Opinion: Sorry, Jon - Kate Gosselin Is Not an Absentee Mom

Come on everyone. Have we forgotten what a witch Kate was to Jon on their TV show? If you decide to have that many kids then you should be able to support them as many other people do with normal jobs and not trying to be a celebrity. Kate complains about attention, but she has asked for it. I am so over poor pity me that Kate keeps giving. Jon is no better, but the show is what ruined their marriage. Fame went to both of their heads and all they are is regular people who had a whole bunch of kids at one time. What have they done that is special? Nothing!

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Kate is so full of herself- she cries she needs money to support her kids but yet she can spend $7000 for hair extensions.Shame on her. Talk about being a hypocrit , I don't blame Jon for leaving her - she treated him lke he was a child - gave him no respect as the father of her children. When her children grow up and re watch these shows they will see that it was Kate that drove their father away and thanks to the tabloids they will see what a money hungry woman she really is. - Bull she is doing this for her children- she is leaving her children with nannies and leaving them because she is a money hungry B

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I think there will always be disagreements on child care. I don't want to put Kate in the field of actress or even as a professional business women tat has worked her way to the top but, how many actresses and business women can you think of that have children ? All I can think of have full time nannies and house keepers. Most people when you get to a certain level of income no longer have the time to devote to being a full time stay at home parent. I have a friend that sent her housekeeper to a parent/teacher conference. She could not go but someone was there . That is more than a lot of full time parents do. Not being there full time is not a bad thing. I have a family member that was very seldom home while here children were growing up due to traveling with her job. Her children grew up smart, very self reliant and very well adjusted. I have another relative that was so devoted to raising her children and being there for them every minute of every day she even went to work at their school they attended. Her children never grew up. If they were turkeys they would have drowned. Almost always in trouble with the law as soon as they were old enough to be, never finished any thing but high school. They are in their thirties and she is still taking care of them and now their families. And she got her wish because all are still living in her house. Jon and Kate's children are not babies anymore. They don't need someone full time watching every step they take. I think they are better with her gone some. At least she is not there to critique their every move.

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this is no different than when movie stars are away for months filming movies....or i guess when the average person works all day everyday and is not home with the kids. who cares anyway?

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dear nanny- I dont care if kate works in entertainment industry but the point is all she ever talks about is that this is the only way to provide a decent living for her family--she has a poor pitiful me, help me, vote for me, i have 8 little mouths to feed, and so on and so on....oh and since you brought it up,, why doesnt she live by or have any family around her..oh thats right it is all themm........

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Kate is earning money for her children. Jon wants some of that money and thus he wants the children. As long as Kate has made proper arrangements to see that her children know what she is doing and that they are cared for and loved and see her often enough, Jon should back off. As a man of the former Gosselin household, he needs to think more about his children and less about his own situation. I will bet that Jon ends up just fine regradless.

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I also think she should be home with her kids, she can get a job in the hospital as a nurse she has 7 bank accounts (if not more) if she needs the money so badly then alot of it has to be going to nannies. The trouble with Kate is she is used to the high living now since her tv show, Kate you used to live like all of us but that it beyond you now put your kids first and stay there and be a mother to them because before you know it they are going to be grown you seem to think more of money and your appearance than you do your kids,I heard you on tv when you were asked if you had the kids college funds already and you said yes. If you need the money so badly sell your mansion get a regular house with 4 or 5 bedrooms, get rid of the nannies the only thing the kids want is YOU...and for you to be home with them. I heard when you said that it hurt you when one of the kids called the nanny mommy well that should have rung a bell with you then, you have the child support and if you get a job you will have money get down off your high horse and be the way you used to be....

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According to the article, Kate gets $20,000 a month from Jon. That's $240,000 a year. Why does she need to work anyway? Only because she wants to live like royalty. If she would be content to live like an average person and not a queen, she could stay home with her kids.

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This sounds so familiar. It makes me wonder what Kate saw in him in the first place. From the time I left my children's father until he died some 30 years later, he "swore to get even." He did, too. He fed our son, whom we adopted when he was 2 months old, so much hate toward me that it was like a brainwashing. Many times, Jeff would show so much contempt for me that it would leave me so wounded that I didn't know what to do next. He remarried, twice, and when he died, I held the second wife in my arms while she cried. Ten days before Jeff's wedding, he called me and told me not to come to his wedding - his birth mother would be there. That was 12 years ago - and I haven't heard from him since. Needless to say, I've never been the same and the hurt doesn't get any easier. I just pray that Kate doesn't allow Jon to beat her down - she looks terribly thin and so tired.

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hold the phone... wait did i read that right??? did the article accuse jon of having poor impulse control?? ok let me see if got this right...everyone is defending this little twit kate? this is the same woman that in one interview started out whining about how jon took all this money out of the bank and she couldn't afford to pay her bills and feed her kids and in the next breath talked about this high dollar diamond and pearl ring that she had looked at and was going to buy when she got the money back from jon...come on people, this woman is playing all innocent and betrayed but she only cares about herself. i only get 26 dollars a week in child support and she claims to need 2500 a month per child??? get real...all she cares about is money and attention...she doesn't care about her kids..it's evident in the fact that she was willing to leave her kids with strangers to fly across the country to appear on a show just to keep her ugly mug in the public spot light...get real america

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Sharon hit the nail right on the head. I do not understand why everyone is so hateful toward her. Men who travel constantly, weeks on end for their jobs are heroes and breadwinners for their families. It's the quality of time spent with the kids who will appreciate all she has sacrificed someday while their lousy father tried to drive them into welfare. He hasn't even take advantage of his visitation rights, opting instead to give them up for a trip to Europe with yet another girlfriend. He sees how much money Kate is making and just wants those kids so she'll have to pay him support since he can't hold down a job.

I agree he shouldn't have to pay her $20,000 a month. It should be based on what he's bringing in. But if he hadn't spent all his money on trips, fancy cars, expensive apartments and girlfriends he'd be in a better place right now. But to take those kids away from Kate just because she's working, come on. A few evenings a week away from them isn't going to hurt them and if Jon is so worried about them being with nannies during that time why doesn't he stay with them?

About her personality, just give her a break. I'd be bitch too if people said such horrible things about me. I think she's actually being nice for the way she's been treated. Her life fell apart and she's doing the best she can. Yes, she came across as bitchy to Jon on the show and she has a tough exterior. But obviously Jon deserved it. Just look at him now.

If people are going to hate Kate then they need to hate every working woman who leaves her kids alone to try to earn money to provide for them. Kate is in a position to make a very good life for those kids while still putting them first and spending more time with them then some actresses who go on shoots for months. No one made a big deal of Christian Amapour for leaving her child to cover the war in Iraq for months. Katie Couric goes on special assignments for weeks and leaves her kids with someone. Female athletes leave their kids while they train.

What do people expect? Should she be like Octomom who sucks the taxpayers dry to support her kids? Kate just can't win. So people just need to back off of her and give her a little credit. If you don't like her, don't watch her or read about her. I applaud her for doing all she's been able to do even though she's criticized at every tiny little step she makes. Sounds like shallow, jealous, mean-spirited people to me.

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NEXT !!!!!

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Poor Kate just needs a good keep dicking! John Gosselin holds the world record for the smallest penis, they had to have those babies created in the lab due to his anatomical defecit. I think it is called "microphallus." All those years just having him around to raise like another kid must have made her feel like she was the mother to 9!!! Seriously, look at every Ho he has been with since Kate, they are long gone! John is now couch surfing at his bro's, and the only reason the child support is current is that the monies dispersed in the equitable division of properties was placed in a fund that doubles as a default for child support. And as for Kate going back to Nursing, long hours and hard labor would really make her an absent parent, emotionally and physically. Ask any nurse if they would like four years of salary paid in one lump sum, and get to dance and be treated like a star for 8 weeks, I am guessing that they would opt for the latter. (R.N.'s average 50K annually, $200,000 was paid for the DWTS gig)So, Kate, keep up the good work, but find a man and get some! You will feel ALOT better, and the dancing will look more natural, ask Pam for some references:))

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It is ludicrous to think parents should support their children working at only "normal" jobs - whatever a normal job is these days. Parents can do anything for a living that is not against the law. It isn't any better or worse to be some kind of entertainer or some kind of office worker or a nurse or an engineer. What counts is the willingness to work hard and NOT expect the tax-payers to support your kids. Also, most people are ambitious and would jump at the chance, especially in this poor economy, to up their lifestyle. Making lots of money does not make someone a worse person or a better person. But having more money definitely does allow parents to have more options for their families. From what i understand, Kate is away at DWTS for 2-3 days at a time, then home practicing in her basement for 4-5 days. She occasionally travels more than that - not unlike other mothers with high-profile corporate positions. It amazes me how judgmental and somehow THREATENED people seem to be that Kate Gosselin has moved out of the traditional mold of a mother with a large family.

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Jon Gosselin has absolutely no redeeming qualities aside from the sperm he donated to create those precious children. The hard truth of the matter is that this custody stunt is about all he and his attorney can come up with to get him out of the bind he's put himself in. He has no job, doesn't seem interested in getting a job, and no longer has any of his young sugar mama's to mooch off of. He doesn't have a place to live, or even a friend to crash with. Far from being an absentee parent, Kate has been doing both the consistent parenting AND hustling to produce income for the family, while Jon's been trying his best to do neither. If Jon's attorney thinks he can go before a judge and knock Kate for not sitting at home with her children and waiting for Jon to pay her, he's got another think coming!

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Oh - and let's not forget that JON was living in Utah until March 21, part of the time....UNTIL his 25-yr. old girlfriend kicked him out!

This guy is a real piece of work!

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Kate was pushing, pulling Jon, maybe, just maybe she knew him better than we do... Jon the immature, Kate the mom, the leader, Jon never was told not to cry over spilt milk .. gro up Jon , manup... the babies had no say in this matter go raise them up, either toghter or single, but put them first.. My thought is Jon is running scared, he just might need Kate to figure out what he should do next.. porn seems like his only option ( as far as show business goes) read where he did poorly at his pc job .. anyway you go Kate..

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I honestly have no idea what kind of parent either of these people are or how much they love their children. It is tough to judge from their TV show, because people "act" for the cameras, let's face it. But what does strike me odd is that both Kate and Jon certainly had some knowledge their marrriage was in trouble -- marriages don't become bad overnight. So what do they do? Go through IVF and get pregnant with six more children. I would think this highly irresponsible on their parts -- an accidental pregnancy is one thing, that happens sometimes -- but IVF is hardly accidental. It takes much planning and is usually a huge elaborate process. Who knows? Like other marriages, sometimes one spouse thinks more children will solve the problems. It doesn't.

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