEE M? OR- LIL MEL-M? LOL! I meant Lyla Mel C.?
OR- Melanie L. Clara?

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I am 6 months pregnant and going to have a little girl. We went back and forth with names and decided on a first name, but couldn't choose between a non-family name and a family name as her middle name. So we just used both. Her name will be Adeline Brielle Victoria. I have been getting strange looks and even awkward comments from people when we tell them the name which led me to feel like it's too long. One favorite comment seems to be, "Well good luck to her in school, she won't be able to write our her full name until 5th grade!" But I know if I didn't include both names, I would regret it down the road. And too, I think it sounds like a royal name! LOL Very classy and regal :) This article was just what I needed to help me feel right with my decision. Thanks :)

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I have two middle names -- as do all 3 of my brothers, though my sister only has 1 middle name. We actually like having the extra name, some of us actually want to be called by one of our middle names, rather than our first names! Peter McKenzie prefers McKenzie, and Paul Michael prefers Mike! So, it's good to have more than one middle name -- leaves more choices for you, AND them.

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To the lady in the original email, a simple compound for the middle name could be Melara.(accent is on the second syllable) It even rings well with Lyla. (Lyla Melara)

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How ridiculous...think of the child first. I didn't name my children after anyone in the family and I would not want anyone feeling obligated to name someone after me. This child is an individual. Just the thought of hanging more than two first names on a child is unthinkable, I would not do it.

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I don't see the problem with having 2 middle names. I myself have 3, as do my 3 older sisters. They mean a lot to us because they're the names of our God-parents and/or special loved ones. It's just something unique my parents decided to do and its never, ever been a problem. It definitely doesn't hold us back in any way. In everyday life we just use the first one. (like for signatures or when forms ask for just the one middle initial) And now it's sort of become a family tradition. All 5 of my nieces have 3 middle names, all meaningful and special to them.
So i think if using both names will honors both sides of your family, is meaningful to you and makes you happy then there's really no reason why you shouldn't.

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My wife and I used the names that "We" wanted for "Our" children without input from the family. I think it is so wrong when other family members interfere with parents naming their child. So many times family feels offended or suggest using another name other than the parents original choice. You are the proud parents. The child's name should be the proud name the two of you choose together and family should respect that.
As for our two children, We used each other's middle names. Our son "Thomas Christian" and our daughter "Elizabeth Diane"

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This is insane. I find it completely selfish and insensitve to the highest degree that grandparents get that involved in the names of their grandchildren AND end up with an atttude about it.

They have lived their lives and they need to get out of their kids' lives. It is tough enough for a couple having a kid w/o all this name nonsense.

The answer is to not name the kid after either of them. Then, no one gets their old feelings hurt. Or if you plan on having more kids, then name one kid after a grandparent the 1st time around, and then name after the other grandparent the 2 time. Someone can pick names out of a hat to see who goes first.

I repeat. This is the epitmoe of selfishness to have the couple gong through this. Grandparents, grow up and get a life. Should have happened a while ago, don't you think?

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my mom named me Elise, after my grandmother who was named Elsie (or Isle in German)

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My Brother, cousins, step brother and adopted Brothers all had the same name. But in speaking about them in the family we would say Jimmy 1 or Jimmy 2, 3 or 4. All are about the same age. I remember going outside and yelling Jimmy 1 dinner is ready. How lame is that.

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I agree with Pat:
"This is insane. I find it completely selfish and insensitve to the highest degree that grandparents get that involved in the names of their grandchildren AND end up with an atttude about it.

They have lived their lives and they need to get out of their kids' lives. It is tough enough for a couple having a kid w/o all this name nonsense.

The answer is to not name the kid after either of them. Then, no one gets their old feelings hurt. Or if you plan on having more kids, then name one kid after a grandparent the 1st time around, and then name after the other grandparent the 2 time. Someone can pick names out of a hat to see who goes first.

I repeat. This is the epitmoe of selfishness to have the couple gong through this. Grandparents, grow up and get a life. Should have happeend a while ago, don't you think?"

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We selected names for our son and daughter that would sound and appear in print to be strong for business. We were proven correct to do so: both names were favorites of all teachers and college professors. Both names command respect in the Fortune 500 world of business. Parents...select a name for your child that commands visions of strength. Forget the weak names. Our adult children's names are William Thomas..... and Catherine Jane.... Please do not saddle your child with wishy washy names. And for heaven sakes, at least give your child an Anglican name.

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My biggest caveat to any parent contemplating a child's moniker, please! Put yourself first in that child's future. will they get made fun of at school for your CUTE little name/ Let me introduce myself, I'm Orval. try that on for rib tickling hilarity. Try to imagine the kidding, the slurs, the fist fights. How about my nick name, ORVY! Or Oval, how about ORVILLY? I always dreaded being sounded out in classroom roll calls. My name never failed to bring snickers. So PLEASE! No cute names, stick with Joe, Bob, Bill. And Mary, Nancy Linda, Louise. PLEASE!

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