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Amazing Mom: Stephanie Clark
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Stephanie Clark wants moms and daughters to get along. Credit: Courtesy of Stephanie Clark
Amazing Mom: Stephanie Clark, founder of My Daughter's Keeper, which offers counseling, mentoring, workshops and retreats to help moms and daughters develop stronger bonds.
Stephanie's Family: Kid: Daphne, 20
Stephanie Lives In: North Brunswick, New Jersey
Why Stephanie Is Amazing: Eight years ago, Stephanie Clark founded My Daughter's Keeper, a nonprofit organization working to help strengthen relationships between moms and adolescent daughters. It all began when her own daughter, Daphne, who was 12 at the time, asked, "Mom, I know you love me, but do you like me?"
The question halted Stephanie right then and there. "It made me stop to assess whether or not I was an effective parent," she says. "I was self-employed and working long hours to put a roof over her head and food on the table. I didn't realize that in working to make sure Daphne's physical needs were provided for, I hadn't been there for her emotionally."
Inspired by Daphne's question -- and a desire to have a stronger relationship with her daughter -- Stephanie began spending more time with Daphne. "After reflecting on my own childhood, raised by a single mom, I realized that you can't give someone what you never received. I wasn't able to shower Daphne with affection because I never received that," she says. "I had to put in a lot of effort. I'd tell myself: 'Don't bring work home. And if you do, don't do it until you spend quality time with Daphne.'"
All of this led Stephanie to create My Daughter's Keeper, which offers counseling, mentoring, workshops and retreats to help moms and daughters develop stronger bonds. The organization also helps them tackle peer pressure, teen pregnancy, drug abuse and other issues that plague young girls.
As the organization grew, Stephanie also created Project Single Moms, to empower single moms to become leaders, and to strengthen the quality of life for their families. To date, more than 1,200 single moms across the country have signed on through local affiliates, which implement programs such as, Single Moms Boot Camp, to help moms improve their lives spiritually, emotionally, physically and financially.
And as if all that weren't enough, Project Single Moms is also working with Project Working Mom, a national online scholarship program created by elearners.com. Stephanie is the national spokesperson for Project Working Mom, which will give out 285 full-tuition online scholarships this year, worth approximately $5 million, to moms who want to earn a degree.
Stephanie's Friend Shanick Moore Says: "Stephanie is inspirational, motivational, all of that and more. If you have the pleasure of being around her, you can only grow and you can only be better. She encourages me to want more, to be a better person, to help more. Everything she does is to help someone else."
Recognition: 2003 Women as Agents of Change Award, American Association of University Women; 2004 Central Jersey Women Who Make Magic Award; 2004 Charming Shoppes VOICES Award; 2004 Nu Xi Omega Chapter of AKA Sorority, Inc. P.E.A.R.L. Award for the Black Family; 2004 Russ Berrie Unsung Hero Award; 2006 BlackNJ Community Commitment Award; 2006 KISS-98.7FM Radio "Phenomenal Woman" Award; 2006 Outstanding Contribution to Empowering Women Award, Trinity Chapter Order of Eastern Star; 2006 Celebration of Life Award for Distinguished Community Leader; 2008 New Jersey Women and AIDS Network Outstanding Community Leader Award.
Stephanie's Guilty Pleasures: Stephanie goes for a full-body massages when she travels, Haagen Dazs Caramel Cone Ice Cream and WaWa's English Toffee Cappuccino.
Stephanie's Best Advice for Single Moms: "You are not alone. Sometimes you may feel that way, because you have the weight of the world on your shoulders, but it's important to connect with like-minded women to create a support group, so you don't feel like you're on you're own. Surround yourself with people who support you and who want to invest in your success. Connect with other women who have gone through what you're going through, who can be positive examples for you."
Related: Amazing Moms: Joan Blades and Kristin Rowe-Finkbeiner
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5-09-2010 @ 1:30AM
Rose said...I spent quite most of my parenting years trying appreciate and validate the feelings that my children had. I also tried to make them feel as if they had a voice in what happened around them. MAKE THEM LIKE ME......I forgot they aren't supposed to like they are supposed to become better then me. that is the only thing any parent wants. Don't fool yourself by thinking talking out every emotion every decision they have a right to be a part of. You weren't when you parents decided the decision was theirs. you lived with it. Either a party or the weekend or a move across country. NOT YOUR CHILD'S WELLBEING THE WELL BEING OF THE FAMILY. Why do I hear my adult child say to me I wish you were more my mom then my friend? I don't know about anyone else out there but it is Mothers day and I am now the proud friend of 2 beautiful women
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5-09-2010 @ 3:14AM
Helene said...I have spent my most of my "career" as a mother telling my two beautiful and amazing children (Colten, male, age 13 and Maegan, female, age 11) that not only do I love them, but I like them as people! It's not a false statement...I do genuinely like my children. They are WONDERFUL people. I took the time to get to know thwm...listened to their thoughts and ideas. Their opinion has weight in our family decisions. They have always known they are valuable and appreciated as are their thoughts and opinions. My husband and I may not always agree with them, but they know they have a say and that they will be listened to and respected. We should always listen to our children and respect their input! Great things come from the minds of children. I hope my children always know how valued and respected they are and never settle for less in their personal relationships!
5-09-2010 @ 7:51AM
Tameeka Mooody said...This is such a great accomplishment Stephanie!!! And not because it is another items to add to your long list of recognition but because this emphasizes to the rest of the world how great of a person, woman, and mother you really are!!! Thank you for all that you have done to help the relationships of single mother families. And thank you for being an inspiration to so many of us.
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5-09-2010 @ 12:59PM
SusanGivens said...This is a good thing to do.
However, there are too many small groups, each a non-profit, 501 that seem to have the same goal.
What I like about Focus Adolescent Services, www.focusas.com is that they refuse to take any government money. As I understand it they believe more in Mat:6 and the good hearts of Americans. Most Americans have such large hearts that they will give ten dollars and not worry or even think that it is a tax deduction.
For decades, I am told, Focus Adolescent Services has been working to unite all the thousands of 501c with the same mission: "To Help The Children of America."
I am told that there is such a great need that over one million people visit their web site a MONTH and that they take thousands of telephone calls, and help people for free.
The Red Cross has taken in 5 Million dollars from their "Texting," fund raising effort to aid Haiti. None of this money has been spent yet. Is it also true that they, the Red Cross, still has 500 Million in the bank left over from the money donated to them to help the victims of Katrina?
Money needs to go to the smaller groups like focusas.com, they are the ones who seem to be doing all of the work.
Some children knocked on our door last week. They were from the local High School, and were asking for money so that they could send "bandaids," to Haiti. Why should this be a need with all the money that is just sitting, (donations to Haiti), and has not been spent?
May The Lord Bless those people who do Good things to help the little children in our country; The United States of America.
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5-10-2010 @ 10:07AM
lori101 said...Warren, you need some serious help. Please find out where your own mother went wrong... then maybe talk to her. I don't know but from your writing you sound really angry and missinformed.
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5-09-2010 @ 4:08PM
Ray said...What an amazing Mom. I wish my Mother had been like her. And this woman is right in my own back yard (almost). Wonder if her organization could use some $ help?
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5-17-2010 @ 9:24AM
del said...hello everyone. i'm a single mother,grandmother, and also a student in college.
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