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Our vote for father of the day goes to this guy, Carlos Whittaker, who tells his rockin' 3-year-old that he's not a Single Lady. Okay, so daddy dearest momentarily rained on his preschooler's parade, but what makes us love him is how quickly he recovered.
As soon as he saw little Losiah stop dancing in his car seat, he says, "Yeah, you are. You're a Single Lady. Sorry...I was just kidding...You're a Single Lady, okay?"
Then, the paternalia, a pastor and Christian rocker himself, whose album, Ragamuffin Soul hits iTunes soon, joins in the chorus, followed by a heartfelt confession: "I'm a horrible father."
Dude, in our eyes, you're pretty awesome.
Whittaker, 35, and his wife adopted Losiah from South Korea back in 2006 and he told ParentDish in an exclusive phone interview, "My son is the joy of my life."
So, where did he get the name Losiah? Whittaker says he's always wanted to give his son his name, but figured that a Korean kid named Carlos would be cause for curious questioning throughout the boy's life. Since his wife liked the name Isaiah, they combined it with Carlos and came up with Losiah. His daughters have equally cool names: 7-year-old Sohaila, which is Arabic for morning star, and 6-year-old Seanna, which is Celtic for God is near.
As further tribute to his blended family, his song, God of Second Chances, alludes to the idea that "adopted kids are being given a second chance at a great life," he says.
But back to Single Ladies...how did the kids come to dig on Beyonce's hit?
"Alvin and Chipmunks: The Squeakquel," Whittaker says, laughing. "Ever since we saw that movie, they have not stopped singing that song."
For more fun with the family and his music, follow Whittaker on his blog at RagamuffinSoul.com. We certainly will be.
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ReaderComments (Page 7 of 8)
4-01-2010 @ 11:37AM
beachy said...I love this!!!! Its So Cute! I love all three kids reaction. One sis frustrated, the other one reaches over an rubs his arm. He's as cute as a bug :) So sweet!! Love it! I posted this on my site :) and its the first thing I thought of this morning. Hummming the song:) w a smile . Thanks for sharing
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4-01-2010 @ 1:00PM
chuckie said......and the name "Losiah" won't cause "curious questioning"?
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4-01-2010 @ 1:15PM
tara said...I'll bet you are one of this e self-appointed moral judgemental TEA PARTY jerks who feel women should not ahve the right to choose, are against teaching birth control in schools and then DOES NOT adopt 1 child
YOU STINK,......and so do all your Tea party supporters - and the republican party for that matter. you people speak about FREEDOM........well people are FREE to adopt from where they wish
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4-01-2010 @ 1:25PM
Louis said...These internet reporters are really scraping the barrel for headlines--JEESH!
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4-01-2010 @ 3:54PM
BILL said...THE KID IS CUTE AND ENJOYS DOING MOVES WITH HIS SISTERS. THE PROBLEM I HAVE AS SOMEONE WHO WAS IN A CHILDRENS HOME AS A TEEN AND STILL IN CONTACT WITH THEM. THEY HAVE CHILDREN AS YOUNG AS 6 YR OLD WHO AS I WAS ARE THE FORGOTTEN CHILDREN. THERE ARE PLENTY OF YOUNG CHILDREN AND INFANTS IN THIS COUNTRY THAT NEED TO BE ADOPTED. LIKE EVERYTHING SEEMS WE WANT TO TAKE CARE OF THE WORLD BEFORE WE TAKE CARE OF OURSELVES. SADLY THE ASIAN CHILDREN ARE AVAILABLE FORBIDDING THERE OWN FROM HAVING MORE OF SAY 1 GIRL AND 1 BOY; THEN WHEN THEY HAVE 2 GIRLS GET RID OF ONE...... THAT IS NOT OUR FAULT.....
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4-01-2010 @ 4:28PM
H said...I can not believe how dumb you people are who think that this video is such a horrible thing! He is a baby! who cares what he sings, if he is happy shouldnt that be all that matters? and for you people saying he needs to "man up" he is three years old he does not need to man up do you honestly think that it is wrong for a three year old to cry? if you do then you have no heart and i hope you never have children because those kids would be so unbelievably miserable. and you all act like these parents are beating this children, yea he shouldnt be driving and video taping but he wasnt even looking backwords, instead of getting all worked up over that you worry about the people who verbally, sexually, and physically abuse their children or any children at that!
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4-01-2010 @ 5:18PM
Bones said...THATS RIGHT! you tell them!! such a horrible father AND PERSON! what
kind of person would accidently ruin their childs good time and then
try to make it better!? THE NERVE! he should have stood by his
convictions and ruined his little adopted boys day!
I mean, to think, that someone wouldn't even try to reason with a 3
yr old. Thats just not fair. Give the little guy a chance to
understand sexuality and gender... AT 3! If we don't start teachin'
em about it when they shoot out the womb... then WHO KNOWS what could
happen... they might be androgynous until the onset of puberty, just
like every other child to be born and raised in the thousands of
years we've been civilized... what a step backwards.
We need to push forward, full throttle, buy your children bra's at 2,
porn at 5 and condoms at 7. AMEN and let Jesus into your heart, soul,
or hole... whichever pleases you most.
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4-01-2010 @ 6:58PM
Sarah said...What the heck?? Is he driving and filming at the same time?? No wonder there's so many accidents on the road!!!! Not to mention the precious cargo in the car!
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4-02-2010 @ 12:24PM
malcolm said...So i'm trying to figure out how anyone (not just parent) should best handle a situation like this. First, no one should ever (best word for this situation) challenge a three years old imagination and creativity play. This really shouldn't have happened but it does all to often. Developmentally they are too sensitive/too young to understand social norm and cues. So a bit of it is letting them be themselves and explore while providing boundaries. Unfortunately, but ohh so innocently dad missed the mark.
Lastly: How does a parent recover.... sigh. Tough. I think did dad did right by immediately apologizing. Although it wouldve probably helped more if he was able to identify what it was that hurt the toddlers feelings. i.e. "I'm sorry i stopped you from singing and it hurt your feelings...." good teaching/learning moment there. Dad can even go back to this moment later on in the day and apologize. Another good teaching moment (one can go back and fix mistakes and own up to them!)
What i love the most about this dad's approach was that he was able to make a fool of himself. Parenting isn't easy. And there is no one way or right way. Just the growing way.
Much love and respect to yours and all,
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4-02-2010 @ 1:22PM
Brian said...this is sickening. thats all we need is a homosexual immigrant. teach your son to be a man. It is NOT ok to let him think he is a woman. Jesus Christ people. This is what is wrong with this world today. Single Lady my a%%
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4-05-2010 @ 10:32AM
Mena said...Actually, what's sickening is that you're so close-minded that you criticize a three-year-old for enjoying himself and call him a "homosexual immigrant." First of all, he may be an immigrant but he was adopted into an American family which in turn makes him an American. If he doesn't fit into what you believe an American should look like that's YOUR problem but regardless of what you think he's an American. Secondly, where do you get off calling a toddler a homosexual? As far as I know, there have never been any confirmed reports of preschoolers coming out of the closet nor have I heard of a GLBT chapter at my local preschool or daycare. Are you going to tell me you were 100% secure in your sexuality when you were three? You didn't even know what sexuality was when you were three!! Just because this little boy likes this song that does not mean its going to set the course for his sexual identity. Also, the song says "all MY single ladies"-at no point does Beyonce say that she's a single lady so the little boy was just shouting out to his ladies. You need to chill out and give the bigotry and ignorance a rest. It's gotten old and quite frankly, we're all sick of it and you've just proven, once again, how pathetic you and those who think like you do really are.
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4-12-2010 @ 3:26PM
Pat said...Mena,You wrote one of the few intelligent comments on this video.I believe most were made by people either drunk or on drugs,or both.So damn judgemental.Where do all these misfits get their stupid opinions? Most probably do not even have kids so what the hell would they know anyway? You are RIGHT when you say 'we are sick of bigotry and ignorance',with people always trying to make everything into something negative.They must be very miserable if that is all they see in this video. This film was cute,funny and what happens in Real life,I have similar things with my kids and grandkids.The father was joking (get it) he had no idea it would hurt the little guys feelings. And the girl in the middle is fine, just disapointed that the singing was interrupted. Thank you !!
4-05-2010 @ 7:49PM
Angiebaby said...I was just fixing to answer another parenting dilemma when THIS article caught my eye. What is this world coming to when a father tells his son he's a single lady just to shut the kid up? No wonder our kids are in so much trouble today. Why didn't the dad take a minute and explain to the kid that ladies are girls, and he isn't a girl? Oh, and just wait for the fallout when the kid goes to preschool and announces to the class that he's a single lady. When the kids get through laughing and telling him he's NOT a single lady, the kid is sure to come undone. Again. When parents started telling kids anything to make them happy instead of telling them the truth, especially about something so essential as whether they are a boy or a girl, we did our children a major disservice, both to their intelect, and to their development. Teaching children the way things are, instead of lying to them to make things the way they want them to be, prepares them for a life filled with truths that aren't always the way we want them to be. Raising healthy kids this way creates healthy adults.
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4-06-2010 @ 6:06PM
calilorna said...blah blah blah. The baby's feelings were hurt not because he wants to be a single lady, but because he wanted to have fun with the sing - a- long and was told he wasn't part of the fun. This man is a good father he meant well. All human beings make mistakes. I'm super sure God isn't losing any sleep over dad's little mishap with the wording.
More over the song has a fun happy beat.
4-06-2010 @ 5:54PM
calilorna said...I'm concerned about the one in the middle wearing the blue shirt. Something is amis. Her body language is very telling. Please talk to her. She needs some intervention. I wouldn't suggest allowing her to spend to much time alone with the toddler.
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4-11-2010 @ 4:10PM
ilovetwilight787 said...God this is so lame.
ITS A 3YR OLD! He won't ever remember this. Gosh.
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4-12-2010 @ 5:20PM
jenny said...you people are clearly stupid! don't make assumptions about who is taping and who isn't, we all know what that does to you and me.Just enjoy the video for crying out loud! Losiah is adorable, the father and mother are great the sister who is comforting him is great and the little girl in the blue shirt is like 8! "her body language can't be overlooked" is a stupid thing to say! Who likes it when there little siblings cry's in their ear in the car!
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4-12-2010 @ 3:07AM
Faith Howell said...Awwwww! Poor kid! Nice recovery tho, Dad!
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5-13-2010 @ 3:33PM
Audra said...GO DAD! The girls are cute. They were so scolding him like "that was not cool dad." He maned up and admitted that he did a bad thing. Way to go Dad. Take responsibility for your actions. The son is so cute!!!
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5-13-2010 @ 4:53PM
_jbys said...The kid cried 'cos he thought the dad said "You can't sing"
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