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Baby Formula is Not Rat Poison
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Do you think we could maybe take a break from beating up non-breastfeeders? Formula is not rat poison. The moms who use it are not Simlac abusers. In fact, they are the majority of us: Only 14 percent of American women are exclusively breastfeeding at the six-month point. They must have some reason beyond massive indifference to their babies' health.
Like, maybe it's hard to do? Or it hurts? Or, as with two of my dear friends, the whole thing never kicked in, despite the desperate days they spent attached to miniature milking machines? Or maybe some moms actually have to go back to work and don't want to sit in the coat closet with a pump and a copy of People?
There are plenty of legit reasons for not breastfeeding, and yet formula moms are often portrayed as selfish jerks who don't care if their babies live, die or end up allergic to dubious studies that make moms feel guilty. I'm allergic to those, too.
The latest one appears in this month's Pediatrics, saying that each year 911 babies (what an evocative number!) die from the infections and/or illnesses they might have fought off had they been breastfed.
Let's leave aside the scientific problems with this study -- most saliently the fact that it is impossible to separate the benefits of breast milk from the benefits of having a mom so health-conscious that she breastfeeds. These two factors are "confounded," as Joan Wolf, assistant professor of Women's & Gender Studies at Texas A&M and author of the forthcoming book, Is Breast Best?, puts it. In other words: It's quite possible that it's the upbringing and not the milk that is conferring the rather minimal benefits we associate with breastfeeding.
Minimal? Yes and don't jump on me! Dr. Michael Kramer, a professor of pediatrics at McGill University and breastfeeding consultant to the World Health Organization, tells London's The Times that the benefits conferred by breastfeeding in terms of kids avoiding leukemia, lymphoma, bowel disease, type 1 diabetes, heart disease [and] blood pressure are "weak." So are breastfeeding's benefits when it comes to allergies, asthma and obesity.
Breastfeeding does seem to cut down some on ear infections and diarrhea. But then again, formula feeding helps fend off rickets.
Every day we make decisions about how to raise our kids, factoring in risks and preferences. For instance, city kids are more apt to get asthma. So do families immediately relocate? Says Wolf, "Most couples would say the costs are too great." Staying put is a small risk they're willing to take. Or what about the fact that more kids die as car passengers than from any other cause? Do we immediately stop driving them, because five or six die each day? Or, says Wolf, do we make a calculated decision that the minimal risk is worth the convenience of driving?
No one questions our choice to live in the city, or to drive the kids to grandma's house. But when it comes to choosing formula, suddenly we are heartless hussies.
Interesting, isn't it, that we focus so harshly on the one part of parenting that only women can perform? A part that society uses to determine whether or not a mom is doing the right thing, as if there aren't a thousand decisions we will make in the next 18 years?
Babies need love and they need food, which they can get from the breast or the bottle. Next subject please!
(And, in case you were wondering, I breastfed.)
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ReaderComments (Page 1 of 32)
4-13-2010 @ 11:30AM
uvolttafrancis said...Wow, Jennifer is it that serious? It is for certain that breast milk is best for the child however she is just defending mother who decide to bottle feed. People do have jobs, go to school, or other issues that prevent them from breast feeding. Not everyone wants to be uneducated, dependent on others, bare foot, pregnant, and a house wife like yourself. I only breast feed my babies for 3 months each and they turned out great no allergy's, or sickness. People stop being so harsh on bottle feeding mother's it's their choice not yours. LOL you anti bottle feeders crack me up.
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4-13-2010 @ 1:35PM
KS said...Seriously? Breast-feeding IS best, and formula, though it's come a long way, is NOT a comparable replacement. It's just not. You can justify it however you want, but it's not as good as breastfeeding.
"People do have jobs, go to school, or other issues that prevent them from breast feeding. Not everyone wants to be uneducated, dependent on others, bare foot, pregnant, and a house wife like yourself"
Talk about ignorant! I have a job, a degree, finished another certificate program the first 3 months of my son's life, do not depend on anyone else, am not barefoot OR pregnant... but I am still nursing my son 9 months later. It's called: Pump at work. Nurse when you're home. Do what you can for your CHILD, and not what's convenient for you. Period.
Obviously this isn't about people who can't breastfeed for reasons like medications, lack of production, etc. It's for moms who don't even want or try to give their child the best. Breastfeeding isn't a lifestyle choice like so many moms have made it. Most women CAN breastfeed. They choose not to.
No, formula is not rat poison. I was given only formula. My mom didn't want to breastfeed. I am healthy, well-adjusted, intelligent... but that does not mean that it was the BEST option for me. It was the best option for my mom. It's a person choice when it comes down to it, and if I can, I choose to give my kids the best I can give them.
8-20-2010 @ 7:55PM
Adriana said...So sorry to read such an ignorant article. But it only makes me aware of what deficits we still have in this country when it comes to lack of good education. Hopefully we learn from this and know what not to do. This is just another point to prove the dangers of (bad) media. When in the hands of ignorant people the damage can be countless :-(. Can't blame you though. You are only following the "majority", so I can't expect you to think for yourself.
4-13-2010 @ 11:49AM
Andy said...Yes, breastfeeding can be hard and mothers do have to work. What is wrong with doing combo feeding then? Nurse when you are with the baby and feed minimal formula while at work (3oz bottles every 2-3hours, not 8oz bottles). For over 90% of women this is physically possible, and the babies will get some breast milk and the mother will spend a little less money on formula and you don't have to pump at work (since a lot of places aren't pump friendly).
That study had other numbers on it besides 911 and 13billion, like a goal of 75% initiation rate (which includes one attempt at breastfeeding), even that will lead to healthier babies in the population.
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4-13-2010 @ 11:48AM
SKL said...Breastfeeding rocks.
My kids were formula-fed.
Imagine if you had absolutely no contact with your children for their first year of life. What are the things you would consider most important for them?
I would have preferred to be able to breastfeed my kids, but it wasn't important enough to justify the drama and hysteria that I see in the ParentJudge environment. My kids came to me healthy and happy. What more could a mother want?
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4-13-2010 @ 11:59AM
Amanda said...I love this article! I was not able to breast feed because I have been on seizure medications for most of my life. My 2 kids are happy, healthy and well adjusted. I will say they have seasonal allergies, but so do my husband and I. I love how some moms have all the answers. You should breast feed... you should stay at home with your kids 24-7 and not send them to a daycare ever. I'm tired of the guilt and have released it. I have to work to support them... they know that Mom's a hard worker and that I also am a great Mom. I try not to judge other's job as a mom... it's a hard job but also a fun one! If your kids are well groomed, fed, happy, healthy, and have friends and nice place to live... consider yourself lucky and blessed by God! Look around the world... there are worse things than not breast feeding and working for a living.
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4-17-2010 @ 2:19PM
Lee said...Certainly, some women who are on medications can't breast feed. However, most of the ones who just "couldn't" either didn't try very hard or didn't really want to do it. If it was as difficult as some say it is, the human race would have died out long ago.
4-17-2010 @ 2:46PM
wendy harris said...I completely agree !!!! I was breast fed, and OHGoodness, guess what? I have HORRIBLE allergies. I tried to breastfeed my first born, but I kept thinking I was doing something wrong, he just would not latch on. My Dr. finally look at me and stated that I had "inset nipples", I didn't even know there was such a thing. So needless to say, I didn't even bother with my 2nd. Granted my babies have allergies and asthma, but they have played sports and cheered ALL THROUGH SCHOOL, and low and behold they are still here and HEALTHY! Glad to know there are open minded people still out there.
4-17-2010 @ 3:14PM
Stay home and pump said...I for one am a working professional and a mother who decided against breastfeeding. My daughter did not suffer from my decision, in fact, she was always healthy and over 100% on the well baby chart in the height/weight category. She is now a teenager and over 6 ft tall.
I don't regret it a day....in fact i feel more working mothers should consider it. Too many women want their cake and eat it too...they take 3 hours out of their work day and go behind closed doors to pump...and expect everyone else to pick up their slack. To them I say...If you wanted a baby and wanted to breastfeed...you should have been a stay at home mom!
Just my opinion.....
4-20-2010 @ 12:54AM
janet said...Mothers who believe breastfeeding is the priority to being a good parent discriminate against moms on medication, adoptive parents, 2 dad families, working moms, and moms with mastitis or other breastfeeding issues. Please read "Beyond Bottles and Breasts - The Key To Whole Baby Nourishment" for a common sense perspective to the breastfeeding/formula feeding issue. Http://bit.ly/cW6gAB
4-21-2010 @ 10:29PM
Penny in Texas said...@janet, saying that "Mothers who believe breastfeeding is the priority to being a good parent discriminate against moms on medication, adoptive parents, 2 dad families, working moms, and moms with mastitis or other breastfeeding issues" makes as much (or as little, in this case) sense as saying that mothers who believe having biological children is preferable "discriminate against" adoptive parents, step-parents, or the childless. My believing something is good doesn't hurt anyone else or "exclude or restrict members of one group from opportunities that are available to other groups" (the definition of discrimination, per Wikipedia). Just as your belief that breastfeeding is inconsequential to good mothering or infant health doesn't discriminate against me. Whether a woman's choice not to breastfeed excludes herself and/or her child from health or emotional benefits is an entirely separate question.
4-13-2010 @ 11:56AM
KRISTA said...yeah, i tend to agree with jennifer on this one. lenore just wrote an "uneducated essay" about her opinion on formula feeding. if sitting in a coat closet on your breaks and pumping is such an inconvenience then perhaps you should reconsider having children at all, they come with many inconveniences. it is selfish to "choose" to formula feed, whether you go to school or work. if you simply cannot, for sound reasons that is different, yet still unfortunate. the fact that it may hurt or is not convenient is selfish. giving birth hurts but there's no getting around it.
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4-13-2010 @ 3:22PM
Maedae said...Wow! So because my body didn't work, I should feel ashamed. I breastfed exclusively for 6 weeks, when my life long condition kicked back in and I couldn't produce milk anymore. So I am therefore a bad mother and should reconsider having children? Get real!
How many kids do you have? If you don't have any, then don't judge those that do. I was insistant that I would only breastfeed my children until it didn't work. Stop judging so many people on things you know nothing about.
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4-13-2010 @ 1:50PM
Heidi said...I agree, if you don't have children you can't possibly know what you are talking about.
I breastfed my son for almost 8 months. If I ever have another baby, I'll hopefully nurse for at least a year. It is a decision I make not because of the bogus studies but because it is something that *I want to do.
Happy mothers have happy, healthy babies. You do what works for you.
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4-13-2010 @ 1:55PM
eg said...On the other side of things I am tired of people assuming that I judge them because they don't breastfeed and I do or they don't stay home like I do. I think every woman has a choice on what is going to make her the happiest and therefore a better mother. There are so many other issues with parenting (abuse, neglect etc) that are much more pressing then the bottle or breast. I chose to breastfeed because that is what I wanted to do as a mother. That was the choice that was best for me. When I share my choices with other mothers who did not or do not breastfeed they automatically think I am going to preach to them about the breast/bottle issue. I'm not. I have many friends who bottle feed and many who breast feed. Like I said before, its a choice to be made on what is going to make mom happy and therefore a better mother.
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4-17-2010 @ 6:26PM
my2boysmyworld said...That's awesome that your not judgemental, but let's be honest here, we know that a lot of women, and men , are. I am not judgemental person, but I know what it's like to be judged. I can remember sitting in the food court at a mall, bottle feeding my child, and hearing comments on how I should be breastfeeding, and getting dirty looks left and right. These people had no clue about my situation and why I wasn't breastfeeding, but yet they did judge me anyway. Trust me, I was jealous of woman who could breastfeed. And angry at woman who could, but used stupid excuses on why they didn't. For instance, I have a friend, who's ignorant husband called her a "cow" and made "mooing" noises at her when she tried to breastfeed. She gave it up, because she was already self conscious about it to begin with, and that made it worse. Honestly, I was angry at her for letting her husband make her feel this way, and I wanted to kill him for being so insenstive to her. However, it was her choice, not mine. I only wish I could have the choice, but I just didn't. So my point is, why not all breastfeeding mother's judge, neither do all bottle feeding mom's, most of us, are probably jealous that we can't. I'm just saying, to those who do judge, think before you do. You have no clue what that lady's reasons are to or not to breastfeed, and until you are in her shoes, you have no right to judge her.
4-13-2010 @ 2:16PM
Emily said...Why is nothing ever said that in order for breastfeeding to be best, the mother needs to eat a nutritious diet? I'm not a biologist or a medical doctor, but it seems to me that if the mom isn't eating well, she's not passing on anything to her baby that is better than formula, but none of the breastfeeding propaganda ever mentions that.
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4-13-2010 @ 3:49PM
Michelle said...Emily, nothing is ever mentioned because this is simply not true. A mother can be malnurished and still make healthy breast milk. The women's body would be depleted to make the milk - it wouldn't be healthy for the mom, but still good for the baby.
4-13-2010 @ 5:53PM
CLM said...Michelle - were that only true. Maternal deficiencies in diet do affect the quality of breast milk. That's been established for some time now.
4-13-2010 @ 11:19PM
Michelle said...CLM - please share your source for this information. I'm a certified breastfeeding peer counselor and I know the women I work with would be surprised to learn that what we have always taught on this subject is incorrect.
I wasn't allowed to post links but try kellymom or women'shealthabout.com for information from medical professionals which contradicts what you are saying.
A quote from one medical professional: "The quality of breast milk is only affected in extreme cases of deprivation, or by excessive intake of a particular food."
Again, no one is recommending that a nursing mother not eat properly, but unless very severe, a bad diet will only hurt the nursing mother, NOT the quality of her milk. The myth that women who breastfeed must maintain some extreme super-healthy diet only serves to discourage breastfeeding (like the myth that you can't have drink or two while breastfeeding.)