Child's Tantrums Wearing Us Out!

Our sixth child had horrible crying fits, and tantrums. He was our hardest child by far. After extensive testing (of the brain, nervous system, hearing, neurological responses, and I don't even know what else), we took him to a chiropractor who practiced Applied kinesiology, and he discovered that eight of the plates (bones) in his skull were out of place. After just two treatments there was incredible improvement. He is also chronically allergic to cows milk, and formula, even organic formula. Just for you information the chiropractor was Dr Martin in KC

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A brief/constructive suggestion:
Do not intoxicate kids with Religion.

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Great idea ;) seriously but Robert Smith has it all wrong...it's sniveling liberals that cry & whine like a toddler w/ crap is his nappy

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What if he has Asberger's ?

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Sorry...but "AdviceMama" hasn't a clue! Children respond to what they are taught, despite their natural tendencies toward certain personality traits. She really needs a degree in psychologiy...and a little "learning up", as they say in Colorado!

This little boy needs what all children need...parameters. When he throws a tantrum, take him gently but firmly by the shoulders, look him in the eye, and say "This behavior is NOT acceptable!" If he continues to scream, walk him into an unoccupied room, say "When you are finished screaming, you are welcome to re-join us", and gently but firmly shut the door. If he continues screaming as he comes out, repeat the procedure...as often as necessary until he "gets it"! When he finally comes out and rejoins the family quietly, lavish him with love and snuggles...offering a favorite treat isn't a bad idea, either, but isn't really necessary.

If you do this consistently, it shouldn't take but an incident or two for him to learn that good behavior gets him what he wants, and negative behavior doesn't. His tantrums are a plea for guidelines...do all of you the favor of giving them to him!

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Perhaps they should whip his little ass. a coulple of times is all that it takes.

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This is how I got my four year old daughter to stop her tantrums. While she was having a tantrum, I threw one too, only I kept getting louder and stomping my feet. She stopped her tantrum and stood and stared at me. She never did it again. I think it scared her. She is grown now.

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he only has tantrums because his parents are so useless. Shoot them!!! give the kid to some normal parents who know how to draw boundaries. he needs that kind of support. his parents are complete idiots.

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I agree that they should look into if he has ADD or something like that, but only after trying things like a good swat to the behind. both me and my two siblings tried throwing a temper tantrum 1 time "that's 1 time each" and my dad just looked at us and said if we wanted to throw a fit he would give us a reason...we each got our little hind ends busted and that was the end of that. I do like the cold water idea a bit too, it's like using water to break up a cat or dog fight. it shocks them without hurting them and then, with a small child, seeing you walk away makes them go...oh, that's not getting me what I want and mom is ignoring me now. they'll straighten up pretty quick. Children WANT mom and dad's love and approval, and if they think their behavior ISN'T going to get them that then they will "normally" stop the behavior. They exception being if there is a deeper reason for the behavior, like a mental disorder.

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This is the most rediculous thing I have heard in a while. This is how we end up with kids like this little girl in my daughters class that no one wants to be friends with because she is 9 years old and out of control. She has no personal boundaries, and no clue how she should behave because her parents never made her behave for a second in her whole life. Please people, teach your kids from an early age that life isn't fair. You don't always get your way. In fact the majority of the time you don't get your way. You have to roll with the punches and make the best of what you have and sure it's ok to be sad sometimes but it is not ok to have a screaming fit about it! There has to be consistent expectations, and follow through with discipline when the expectation is not met. Lots of praise when it is met. Kids need structure. Give it to them.

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How about when you have an 11 yr. old who does the same exact thing and NEVER STOPS IT till he absolutely gets his way....hmm? My sister's kid does this ALL THE TIME. Spanking is out because it's been done already to no effect whatsoever. Ignoring him doesn't work at all either. It is so bad that I don't want to even be around him anymore. I still love him, but I really don't enjoy him. I see how horrible it is on the whole family EVERY SINGLE TIME I come over the house. Non-stop whining, complaining, yelling, screaming, till my poor sister can't take it anymore and just caves in. There is no other option. Personally, I am so glad I am not a parent in this politically-correct day and age, because I would be a HUGE supporter of spankings. I'm 40 and can totally see the difference between kids of my time and kids of this time....

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Wait till your screamer turns to a teenager. You'll look back on theses days fondly.
In the mean time, one word. Ritalin.

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When I was growing up in the late 40's and early 50's, my father had a simple solution to misbehavior. He used to say, "If you can't listen, you can feel". His application of that simple line was done with swiftness and without anger. None of the four of us grew up hating him or abusing our own children. Children learn how to manipulate their parents from a very early age. If a parent gives in to that manipulative behavior, be it tantrums or another form of behavior, it becomes more and more difficult to deal with. Children behave pretty much as their parents demonstrate their expectations for behavior. As for books, I always found that Dr. Spock's treatise on child rearing was best, especially when applied to the errant rear end of the misbehaving child. Also several writers were exactly right. Too many parents, beginning in the 60's tried to be friends to their children. My kids had enough friends, what they needed and wanted were parents who set limits and enforced those limits with love and as much toughness as needed. One writer was wrong about the bucket of water being abusive. It is only so if done in anger. Calmly applying such a bucket is effective, but only if you then require the miscreant to clean up the mess.

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My father would say... ''YOU WANT TO CRY... I'LL GIVE YOU SOMETHING TO CRY ABOUT!'' GET THE BELT!

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The type of discipline is not the key. The key is to administer it consistently, firmly, and fairly. If you tell the child he is going to get a spanking, spank him! If you tell him he is getting a time out, make sure he goes in time out. If you tell him you are sending him to bed early, do it! This aint rocket science folks. Just make sure you tell him why you are doing whatever you are doing, and make sure you tell him at some point that you love him.

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any child at a certain age can take advantage of their tantrums.We as parents let it happen,if you nip it in the bud at first you will not get the same results.Now I'm not saying to beat them,but a open hand swat across the ass never hurt any child.Control your kids,your kids don't control you.

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Children that throw tantrums are products of the parent's failure to be parents and at 4 years old it is too late to blame it on the child's disposition. This idiot Psychotherapist is just playing the "politically correct" game and has no idea what she is talking about. It's really sad when the parents can't even take responsibility for the actions of their own children and clearly their inability to control the child is a reflection of their own lack of control. Can't change some things, just hope I never have to know these people. Too bad for the great grandparents.

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my Grandmother ,God rest her soul, use to say the good Lord put plent of cusion on the tush , so a good swat on the backside to correct a problen doesn't really hurt that much but it sure does get the proper attention, usually for the better, and Oh if I would have told my dad if you spank me I'll call the cops, I would be looking for somewhere else to live or my rear-end would be receiver of my stupidty

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Beat the SOB

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