A Son in Jail

Thank you for your service.
I agree. It is necessary to defend our country and our citizens from attack by those who would see our way of life destroyed. Regardless of opinions on where our military should be, people seem to forget that the group who contributed to 9-11 are still at large and dangerous.

More to the topic: People can have their ideas and opinions but, they must stay within the law. If you break the law, you go to jail, that's just the way life is. I've seen a family member cause too much turmoil and mischief with his criminal activities to feel sorry for him that he's in jail. Sometimes people need that kind of consequence to wake up and be decent citizens.

I am interested to know what kind of a father and son type
of relationship you have had so far. Mine was a mixed bag but
I attritbute my safety to valuing my freedom at all times.
What countries were you in where you had been locked up?
Some countries have different judicial systems and the police
lock people up even if they dont do anything wrong. I came close
to being busted a few times but never have seen the inside of any
jail cell(s). Yes, some parents are to be feared right and left.
If we have good mentors and friends on the outside ,why can't we
stay out of trouble??

thats a divorced dad standard cop out rich people dont go to jail only poor people "how much justice can u buy" your kid will sink jail helps no one

I am that father who had a child in jail. My daughter was a chronic runaway from the age of 13. I bailed her out of jail all over the country, and was assigned custody of her when her mother and I split up. She declared herself an emancipated minor when she turned 16. She dropped out of high school. I thanked God (and her) profusely. Since then, I never had to bail her out, except from a few financial problems. She became a solid citizen, got a GED, and enough college credits to get a degree. She helped her sister through a failed marriage, and took care of her sister's daughter for years.

She straightened herself out with no help from me or the legal system!

Congrats Bill on raising a great son. Sounds like some of your detrators are very jealous. Peggy says "we are all not as fortunate as you are". I'm sure luck plays a part, but for the most part its usually hard work, getting up after you failed and continuing to try to succeed. I guess peggy thinks you were helped. Liberals are sooo jealous of other's success...

Bill, you are correct. I understand that Ms.Inclan is a mother that loves her child, who is first and foremost, always her child. She however, does not mention Alexs' father or his role in raising Alex. Very possibly, father is not in the picture. I'm sorry for this, as young Alex obviously needs an adult male role model to contribute to his progress as a man. The problems can still be cured.

Item #1. Take that cigarette out of your mouth young man, when posing for a photo with your mother. You do not look "cool", you simply look imbecilic and disrespectful.
Item #2. Mom. Stop making excuses for your son at every turn. (Exp: "Alex had been arrested before, taken into this same jail two years earlier for the same reason, war protesting. But that time, the cops had broken Alex's arm with a baton and released him." The Cops broke Alexs' arm for ...a reason. Alex was more than likely resisting arrest. (see bad boys...what cha gonna do..)
Item #3. Make young Alex go to work and pay for his own college. He apparently has too much free time.
Item #4. Young Alex could use the discipline of The Marine Corps. Remember, young men his age are giving their lives for his freedom to protest. Remind him that he OWES society for the opportunity he has been given. If Alex seeks change, our Constitution provides for this in a civil manner, protecting all concerned. What a remarkable document of which I am certain
he does not understand.
Item #5. Pull young Alex out of Evergreen, if ANY of his professors suggested anarchists text books or reading material. Matriculation at this college, (Evergreen), could lead to his death! Suggest The University of Texas, or Alabama. Friends, and family do not let friends or family vote liberal! (see how it turns out?)
I wish you well. I fear however, that you are loving your son...to death. Tough love, and a Marine Corps D.I., may be what is required to turn this situation around.

Your comment only shows how low of a person you are. The children in this world deserve to have a second chance and for them to know they are loved no matter how wrong they have done. God gave his only son so we may sin. Just think if God never forgave you for yours!

Bill, thank you for your response. I really liked your approach with your son. I think my son's bi-polar disorder (diagnosed at a very young age) makes jail a problem. They do not like to give meds!
Having said that,,,I will say that I have had NO choice but to call 911 many many times. I am 5'3", my son is 6', lol. He knows that I will not tolerate violence, etc. I did not get him out! Not once! What I did do is go to great lengths to make SURE he got his meds!
Also, going to the er with a suicidal and intoxicated son did nothing! There were a few times he pleaded to be sent to rehab, but was sent home right away. They simply do not have room to send all of these kids/adults with addictions and even when he went I found little hope! The last rehab had the police come through and clean out the cabins! The patients had lines of cocaine, etc. in their rooms! There were more drugs there than on the street!
SO,,,,I took YOUR approach, lol. I STOPPED calling the police and as small as I am, I took matters into my own hands! The police, the jail, the hospital got him no where, in fact it made it harder!
One night out of nowhere I lost it! All of the pain, the terror, the hopelessness, the exhaustion came to the surface and I let him know in NO uncertain terms that he did not want to go there with me! I am not proud of it, but I think the abuse that I had been through was turned onto him. Trust me, it was not pretty and to this day I feel sad that I let myself go there.
This happened again the following week! Since then, no more! Sometimes when I reach over to hug him, etc., he jumps, lol. I think this made him realize what I had felt and he felt ashamed and sad that I he had made me feel threatened many times.
Interestingly, he never once touched me (never has) or tried to stop me! He did threaten to call 911 and have me arrested and I told him please do, you'd be safer that way!
THIS was the beginning of his sobriety! I continued to stand firm, continued to pray, support and love, and now he is living a healthy life (one day at a time),,,I pray it continues!
One thing I learned from support groups, etc., is that relapse will probably happen many times before they stop. There is no easy answer or solution. So, we do what we have to do until then, and then we remember that even when they get it, they are always only a second, or a day away from relapse!
Thank you for sharing Bill, it would have been so much easier for me if I'd had the support of his father to stand beside me and stand up to him :o)
Take good care,
Bella