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Jillian Michaels does not want parents yelling at their kids like she does with contestants on The Biggest Loser. Credit: Andrew Southam
As a brutally-tough trainer on NBC's The Biggest Loser, Jillian Michaels screams, bellows and generally terrifies fitness-challenged contestants. Harsh? Maybe. Effective? Definitely. So ParentDish asked the health-and-fitness guru how to shape up our families and overhaul our snack drawers.
It's time for some tough love.
ParentDish: What were you like as a little kid? We read that you were 175 lbs. at 5 feet tall. What were your eating/exercise habits like back then?
Jillian Michaels: I was a very sensitive kid. The class loser all through junior high. The chubby ugly duckling that ate lunch alone every day. I ate all processed crap and used food for comfort. Microwave pancakes and sausage for breakfast. Pizza, Coke, potato boat for my school lunch. Then after school, I would eat an entire bag of Cheetos. For dinner I would eat Taco Bell and lots of it with ice cream for dessert. As for fitness ... I played a bit of soccer when I was very young and I skate boarded but not enough to offset my eating habits.
PD: What gave you the impetus to change?
JM: By the age of 14 I got into martial arts an it turned my life around. The strength I developed physically transcended into every facet of my life.
PD: Should a parent be as tough on their kids as you are with The Biggest Loser contestants?
JM: NO!!! The Biggest Loser is about life-or-death confrontations. Last ditch attempts to get people back on track. Kids need positive reinforcement only.
PD: What were your parents like? Did they teach you healthy lifestyle habits?
JM: My father was heavy and had an addictive personality, especially with food. Food became the way my father and I bonded. As for my mother, she was always thin and didn't know the first thing about nutrition. She thought she was doing the right thing by giving me juice boxes instead of sodas or Wheat Thins instead of potato chips. She has no idea those products were as bad, if not worse. By the time I was 14, she knew she needed to get proactive about my health an that's when she got me into martial arts.
PD: We need your advice to parents. This issue comes up a lot: A mom notices her 10-year-old child gaining weight, becoming overweight. How does the mom help her child without creating an eating disorder? In other words, how do you tell your kid, 'You're fat and you need to do something about it?' How do you start the conversation and keep it going without giving your kid body image issues?
JM: The most important thing a parent can do is to NOT make an issue of their child's weight. Kids interpret this as a form of criticism and often rebel by eating even more. The best thing to do is lead by example by keeping yourself fit and healthy. Make efforts to get the whole family healthy so it's not about singling your chubby little one out. Find fun social activities your child can do that will keep them active like soccer, cheerleading etc. Teach them about healthy goods to help them become a healthy grownup. Don't make it about pounds or calorie counting. Involve them in the food. Let them start a little vegetable garden so they are invested. Challenge them to find fruits and veggies in their favorite colors and so on. This helps to keep health fun and make them feel in control of their choices.
PD: Working parents of young kids are the busiest people on the planet. How can they prioritize fitness?
JM: They have to schedule it in. Arrange a carpool and buy yourself some time. Exercise on your lunch hour. Fit it in with your kids on the weekends by doing fun family activities like hiking, biking, kyaking etc.
PD: Should parents lie to their kids about their own eating habits? For example, yesterday I bought Ring Dings and ate them before I got home so my daughter wouldn't see. Good idea?
JM: It's never a good idea to lie. I wouldn't lie. Explain to your kids that there is room for higher calorie foods in a healthy diet. The key is moderation. I would however urge you to make sure the treat foods they eat are not laden with chemicals and poisons. For example, let your kids have Pop Chips instead of potato chips fried in hydrogenated trans fats. Give them dark chocolate instead of the candy bar crap made with high fructose corn syrup. Get the idea?
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ReaderComments (Page 1 of 6)
4-11-2010 @ 7:47AM
Barbie said...Wow! Jillian Michaels is my daughter's idol and after reading this article, I can understand why. Thank you so much Jillian for your positive, encouraging words. You have a way about you on the show-a little rough on the edges but in this article you prove that not only are you beautiful looking, but you are sensitive, smart and a wonderful, positive role model for all of America!
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4-11-2010 @ 1:44PM
Rita said...My husband and I decided to stop going out to eat during the week. We found it helped us cut the calories.. the problem was that I was doing all the cooking, while he sat on his butt. then i found this beginner's cook-book for him.. it was perfect.. hilarious, and very politically incorrect. I can't tell you the name of the book on here.. cause some of the more conservative readers will jump down my throat, but if you have a good sense of humor and are not easily offended.. google "Whipped & Beaten Culinary Works".. but seriously. .don't go if you can't take a good joke!
4-11-2010 @ 2:52PM
ana said...One of the reasons I like to watch the show is because of how great Jillian is--as a trainer and as a person.
Why do so many people dislike her? Can anyone honestly answer this? Is it really Jillian you're upset with?
I don't get it.
4-12-2010 @ 8:57AM
frances said...I love Jillan Michaels. I think she is an ispiration to many. I do her work out at home and though they are hard I can say they really work. I've lost 10 lbs doing her work out in 2 months and lost a few inches. She's amazing!
4-12-2010 @ 1:08PM
anorexic-piggy said...Do not care for the yelling and saying rude to mean things to/at contestants... at all.
All weight issues including anorexia to overeating are from the same psychological areas and people with these concerns need to be treated with respect so they don't shut down or demonize themselves- thinking they are bad becasue they are overweight...just one more "celebrity" endorsing popular beliefs.
4-11-2010 @ 7:47AM
Ronin said...I think she's cute. Nice bod. Haven't seen her feet though. Something strange about the left side of her face.
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4-11-2010 @ 9:14AM
eb said...Feet? Really? Why do you want to see those?
4-11-2010 @ 9:36AM
eb said...You got some issues...
4-12-2010 @ 2:05PM
SIREN79 said...LOL! Foot Fetish guy, eh?
Oh, and @ ANOREXIC PIGGY: She is certainly NOT "demonizing" the overweight population, nor is she "endorsin"g such an obnoxious accusation... Jillian is simply helping people who ask for help. Being overweight is not deemed as "demonic", it's UNHEALTHY, just as smoking, drinking, etc. This is also NOT "Popular Belief", rather, it is FACTUAL that being overweight increases your chances of weight-related stroke, heart attack, adult-onset diabetes and other dangerous ailments. I deal with this EVERY DAY as a SURGICAL NURSE in the OPERATING ROOM with SEVERELY OVERWEIGHT and OBESE patients. It's a genuine pandemic, however it is a critical epidemic in the USA.
Don't believe me? Just do your research. There are PLENTY of medical journals to back me up, and to back up every cardiologist and physician in the USA and all around the world who will say the exact same thing as me.
4-11-2010 @ 8:12AM
Jerry said...Great story. Health is the most important think we can achieve. Without it everything else is hard to enjoy.
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4-11-2010 @ 8:39AM
Dayle said...If her only background is being a fat kid I wouldn't be taking advice from her - what IS her background by the way?? - except she's made herself into a Biggest Loser coach..nope, will take a doc's advice over hers...why in the heck do people listen to her anyway - don't like the woman at all - she's thinks she's all that & a bag of chips!! ;-)
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4-11-2010 @ 8:54AM
Vince said...Well, she's got more money than you and me both. And obviously her contestants didn't listen to their doctors. I think her and Bob both mug up to the cameras too much, and those thinly veiled commercials for their sponsor products can go, but you gotta admit she gets results!
4-11-2010 @ 9:22AM
eddie said...Im going to have to say I disagree with your point of view on depending blindly on doctors for all your health needs. Jillian has 17 years of marital art experience; also she is black belt in Akarui-Do. She has also other strength techniques like Yoga, pilaets, kickboxing, plyometrics and weight training. the biggest problem with doctors when it comes to weight management is they have little or no knowledge of it. They are sooner to prescribe a pill for high hypertension, then suggest some healthy alternatives to how you are living. Most doctors look to fix or “mask” the symptom rather then the actual ailment. And why wouldn’t you care to take advice from someone who has been their (meaning being over weight) you more likely to take advice from a doctor who hasn’t??
4-11-2010 @ 10:24AM
Renee said...I have a thyroid disease, and am always carrying around an extra 10 pounds even though about 90% of my diet comes from fresh fruits and vegetables, and I exercise like a maniac. My endocrinologist, who, not surprisingly, was overweight, actually told me that exercise doesn't help weight loss. What a moron!
I got another doctor.
4-11-2010 @ 11:12AM
John Blakely said...You'll listen to a doc before a person who is very knowledgeable about fitness and health? You need to open your eyes. The medical profession have as their main concern stopping illness/disease and fixing broken things. Very few docs that I've encountered know much about moving toward strength through fitness.
The AMA seems to be attached at the hip to the pharmaceutical industry and thus have a pill for almost everything. That is wrong. Many of the troubles people have now can be alleviated through a responsible lifestyle. My own belief is that they would receive a lot more respect if they would advocate health rather that non-illness.
If you don't like Jillian, that's cool, there are a lot of trainers, therapists, nutritionists and others who can give sound advice as well.
4-11-2010 @ 2:57PM
Marnie Bridges said...You don't have to listen to her. But she gives sensible advice about adult and childhood obesity. It's all about the health, not the weight. Some doctors are not reliable sources either. They have an ulterior motive of monetary gain. Losing weight isn't about surgery, pills and fashion. It's about taking control over your life by positive means. Exercise, good nutrition and a good attitude. Taking care of yourself has many advantages --- increase in self-worth, more energy, confidence and the ability to handle the stresses of life better without any artificial means. Losing weight doesn't resolve all problems, but it sure helps in handling them.
4-12-2010 @ 7:55AM
redconvoy said...Doctors cannot really give you advice on weight loss. All they do is give you a diet and tell you to exercise every night. You really need to consultant a licensed nutritionist because they could better evaluate you than a doctor can and if the doctor recommends the nutritionist, the nutritionist could act on your behalf if there are health concerns. I know mine did, but he quit after my doctor wouldn't listen to him.
4-12-2010 @ 8:58AM
Kim said...Not a good idea to automatically look up to doctors like they are God. They don't know everything sometimes. Would you take advice from a fat doctor vs. someone who has taught themselves how to be healthy, then has the balls and discipline to apply it? As someone states below, doctors will sometimes mask the problem with medicine, and not get to the heart of the matter. It keeps money in their pockets.
Granted, you can't trust every trainer out there either. Everyone wants to be an expert when it comes to health and fitness.
There are plenty of resources than can teach you about the physiology behind nutrition and exercise. These people aren't special in the fact that we all have access to information like this. Take the initiative and teach yourself instead of following blindly.
The Body Sculpting Bible is a book that puts things simply, and once you understand the concepts, you will realize the way they teach you to treat your body makes complete sense.
4-12-2010 @ 10:05AM
Montana said...Man you have some issues! She is doing good for those who believe and want a change! She is not trying to be better than you! Listen with an open mind, you might learn something!
4-12-2010 @ 10:54AM
Chaz Goodman said...Dayle,
Please tell me that you aren't really this stupid. I am a private trainer, and trust me, Doctors know so little about health and fitness, it's scary. Notice when you go into the examining room, the Dr.s still have that old bodyweight to height index? It's ancient.
It's all about bmi not height to weight.
Jillian is very good at watch she does, and only a fool wouldn't listen to a trainer like she is. She knows her stuff.
Get educated my friend, before you make anymore stupid stupid statements!
Oh, and Jillian is hot!!