Opinion: Sorry, Jon - Kate Gosselin Is Not an Absentee Mom

Ok Jim, get real what parent takes their kids wth them when making a living. some may do when the can afford the nanny and the homeschooling teacher. Ok Jon knew from the start that when he agreed to love and cherish her and to take care of her he should have stuck to that. no marriage is oerfect i know. but he has 8 kids by this woman. True Kate was a demanding woman and always talked to him like a child. he could had taken care of that when they finished airing the show. Unfortunately this was his way of getting out of having to be stuck doing what he had to do as a husband and a father. some of these men that has kids with one woman and then leave them to go and be with others kill me. If he doesnt want kate being the woman she is today by supporting their kids he should have never stop tape on their show. He didnt have to be in it. Also, I believe the reason he wants the custody of his kids he is realizing now that the way he has been spending money and partying is costing him a lot and he is getting ready to go broke. So Jon since you are a IT Tech work or what ever you do, go back to your previous job and ask for it back and start back to working for your kids again. Dont become a dead beat dad, you already is a dead beat husband. I wish I would have 8 kids by a man and up and leave just so he could be free of everything. He wouldnt get a chance to see his kids but twice a month.

I believe when people decide that they have to bring kids into this world even via atificial means they should just either not have the little bastards or plan to spend time being a parent. Kate acording to the narriative of the first shows is said to be a nurse. She should just go back and work as a nurse to support her kids. She has no talent as a performer and I pray that she gets the boot from Dancing with the Stars. She does not need nannies, or other ancillary help. You wanted those kids then be there and be a mother. This world would be a better place if more people practiced birth control. If you can't feed it don't breed it.

Do you have your kids with you while YOU are working?

does it matter? if she worked as a nurse she would be gone long hours. woud that be o.k.?i think that if she makes 150,000 on dancing with the stars and she is gone a month straight she still would be spending more time with her kids than if she had a normal job.i think people go way overboard when they talk about kate.she has eight kids under 11 and she dosn't ask her older kids to co-parent like some familes with many children.maybe she was hard on her husband but she pulled her load,did he.i use to watch that show all the time and i always thought they loved each other and felt that she was alot easier on him than i would have been on my husband i we had eight kids.

Do you take YOUR kids with you to work? If not shut up

No Jim... CRATE doesn't take her kids with her to work. And for the record her name is KATE. Does your wife take the kids to work??? Do You? She has a right and an obligation to make a living to support those children, because I guarantee you - Jonboy isn't doing his part. I am not a fan of hers, but as a working mother I know how hard it is to do double duty, especially when there is no support from the ex.

All the negative comments.........................its the green eyed monster.

The woman is not doing anything wrong, illegal, neglectful, or hurtful to her children. She is a mom who is making a decision how she wants to raise her children, what job she wants to take, etc. etc...

I too am disturbed by so many people putting her down for being a working mom, who chooses to work a job she likes.

Wow!

no she doesn't ..thatwasthe arrangement when they divorced the kids would stay at the residence in PA and the parents would take turns..Jon doesn't have a job, screwing the latest hunny doesn't constitute a job..wants to party and take vacations all the time, when he originally left he said needed his space because he'd never had a chance to find himself...Kate does the reality ciruit because those shows pay more than she ever could make as a Nurse, with the lest amount of time away from the kids..Jon got kicked off the Jon and Kate+8show because he kept bring the girlfriensto house..not appropriate...bad mouth Kate all you want..let's see how any of you can raise 8 kids with a whiny/ deadbeat ex spouse, who has a serious it's all about me problem and couldn't keep his pants zipped when he was married

KATE! What mom takes her children to work? I don't. I think Kate is a great mother who is just trying to make a living. Jon needs to practice with the children that he lays down with!! He is a sorry excuse for a man and doesn't need to be a full-time father. GO KATE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

KathyMac and MzHurt. Parents don't have BODYGUARDS when they go to work either, but Kate does. Jim was asking a reasonable question.

I agree with Heather, and subsequent negative replies regarding Kate's competency as a parent. Jon was always the hands-on parent; Kate was the one who said "I'm done". This was just after moving into the mansion. She is with the kids for a photo-op only...and cannot handle more than two at once. The chosen two get to go with her to tan and have her nails done..or shop. Anything that is on her agenda, of course. Meanwhile, the nannies are on the job. She doesn't allow Jon to have more custodial time...he would if he could, I am sure.

Neither one of them are fit parents. Kate is a registered nurse; she should go back to it and earn a living. But then she wouldn't earn millions doing that. The two of them love living the life of the rich and famous. If she went back to nurising, she could spend a lot more time with her kids. She is trying to recapture her youth. Forget it Kate. Your youth is behind you.

Kate is doing what it takes to take care of 8 children on her own! I'd like to see all of you commenting on her going back to work as a nurse try and support 8 kids on a nurse's salary!! You'd be lucky to support yourself on a nurse's salary these days. No wonder she treated Jon the way she did, he was like having another kid! What a great guy leaving her with 8 kids so he can go out and act like a teenager. He's a lazy, selfish, immature jerk who doesn't deserve custody of those children. Kate's doing what she has to in order to survive. She'd hardly ever see her kids if she had a nurse's schedule, this job enables her to be with her kids during the week and only have to leave them to do the show, which probably gives her the break she needs and deserves while at the same time making a sufficient living. I highly doubt she's getting rich off it and good for her if she is. How would you like to have a camera crew in your face 24/7 and have tabloids writing rumors about you and plastering them all of the country. Don't judge someone until you walk in their shoes!

You're an ignoramus. My mother was a model when I was very young, and she traveled all over the world for work. She had no choice. Sometimes I went with her, and sometimes I had my aunt or grandmother take care of me. My mother worked so hard as a single mom, and when she was done with work, it was all about family. She was the best mother in the world, and the living she made gave me an education that you can't get from an everyday stay at home mom.

Don't judge people out of your own jealousy. You can't send 8 kids to college on a nurse's salary, and why would she when she can work a few weeks a year as a celebrity, versus all year long as a nurse. It's obvious her kids are important to her, and I give her credit for enduring the constant bashing she gets from idiots like you.

You really sound kind of jealous. Kate is an amazing mother; why should she have to go back to working an 60-80 hour week? So what she has become use to a certain lifestyle why shouldn't she? watch the show she has reason to yell who are you to judge her when you don't have twins who are becoming preteens while having sextuplets who go through everything in there life from walking, to potty training around the same time? Don't judge you don't her or her family all you see are the magazine titles and the show. Magazines are not 100% correct and the show shows bitter and sweet moments. When you have sextuplets and twins than you can talk until then shut your mouth.

Great post Heather!!!! Of course you're never going to get the Kate "Drones" to believe it but that's not shocking!! LOL

*WHOCARES, you said "no one called Jon a bad dad when he was out last yr doing his thing"??? Sorry to burst your bubble but that's NOT true!!! The Kate Drones did that all yr long as well as the tabliods, the entire media!! You should really get your facts straight.

There are thousands of people who don't buy Kate's B.S.!! Who can SEE right through her just like we do with Jon!! I don't and CAN'T feel sorry for a woman who's husband wanted out after being treated like crap on TV by the 1 person who claimed to have "loved him"!!! Tell me this, if that had been Jon treating Kate like that, what would say??? What would you call him??? Abuse, no matter what kind or who's doing it is wrong!! But the Kate Drones look past that and for the life of me, I can't figure out why. We all know what kind of husband Jon was but does that mean she had the right to treat him the way she did??? I can't remember how many times I saw her slap him on his face!!! That's just disgusting and the fact that it was done in front of their kids, that's even sicker!!!

You Kate Drones want Jon to go back to his old job?? Well then, Kate needs to do the same because Heathers right. It's NOT about the kids. It's about KATE!! Always has been and sadly, I believe it always will be!!!

It's sad that the Kate Drones buy into her dribble but what's sadder is.... those kids are going to be the ones paying for it!! And when they do, they'll have YOU to thank TOO!! Now don't get me wrong, Jon holds just as much responsibiltiy in how messed up those kids will be but the difference between the Kate Drones and myself is..... I KNOW that. I have no problem admitting it!! It's apparent the Kate Drones as well as Kate herself believe she's "perfect" but the last time I checked, no one who walks this earth is. I know, that's shocking to the Kate Drones but hey, IT'S TRUE!!!!! :O Peace

Excuse me, but I'm a nurse and believe me, if she went back to work as a nurse, she would spend LESS time with her children. Nurses have to work 12 or more hours a day (not including getting dressed and commuting). Add the stress and WOW a stressed-out, worn-out mom. If you read the article, you will notice that she stays home with the children and practices and leaves only for the actual show.
As for Jon, I'll never forget the show when they made little playhouses for the children and Daddy-O wanted them put in the woods far away from the house. Kate put her foot down and insisted they be put closer to the house. Idiot, uncaring sperm donor and sensible mom. A mother could immediately recognize the safety issues involved. He doesn't need to be near those children. Heaven only knows what would happen to them in Jon's custody.

Heather,

You do realize that being a nurse is often a demanding job that might have her working 12 hour shifts and the pay would never be enough to support 8 kids. How come I don't see you demanding that Jon go back to work and get a real job? I mean he's living the life of leisure and not bringing in a penny from working a job to support those kids. Also, since she hasn't worked as a nurse in several years, chance are she wouldn't be able to get a job as a nurse unless she went back to school to take refresher courses...you have to stay relevant without long-term breaks in working when you work in the medical field. Maybe, she should take Jon back to court and ask for more money so she can get back into nursing??? But no, she choosing a career in showbiz--she may not be the best and she may fizzle out at it, but she's making money to bring into that large family she helped make. She realizes someone has to work and bring in enough money to support those kids.

Go back to work as a nurse? It probably costs at least double what a nurse makes to get care for 8 children. Putting even TWO kids into day care costs a small fortune. For eight kids, buying groceries, clothes, toys, medicine, cooking, bathing and cleaning up after is a monumental task. And to all who slam her for being away from them to be on DWTS, remember, the show is only temporary. In a few weeks, it's over; she'll be back with the kids. I really don't understand all the hate some people spew out toward her. You wouldn't last a week in her shoes.