Is Angelina Jolie Turning Shiloh Into a Boy? Parenting Experts Weigh In

What everyone seems to be glossing over is her insistence that she be called "John". Children are known to be conscious of their gender preferences at a very young age. If she is indeed more comfortable as a boy there is nothing that her parents can do about it. The only alternative is to pressure her to "be a girl" which will cause stress and shame if she truly does have a gender issue. That's why kids commit suicide or at the very least have miserable lives until they can be comfortable in their own preference. If she were born with brown eyes and they had their heart set on a blue eyed kid should they seek out surgery to comply with their expectations?

For the record, i am straight but have seen way too many people in pain because of pressure to conform when conformity is against their true nature. Live and let live, people. Hey, she might wake up some morning and want a frilly dress like Mommy wears to the Oscars. You never know. But it is ultimately her biology and her choice.

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I have never seen a picture of Shiloh in a dress. It has always been obvious to me that they dress her like a boy. I have thought this since Shiloh was born. Angelina dresses very feminine. The kids always look like
street urchins.

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I can't believe that in this day and age, that little "girl" is not dressed like Brittney Spears! I mean isn't that what we want? She should be wearing extensions and showing off her "ass"ets. Doesn't that define what a girl is? She must be pretty, and acceptably pleasing to men and society? GET REAL PEOPLE!! This should not even be up for discussion. She is a kid, don't define her in any other way! Sounds more like those who are criticizing are aiming their outrage at the parents for things other than parenting. As when I was pregnant and asked "Do you want a boy or a girl?" My reply, "a healthy child, doesn't matter"...still doesn't. Smiling, happy, healthy and secure...and even that changes...because if there were no change there would be no butterflies!

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Kids will be kids. And please people open their mouths and comment on things they need to leave alone. I've seen little girls with shorter hair than that. Brad and Angelina are her parents, not the world of crap talkers out there!!

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It's none of our freaking business. I wouldn't want anyone following my 3 year old around, taking her photo and commenting on how she should be raised.

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My only worry would be if they are coloring her hair. I hate it when parents color a young child's hair. My first thought was that she was going to do a movie.

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I have had a boy's name my whole life and I am very much a girly girl. I hated wearing dresses but loved to play with dolls and girly things. My sister wore dresses but played war with my brother and was the typical tomboy. The clothing and haircut is no big deal. Now her wanting to be called "John" and not by her given name.....whoa....that sent up a red flag for me. I think they may have another Chaz Bono on their hands and I hope they handle it as well as Cher has done. The little one will be who she or he wants to be. Just let the family be.

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I can vividly remember my first haircut because they took a picture right after...it was a Dutch boy cut. I don't remember anybody consulting me on fashion choices in clothes or hair...I do remember being told that the kids in Korea were starving & we should be counting our blessing for anything we had. I do recall my dad getting after me for wearing a badge because it looked "boyish." I was crushed. Children take this bs to heart...lighten up & let children be children.

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Just a thought but has anyone ever seen Shiloh without clothes perhaps the child really is a boy not a girl then this article would be unnecessary .. I would also ask the people quoted in the article the same question 'have you ever seen Shiloh without clothes so you can truly say she's a girl' before they make those statements.. Personally I've only seen some pictures of Shiloh fully clothed & don't follow star families as closely as others so I cannot give an opinion..

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If she was wearing a princess dress, noone would say a word. Leave the child alone.

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designer dress: $50,000.
designer shoes: $5,000.
Hollywood makeup and hair: $10,000.
Getting the opportunity to tease your sister by saying "You look beautiful, JOHN!" while she's wearing all that expensive stuff: PRICELESS!
This is the stuff of family memories that will last a lifetime. Enjoy!

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Why is this any of our business anyway?????
To each his/her own!
So be it!!!!!!!

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There are things you insist your kids do and there are thing it's better not to force on them. This gender-specific clothing thing is one best left to their own preferences.

My daughter has insisted on wearing boy's clothing since she was old enough to make her preference known, and she's now 22. I've long wondered if it would come out that she might be a lesbian or a transgender, but so far, she hasn't declared either, even though we have assured either was okay, but she still dresses in boy's clothes. Although she absolutely would NOT wear a dress when she was younger (to the point of throwing a screaming tantrum), she will now wear one when it is warranted (like to the prom).

Because of this, I think you're better off letting them go ahead. I've seen too many TV specials of kids who were forced to wear gender appropriate clothing when they were young and they always 'knew' they were of the opposite sex and it wasn't until they could make their own decisions and act on them that they were truly happy.

It's one thing to make your kid eat their spinach and another to force them to be who they are not.

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as for the hair: little children get gum stuck in their hair, or their siblings cut it, or parents can't keep control of it. and as for the clothes: sometimes kids like to be comfortable, too! compare shiloh to suri! suri is always in little heels with her little purse and we all complain about that, too!! i think we're forgetting that kids are kids!!!

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so if it was a boy who wanted to wear dresses and be called "Johanna" they would still let this happen?

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She's beautiful and healthy. For all anyone knows the child got a wad of gum stuck in her hair!

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I'm leaning towards her playing games with the paparazzi and tabloids for exactly these kind of comments. But if this is the reason, its screwed up for using a child for this thrill kick. Just cause ones married with a football team does not make your children justifiable prey. or this is just choice my opinion on this is, let her be the girl she is, downplaying your child is another form of being touched in the head. Wait this is a woman who kissed her brother tongue and all! So no surprise, just wrong.

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Jeez-louise. People will find fault in just about anything won't they?
If Angelina was dressing Shiloh like they do Suri Cruz in expensive designer clothes people would complain. If Angelina spent hundreds of dollars on a haircut for the little girl people would complain. Angie and Brad seem to be pretty down to earth and smart in that they really don't let other people's opinions sway their actions.
Like many have mentioned I would bet either Shiloh herself got ahold of some scissors and whacked her hair or perhaps one of her siblings got creative. When my little boy was 3 he got some scissors and cut a big hunk right out of the top of his head. We had to practically shave his head to even it out.
What with Pax and Maddox being older and probably pretty rough and tumble, Shiloh may want to be like her brothers. Zahara has always seemed to be very girly-girly. She likes to wear dresses and what-not. Big deal. Every child is different. My sister had 2 little girls...one very much the princess. The other a tomboy who screamed if you tried to put a dress on her. In the long run they both grew up got married and had children of their own. Everyone needs to stop worrying about what Angelina and Brad are doing and pay attention to their own children.

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