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All Constance McMillen wants is a night to remember. Photo courtesy of Constance McMillen.
School board members in Fulton, Miss., decided to cancel the senior prom at Itawamba Agricultural High School rather than let a lesbian student take her girlfriend to the dance.
Now 18-year-old Constance McMillen says she fears retaliation from her classmates.
"The message they are sending is that if they have to let gay people go to prom that they are not going to have one," she tells the Clarion Ledger in Jackson, Miss.
"A bunch of kids at school are really going to hate me for this, so in a way it's really retaliation," she adds.
The American Civil Liberties Union in Mississippi has taken up McMillen's cause.
School officials in Fulton (a town of about 4,00 people in the northeast corner of the state) circulated a memo Feb. 5 telling students that same-sex couples would not be allowed at the prom.
In an ACLU press release, McMillen reports meeting with the assistant principal and later the district superintendent. She says she was told she could not attend the prom with her girlfriend or show up wearing a tuxedo.
And no matter what they did, McMillen says in the press release, she was told they would be thrown out if their presence made any other students "uncomfortable."
Mississippi ACLU officials gave school district officials until Wednesday to respond to their demands that McMillen and her sophomore girlfriend be allowed to attend the April 2nd prom. School board members reacted by canceling the event entirely.
The board issued a statement suggesting a private group host an independent prom. A private group would not be bound by the same anti-discrimination laws as a public school district.
Low blow, McMillen tells the Clarion Ledger.
"If they set it up privately, they probably aren't going to allow gay people to go, and there is nothing that you can do about it," she tells the paper. "I'm going to have to change schools or something."
Christine Sun, the ACLU's senior attorney for its gay rights project, tells the Clarion Ledger that banning same-sex dates violates McMillen's constitutional rights.
"We believe the law is pretty clear," Sun tells the paper. "The school just can't arbitrarily say you have to have an opposite-sex date to go to the prom."
While the ACLU rallied to McMillen's side, a conservative group quickly flocked to the side of the school district.
Leaders of the Liberty Counsel, a conservative social policy organization in Orlando, Fla., offered the district free legal services to the school district to fight McMillen.
"We view this as part of a broader picture," Liberty Counsel attorney Stephen Crampton tells the Clarion Leder. "It's not, sadly enough, about one young lady's desire to bring her date to the prom."
Crampton tells the paper that attempts to permit same-sex couples at school dances are part of a larger agenda to force legal recognition of same-sex couples. He adds that Mississippi still has anti-sodomy laws on its books.
"The district might be motivated by a desire to prevent the ultimate conduct that is presumptively illegal in this state," he tells the newspaper.
However, a 2003 Supreme Court decision struck down a Texas sodomy statute and ruled all similar state statutes are unconstitutional.
While McMillen may face tough times at school, she has the support of her family. Her grandmother Dale McMillen tells the Clarion Ledger that she supports her granddaughter.
"I've always tried to teach my children and my grandchildren that if you believe in something you need to stand up for it," she tells the paper.
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ReaderComments (Page 1 of 22)
3-11-2010 @ 7:32PM
gobluespartyon said...You're a bigot Allaheatsfeces have your facts right gays don't rape I have never heard or seen a gay ever rape. Which is bad I don't like people that rape or abuse family members or little boys or girls. And you're also being judgemental as well Allaheatsfeces.
Constance should have every right to bring her girlfriend to the prom the school board is wrong big time and taking Constance rights away which is wrong.
3-11-2010 @ 7:32PM
gobluespartyon said...You're a bigot clematisvine and also being judgemental being gay isn't a sin as the bible has claim or abnormal either which is a lie. Another lie there isn't a silent majority if there was no one would ever say anything so again your wrong Clematisvine. I can't stand people preaching hate like you Clematisvine.
3-11-2010 @ 2:18PM
annie said...Allaheatsfeces, what a hater ! ! ! ! ! raping our kids, get a life.....when was the last time you read about a gay person raping someone?????? unless it has happen to you and you enjoyed it. People are people and deserve the same respect as anyone else.
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3-11-2010 @ 7:15PM
GJSly said..."annie 3-11-2010 @ 2:18PM
Allaheatsfeces, what a hater ! ! ! ! ! raping our kids, get a life.....when was the last time you read about a gay person raping someone?????? unless it has happen to you and you enjoyed it. People are people and deserve the same respect as anyone else?
Let's face it. It is not PC these days to even suggest that "gays" might be guilty of sex crimes. Please, let's not forget Jesse Dirkhising, whose rape and murder by two male homosexuals was practically unreported by the news media.
3-11-2010 @ 6:56PM
phil said...Sorry Annie. Rape happens, even with those who profess to be gay. Check your local FBI crime stats. They are public record.
3-11-2010 @ 6:36PM
Dr. Ed Gunther said...Everyone seems to want to talk about RIGHTS. I know the constitution well. There is no place that quarantees any such rights. People are always trying to read things into this document that just aren't there - including the ACLU. Geez, folks, we're talking about a document that had to be amended just to ban slavery. How about the rights of a community to decide what's right for themselves? I am neither religious nor anti-gay. We are talking about a bible-belt community and a practice which violates the religious beliefs of the community at large. Personally I think it would have been better to just let the town have it's prom and not insist upon dressing in a man's garb and flaunting her sexuality. In the end, you cannot force something on people that they don't want - not in America. Our constitution does not force upon it's people any form of sexual mores, nor should it. We are a federal republic - state and local laws should deal with such things, per the will of the people. Dr.G.
3-14-2010 @ 10:22PM
Come On said...Why do you people always go after Christianity and Catholicism? I'll tell you why: because we won't blow you up.
Don't purposely provoke me, I won't purposely provoke you. I don't mind anyone, but they need to keep it where I can't see it. This girl knew the rules. If you go looking for trouble, you WILL find it. And it will take a big ol' bite out of your ass. Just follow the rules, and we can all go out for ice cream together. Friends?
PS- It annoys me to no end when people cry "constitution" and CAN'T EVEN SPELL IT. HAVE YOU EVER READ IT??? Because I have. Prom is a privilege, don't abuse it.
3-16-2010 @ 7:22AM
Nancy said...Did I miss something in this article about rape? It does say that Mississippi still has laws on the books about anti-sodomy.
What I would like to know is if the girl were 9 months pregnant and wanted to bring her 24 year old boyfriend, would she still be banned from the prom?
3-11-2010 @ 2:21PM
Amanda said...I'm a staunch conservative and believe homosexuality is completely wrong. HOWEVER, the way the school handled this situation is a complete violation of this girl's rights. The only way a school should have any say of who she can and cannot bring to the prom is if the date is not a student at that particular school. In this case, her date is a sophomore, and they have every right to go together. The school administration does not have to agree with her, but they should protect her rights as a student there.
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3-11-2010 @ 3:27PM
malachhamovess said...when a woman finds out that her husband is a homesexual, she recoils in revulsion and runs out of the house
when a man finds out that his wife is a lesbian, his initial reaction is "can I watch?"
3-11-2010 @ 3:13PM
Tina O said...I agree with Amanda. Also, What about friends who just attend the prom together? There have always been girls and boys who do not have a date and go to the prom with a friend.
3-11-2010 @ 3:49PM
David A Morse said...While I am not a conservative and I disagree with your view that homosexuality is wrong, I thank you for your support of her right to take her girlfriend. We can disagree about the nature of sexuality, however its not right to cancel a prom because some gay students wish to take same sex date. Too often its the decision of conservatives to cancel events for all rather than allow gays to attend. The board claims that allowing her to attend would be a disruption? Canceling the prom makes conservatives look bad. Its like an angry child that decides to take his ball and go home because he did not get his way.
3-11-2010 @ 5:29PM
E-Dude said...Rights? She didn't have to attend the school. She had to be aware of the school's stance, yet she chose to violate it anyway. They have the option to have a private prom but like big babies its never 'good enough.'
3-11-2010 @ 4:16PM
revmatt268 said...As a Pastor and a conservative I too believe in a persons right to choose what they want. Even if it's a morally wrong decision. But I must say kudos to this High School. It's time that communities that strongly believe in principal and setting Godly examples start standing up to the gay agenda and it's immoral values as well as to the bullies known as the A.C.L.U. I realize it's not popular or politically correct....SO WHAT!!! It will always get God's approval and His blessing. I for one am sick of seeing "sexual preference" painted as a "civil right" shoved down the throats of Americans.
3-11-2010 @ 4:36PM
Amanda said...revmatt268, I'm sure if we sat down and talked about the difference of right and wrong we would probably completely agree. I am a born again Christian and will never accept homosexuality as "right" or "normal" and I agree we should all do what we believe is right instead of what is popular. However, I also know that when government over reaches and tries to dictate morality instead of law, we are treading on a slippery slope. While this nation still identifies itself largely as "Christian" it may not always be that way, and then Christian morality dictated by government might one day turn into another religion's morality we disagree with. I'm not saying people should have to accept, like it, or condone it, but I believe God gave us free will, that even He gives us the power of choice. This girl has, unfortunately, chosen to do what I consider to be wrong, but who I am to try and stop her? She is not infringing on other people's rights and therefore has (or should have) the right to do whatever she pleases. Her actions will one day be judged by God, and his judgment is all that will truly matter in the end.
3-11-2010 @ 5:08PM
clevermeals said...i'm a liberal and i'm gay... so obviously i think being gay is okay.
but i just wanted to say thank you. thank you for being respectful. thank you for having your opinions and beliefs but not letting them get in the way of what's constitutionally sound.
3-11-2010 @ 5:07PM
Stephen said...What the school did was actually protect the rights of the rest of
the students not to be unduly influenced by this girls wicked
behavior. A person's status as a homosexual does not deserve any
more protection than anyone else. Homesexuality is not a protected
class like race or gender. Homosexuality is a choice and does not
deserve special protection any more than those who prefer coke over
pepsi. Homesexuality is a preference not a guarantee of special
protection.
3-11-2010 @ 5:29PM
Amanda said...Stephen, they're not asking for SPECIAL protection, they're asking for EQUAL protection.
3-11-2010 @ 5:43PM
Mikki said...amanda,
Homosexuality is 'completely wrong' for YOU. You have no right to proclaim whether it is right or wrong for OTHERS. I am a staunch [happily married heterosexual woman] democrat who thinks it is NO ONE's business who people chose to love or whom they desire to enter into a relationship with. And people who are homophobic should just retreat to their caves and stay there.
3-11-2010 @ 7:09PM
GJSly said...What about the rights of the other students?