Students Say Weeknight Prom is a Buzz Kill, but That's the Point
Filed under: In The News, Teen Culture
No curfew busting with a weeknight prom. Credit: jupiterimages
After years of failed attempts to reign in excessive partying, Pearl River High School scheduled its junior and senior proms on weekdays this year, and instituted a strict morning-after policy designed to penalize any student who doesn't make it through the front door of the school by 7:34a.m., the official start of the school day.
Traditionally, The New York Times reports, Pearl River students head out to Manhattan or the Jersey Shore after the prom for festivities that typically turn out to be exercises in excess. The move to curb these excursions comes on the heels of last year's post-prom debacle, when 50 students were cited and fined $300 each for underage drinking at a motel in Seaside Heights, N.J.
One of the students cited last year was the son of the school's P.T.A. president, Donna McDonough, who tells The Times she made her son, Kevin, pay the fine from money he earned during the summer working as a lifeguard.
For years, schools around the country have wrestled with the after-prom dilemma, coming up with tactics to try to contain damage, such as holding sleepovers in the gym, asking for no-alcohol pledges and scheduling proms for the night before graduation.
Some schools, The Times reports, even go so far as to organize their own after-party activities, such as the Derby, Conn. school that has organized an after-prom party at a sports and laser tag complex. At Albertus Magnus High School, a Roman Catholic school located near Pearl River, school officials have organized a trip to Disney World to compete with after-prom events.
"We knew there was a lot of nonsense going on," Albertus Magnus High President Joseph T. Troy tells The Times. "We feel like we have a better handle on it now."
Many high schools do, in fact, hold their proms on weekdays, to take advantage of lower prices at hotels and other venues. But, according to The Times, many either give students the next day off, or allow them to miss the day with a parent's permission.
That will not be the case at Pearl River this year, though prom goers will be welcomed to school the next morning with eggs, sausage and bacon served by the P.T.A., and will attend field day events until regular classes start at noon.
Pearl River students have threatened to boycott the prom, and have circulated a petition calling for the dances to be moved back to Fridays, saying all attendees are being punished for the behavior of a handful of students. A number of parents at the school also have complained that the administration is interfering with their parental rights to decide what is in their children's best interests.
Pearl River Principal Bill Furdon tells The Times the object of changing days was to separate after-party activities from the prom experience, and to help reduce peer pressure -- not to put an end to the students' post-prom celebrations in New York City or at the Jersey Shore.
Students at Pearl River are still collecting money for two party buses that will head to New York on the Saturday following the prom, though The Times notes there were four buses chartered last year.
The Pearl River prom committee is trying hard to transform the school gym into a glamorous Hollywood-inspired venue, complete with a red carpet and faux paparazzi, to entice students to attend, according to The Times.
"We're trying to make it elaborate to compensate that it's on a Wednesday night," junior class president Kimberly O'Toole tells The Times.
As of April 13, 205 tickets had reportedly been sold for the April 14 junior prom, which had 250 attendees last year.
But at least one student will not be walking the red carpet. Joseph Howard,17, is taking three Advanced Placement classes, and is worried about the workload, he tells The Times.
"If the prom was on a Friday, I would go," he says. "But it's a Wednesday night. I know my teachers are going to be giving me work that night. It just kind of kills it."
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ReaderComments (Page 1 of 3)
4-14-2010 @ 8:11PM
nypdgirlva said...Does it matter?! Most are still going to have the 'After Prom' and going to have fun no matter the 'punichmen. My school holds it at the town local party hall so they can keep a tab on students. Does that stop them? NO! They go to the real prom for about an hour, and then leave and go to the next city, rent a hotel room or something else and get BUCKWILD! Trust me when I say, a weeknight is NOT going to stop them!!
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4-14-2010 @ 11:38PM
James said...Very smart idea. No deaths from drinking and driving on Prom Night.
4-15-2010 @ 12:44AM
Can you repeat that please said...Good point nyppdgirlva...since students will do the same things no matter what night prom is held they shouldn't complain then right? In fact students should petition to change prom to Monday afternoon that way they have more time for the after party!!! You make a valid point!!!
4-15-2010 @ 1:22AM
Momof3 said...You would feel very differently when one of your classmates never comes back to school.
4-15-2010 @ 3:18AM
Lisa said...Perhaps, but at least they are being proactive instead of reactive and attempting to alleviate the problem as opposed to add to the problem. They should at least get some kudos for making it attractive to students. If Prom is all about drinking, drugging, sex, then the rite of passage that prom marks has been lost on the generations. You don't need a prom for that - that happens every weekend anyway.
4-14-2010 @ 8:12PM
nypdgirlva said...* 'punishment'
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4-14-2010 @ 10:23PM
T. Roper said...Administrators are NOTORIOUS for not being concerned about EDUCATION, and ONLY about control. (Oh look Dick, oh look Jane, see the administrators duck-stepping down the hall. Quick, raise your arms in salute!)
4-15-2010 @ 8:43AM
rob said...there goes the alma mater future grant program
4-14-2010 @ 8:32PM
Johnny Eckles said...At least they won't be defiling the Sabbath by defiling Friday night and Saturday.
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4-15-2010 @ 9:42AM
Anna said...I feel like not many students will attend this prom. This is just stupid.
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4-14-2010 @ 8:34PM
John said...How about this, your not in class the next morning then you do not walk for graduation, they can mail them their diploma. I bet that would get their arses to school the next morning.
Of course, in this new society and generation of entitlement, over inflated self-esteem in our young people and lack of discipline at home and school (school out of fear.) Who knows parents would probably attempt to sue over that saying their little darlings had worked hard for 12 years to earn graduation and deserve to walk. What happen to parents and schools working together?
Parents don't want to be "friends" with their kids, no matter what they cost. All that is happening is students cannot handle any situation.
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4-14-2010 @ 9:26PM
michael said...Like this is a new thing. Chill out and let the kids enjoy the rite of passage we all enjoyed.
4-14-2010 @ 11:14PM
Donna said...Don't blame the schools, blame the parents, they raised the entitled generation. You bet they would sue the school if their child could not walk on graduation. Heck, a parent at our school threatened that, even when their son did not meet graduation requirements and was planning on going to summer school after 12th grade. Parents just don't parent any more.
4-15-2010 @ 12:13AM
sugarcoatedtruth87 said...Honestly, Its the parents damned fault for not having control over their children. The school, nor the prom, should have anything to do with it. It is a shame that the educators are willing to put kids at risk grade-wise by having a late night school function on a WEEKNIGHT. I'm all for having strict attendance rules... in my 12 years of pre collegiate schooling I only missed 1 day, but having a PROM on a wednesday night is just asinine.
4-14-2010 @ 8:35PM
phil said...I laughed when it came to this paragraph: "Pearl River students have threatened to boycott the prom, and have circulated a petition calling for the dances to be moved back to Fridays, saying all attendees are being punished for the behavior of a handful of students. A number of parents at the school also have complained that the administration is interfering with their parental rights to decide what is in their children's best interests."
May I suggest a really simple solution to the problem? NO SCHOOL-SPONSORED PROM! You, as a student in a tax payer supported institution are not OWED..a prom. The School Board is responsible for 12 years of instruction, not a party. As many students seek prom time to make social statements..(see Mississippi school denies Lesbian dating at Prom,) and as an excuse for lawless, juvenile behavior, why should The School Board and taxpayers risk lawsuits, accidents, incidents, and mayhem...all in the name of an outdated tradition that has a history of trouble? Enough.
Lets impart some "real-world" knowledge to the Senior Class. "Life is not Fair"... and..."There is no such thing as a free lunch!" You want a prom? Ask some of your complaining, weak, ineffectual, parents to provide one. Next Problem to be solved?
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4-14-2010 @ 8:44PM
nypdgirlva said...That's funny! Our school board doesn't pay for our prom. The seniors and juniors do. Senior dues are $250 (we have over 150 seniors) Junior dues $100(even more Jrs.) and prom tickets are $50 each. Sponsors and prom comittee members pay out of pocket for what the cash doesn't cover. And they've been doing that since our school started having proms over 60+ years ago :D
4-14-2010 @ 9:25PM
michael said...Obviously you never went to a prom and are still bitter. However, school districts don't pay for the prom, the students buy tickets to the prom or they don't go.
4-14-2010 @ 10:42PM
mhatfield said...AMEN!
4-14-2010 @ 11:19PM
Kelly said...we pay alot of money for tickets in the $100 plus we have fundraising since 8th grade at Pearl River for things like this that go into all of our trips and stuff. and junior prom ticket is more money then senior.
4-14-2010 @ 11:52PM
s said...I like the way you think Phil, and I agree whole-heartedly.