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Where Have All the Boys' Names Gone?
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Where are all the boys' names? Now that unisex/male names are becoming a trend for baby girls, it's hard to find a masculine name for boys! And even though girls can be Ryan and Brett and Cameron, boys can't be Ashley -- they'd be laughed at. Any advice?
-Masculine-Name-Searching Mom
There's no doubt about it: if naming is a turf war, the boys are losing. Old favorites like Ashley and Leslie are long gone, Avery and Bailey are teetering, and even the biblical classic Micah shows signs of androgyny.
It would be nice to think that boys and girls could play nicely and share their names, but historically it seldom happens. At a certain girl-baby saturation point, names "switch sides" and become unavailable for use as boy's names. So it's natural for parents of boys to feel leery when parents of girls start to eye a treasured favorite.
Until recently, it was easy to identify names at risk of switching. All of the names I just mentioned end in an -ee or -a sound, which fit traditional feminine patterns. But today, the notion of feminine style is bursting wide open. Names like Elliot, Rowan and Campbell are are being given to girls, and a "-son" name (Addison, Emerson) is increasingly likely to mean "daughter."
Are there fashionable boys' names with girl-proof machismo? Perhaps cowboy names like Wyatt and Cooper, drenched in dust, leather and gunpowder? I wouldn't count on it. The very things that appeal to mothers of boys about these names could also appeal to mothers of girls. Sonically, Wyatt falls somewhere between Maya and Scarlett, and seems no more a stretch for being pressed into use for girls than Elliot was.
If avoiding androgyny is your #1 goal, you might have to sacrifice the "fashionable" part. The most surefire masculine names are the stodgy classics. In all my name travels, I've yet to meet a little girl named Frank, George or Edward. Barring that, you can just dive in and hope that the naming future will turn out to be different from the past. With parents of boys and girls alike flocking to the same contemporary name sounds, monikers like Jordan and Skyler are starting to find a stable niche as two-sex favorites. We might just learn to share after all.
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ReaderComments (Page 1 of 10)
5-06-2010 @ 12:42PM
kay said...Boys use to be Ashley. - Don't for get blond Ashley in Gone with the Wind. Scarlett was fixated on him.
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5-07-2010 @ 7:56AM
lancanmou said...If avoiding androgyny is your #1 goal, you might have to sacrifice the "fashionable" part. The most surefire masculine names are the stodgy classics. In all my name travels, I've yet to meet a little girl named Frank, George or Edward. Barring that, you can just dive in and hope that the naming future will turn out to be different from the past. With parents of boys and girls alike flocking to the same contemporary name sounds, monikers like Jordan and Skyler are starting to find a stable niche as two-sex favorites. We might just learn to share after all.
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5-07-2010 @ 8:24AM
Joyce said...There' s a male reporter on Fox news in the morning, that reports from London, named Ashley.
5-07-2010 @ 8:38AM
ladyxnde said...I like Ashley for a boy better than a girl. My brother's name is Brent Ashley (he is now 34) and when we were younger it wasn't a big deal, now it's very faux pas.
5-07-2010 @ 9:00AM
Roger said...We went traditional with our 3 boys...
Maxwell, Jack and Oliver
We felt that there were too many Taylor, Tyler, Hayden, Braydens running around...
5-07-2010 @ 9:07AM
jan said...In my mother's family, the name Ridgely was always a middle name. However, my grandfather always went by C.Ridgely ****.
When I named my son, I wanted to use the Ridgely but knowing how school systems are I moved Ridgely from a middle name to a first name. All went well until high school. Then, since no one could spell his name right, he switched to his middle name of Warren. Now, fortunately, he's back to Ridgely, but I could have lived with Warren.
5-07-2010 @ 9:44AM
Diane said...Just use the old standbys our grandparents used: Michael, Jack, etc...
5-07-2010 @ 9:57AM
Cathy said...I love love love my three boys names.....Aidan. Noah, Reese
And although all can be used as girl names (apparently, although I would NEVER use aidan or noah ), I couldn't imagine them being named anything else!!! I actually thought baby #3 was a girl and had Reese Catherine as a choice....but Reese Daniel it was :)
5-07-2010 @ 10:16AM
OU812IC? said...Whatever happened to the good OLE' Boy names like Goober, Cletus, Jeb, and anyother name that has a 2nd name to it like Billy-Bob. Some other very popular names are Chester, Bodean, Pervis, Bud, and lets not all forget about Cooter. Must be a regional thing Y'All
5-07-2010 @ 10:25AM
anni said...Have a family member named ashley, when old enough, he changed it.
5-07-2010 @ 1:40PM
Tina said...I wanted to make sure my boys had very manly names so I went with Tyler and Max. Tyler is becoming more common than I would have liked, but I can't see either name ever being used on a girl. People would be more likely to use Taylor than Tyler for a girl.
5-10-2010 @ 3:26PM
nelly said...my brother is Ashley! It is a great name and he is an awesome guy.
6-07-2010 @ 4:19PM
angelfire said...there's also Ashley Angel that used to be in the band O-Town. He was always one of the Fan Favorites.
6-15-2010 @ 1:46AM
Memememe said...Why is our society so damn sexist that it's totally okay to give a girl a boy's name, but not vice versa? And now if a boy's name becomes popular as a girl's name, you suddenly "shouldn't" use that name for boys anymore? There are several cultures out there that ONLY have unisex names - in other words, they have absolutely NO names that indicate gender, or even pronouns like "he" and "she." Sexism should either be applied in both directions, or not at all.
5-06-2010 @ 8:27PM
Deanna said...Last I checked, there were no girls named Jacob or Matthew.
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5-07-2010 @ 6:13AM
Megan said...I went to school with a boy named Ashley Ireland. No one made fun of him, actually he was the MOST popular boy. This was in the late 80's.
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5-07-2010 @ 8:17AM
SKW said...That's true, but Ashley became one of the most popular girl's names in the early 1990s. It's definitely a girl name now, and naming a boy such now would cause problems later.
5-07-2010 @ 8:49AM
LuckeeK7 said...This is hardly a new thing. Take the UVA Lacrosse player that was murdered, her name was Yeardley.
It came from affluent or important families who wanted to somehow pass on their family's name through their female decendants even though when the women would marry they would have to change their name.
You could just give them 2 last names ( like William Kennedy Smith who was the child of a female Kennedy but still wanted Kennedy family recognition in his name.)
Or what some people started doing was giving both boys and girls the mother maiden name as a first name if mothers family was important to denote the linkage.
So if "Jane Shannon" was from a prominant family, when she gets married and becomes "Jane Murphy" she names her daughter "Shannon Murphy" so people will know Shannon' s maternal family connections.
After a while this caught on with common people who didn't even have links to said names but thought it sounded cute. And whalah!
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5-07-2010 @ 10:26AM
Aly said...I was with you until the whalah. Unless that was sarcasm, you lost all your knowledge credibility. It's Voila.
5-07-2010 @ 12:32PM
Valerie said...Just so you know, giving your child a middle name that is the last name of one of the parents is a long time tradition in other countries. There are thousands of people in the Phillipines, etc with the same middle name to honor their mothers.
My funny girl/name boy/name story: My sister named her DAUGHTER after our father, whose name was Theorodre. Her name (on the birth certficate even!!) is Teddi... and all I can think is it's a great stripper name!!.. Teddi Bear.. or something! Go figure!!
And as for those that think Terri is a derivitive of Terrence for a female? NO. It is a nickname for Victoria.
And.. Jamie for a boy is a derivitive of Jamison (Old English). But I've always loved that name for a girl.
And!!!.. My g/f just named her dog Bailey (which I always thought would be a great girl or boy name!!!..
I think... you should name your kid whatever you want (cept don't do too weird of a spelling (like Michelleigh) for Michelle .. cause it will be damn hard for your child in kidergarten when they are trying to learn to read and write english!!