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Constance McMillen was left out of the prom. Again. Credit: Matthew Sharpe, AP
"They had two proms and I was only invited to one of them," McMillen tells The Advocate. "The one that I went to had seven people there, and everyone went to the other one I wasn't invited to."
Instead of allowing 18-year-old McMillen to bring her girlfriend to the school prom, Mississippi's Itawamba County School District canceled the event. The American Civil Liberties Union then sued the school district on McMillen's behalf and sought a court order to force the school to reinstate the prom. A federal judge ruled that the school district violated McMillen's civil rights, but he did not force the school district to host the prom.
On April 2, while McMillen and her date went to an event at a country club in Fulton, Miss., she says her other classmates went to a separate, parent-organized event, The Advocate reports.
"It hurts my feelings," McMillen says.
The prom McMillen attended only attracted five other students, two of whom have learning difficulties.
"They had the time of their lives," McMillen says. "That's the one good thing that come out of this, (these kids) didn't have to worry about people making fun of them (at their prom)."
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ReaderComments (Page 1 of 19)
4-06-2010 @ 2:13PM
NICK said...She and her partner went to the real event. What the parents hosted on their own dime was the fake event. Since the latter was a private party, there's really nothing that can be done here. If she and her partner had fun, then they are the winners here.
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4-06-2010 @ 3:36PM
ashley said...Agreed, it is still a disgrace that the school commitee and parents would stoop down to such a low level.
4-06-2010 @ 8:48PM
M A Dark said...Unfortunately, the parents of all those other kids have reinforced bigotry and racism in their children.
It is a shame that in THIS country and in these times, we still have people who are so deeply prejudiced against anyone not like them.
It is a sad commentary of our times when race, religion, nationality, color or sexual preference makes you different. I have great grandchildren. I had hoped all that was behind us.
4-06-2010 @ 9:17PM
susie said...Nick I couldn't agree with you more, it's sad we still live in a world of narrow minded people, which in this case will breed on to their off springs...This young lady needs to walk away with her head held high because she in the end was the winner!!
4-06-2010 @ 9:58PM
Laun said...I agree with Nick here. If the locals are going to be that disrespectful and heartless, than separate occasions should be hosted in different places. There is no reason for being deceitful, cold and just plain mean about it. Yes, Nick and her friend and all others should stand up for their rights and have a separate party as needed. America needs to wake up gay and lesbian people will always be around.
4-06-2010 @ 10:17PM
Melissa said...It is absolutely disgraceful that the parents of an entire school would completely cut this child out of her prom by throwing a party elsewhere and leaving her uninvited! It dumbfounds me that people today can still be so completely prejudiced!
4-06-2010 @ 10:16PM
Merrily said...Nick, I couldn't have said it better myself. So nice to see a guy stand up for women. I agree - if they had fun, they were the winners. The hurt feelings will quickly dissipate and they will always have the memories.
4-06-2010 @ 10:42PM
Treet said...Nick - Delusional. Do you live in your parents' basement? Let me ask you this, if your 17-year-old daughter went to a prom, would you want HER to see women kissing or MEN dancing suggestively, which they would do in our now tragicallay permissieve high schools?
You are probably well meaning, but have lost your conscious?
4-06-2010 @ 11:31PM
Leslie said...I think it says "she said the kids with disabilies had a good time, not her.
4-06-2010 @ 11:37PM
wayne a said...BULL,BULL,BULL@##$$$##@#
4-07-2010 @ 12:36AM
Kortney said...I am seriously shocked!!! What the hell does being "christian" have to do with anything??? I am christian and a mother and I would NEVER EVER let my children judge someone or treat someone so poorly just because they chose a different lifestyle. This people is why people call christians hypocrites! Since when does it call in the bible to pursecute others for not having the same ideals as you. If you are going to pursecute someone or a class of people based on their life decisions based on morals that are derived from the "christian faith" then you mind as well be demanding that they be christians too. This is a shame and I feel sorry and sympathy for the children that have such pathetic righteous people as parents.
4-07-2010 @ 12:33AM
JLCroadie said...Get REAL folks! This young lady made HER choice about her romantic life and, apparently, her parents support her! The 'gay lifestyle' does NOT appeal to me but, I accept it as part of our society. I do not 'like' inter-racial marriages or couples but, it's NOT my place to judge! For all of the Religious people, remember that the Bible tells us: "Judge not, lest YOU be judged!"
4-08-2010 @ 2:43AM
TheRobo said...Well, Nick, they went to their own "real" event. But apparently, she felt offended so she must not feel it was a real event. Maybe her opinion should count more than yours about HER prom.
4-07-2010 @ 8:28AM
WOW said...@Sajor: Well, murderers, skinheads and pedophiles do HARM to people...since when has a gay/lesbian person done harm to you? What, by burning your eyes because you have to look at them? Give me a break!! And I'm sick of all this religious blather about how 'homosexuality is a sin, it's not natural, it's not christian'...oh really? Well then YOU tell ALL OF US just why your righteous Pope and his cronies have been molesting, sexually abusing and beating innocent schoolboys for the past few centuries!! Surely such 'men of the cloth' would never commit such HURTFUL crimes, right??! Until they either start practicing what they preach--or better yet, quit being hypocrites and abusers--, they are no better than the dirt on my shoe.
Pathetic. Go spread your nonsensical ignorance someplace else. And maybe next time, before you comment, ask yourself this: If homosexuality is so WRONG, then why are your religious leaders doing it????
4-06-2010 @ 4:05PM
Peg said...Two things about this:
1. If any of the funds came from the public school, and I mean 1 penny of tax payers funds, were used to hold this fake prom and learning disabled students were excluded, then this is a HUGE violation of those students constitutional rights and something can be done about it- legally.
2. No matter what the town had previously used as a defense against not allowing Constance to attend the prom with her girl friends- whatever moral high ground of Christian value they were hiding behind has now become completely and totally irrelevant by excluding the learning disabled peers.
This is bigotry pure and simple and there is no place for it in our society in this century.
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4-06-2010 @ 8:15PM
jim bergquist said...Christian values ? Those parents wouldn't recognize Jesus if he waled upa nd introduced himself. Shame on htose paretns, and the students too. Hypocracy ruled the day.
4-06-2010 @ 8:15PM
Psychoanalyst2u said...Someone should see if PTA funds were used in the private Prom expenses. I bet they were and that is money paid into the school by all parents for the school. You might can get them legally on this one.
4-06-2010 @ 8:22PM
Psychoanalyst2u said...I'm telling yall, check and see if PTA funds purchased decorations or supplied the food for the parents' "fake" prom. You can get them legally if they did. Force the issue with an audit of school funds and PTA funds. That'll catch them big time and you can sue the school and PTA!
4-06-2010 @ 8:30PM
jeff said..."...whatever moral high ground of Christian value they were hiding behind..."
nowhere in the article I read was moral high ground and christian value mentioned.
Peg, you must be one angry female!
4-06-2010 @ 8:33PM
ken said...Peg,
the first comment you made references the learning disabled students being excluded from the prom, when in fact the article stated that they were ATTRACTED to that prom, not excluded from the other one. nowhere does it state that they were excluded from anything, they chose to go to her prom.