Boy, 14, Allegedly Tattooed Against His Will By Bullies

Cindy, I agree with you about these parents. I guess they would rather that their little girl be hanging out with the "thugs" that could treat another human being this way. Either that or they haven't given us all of the details in this story. Either way, this child has probably been damaged for life.

I TOTALLY agree. Her parents treating him that way, disgusting! They aren't much better than the kids who bullied him. & What kind of lesson are they teaching their child & others? To stay away from someone who may be unpopular? To treat someone differently just because they were a victim of bullies? It's as if they are condoning the whole thing. They should be SO ashamed of themselves. & The boys that did this? They should definately be prosecuted & made to register as sex offenders.

not only are the young men legally in trouble for this,but their parents should be as well . It was their responsibility for the upbringing of their kids .Since they made the kid drop his pants,shouldnt their be sexual charges added on this crime?

I agree. Making him lose his girlfriend too just adds insult to injury. That poor boy! However, I wonder if maybe the parents made her break up with him out of fear for their daughter's safety? After all, if this kid is a target of bullies, now that he's outed them it could get worse. Maybe the bullies' other friends might retaliate. Maybe the girlfriend's parents don't want her involved with someone who could endanger her. After all, she's probably only 14 too. But even if their reasons are good ones, it's another horrible punishment for a kid who did nothing wrong. I'd really like to get my hands on those punks!

Cindy, it may not be just about this incident. ADHD and other learning disabilities are social problems, too, with the sufferers often not knowing how to behave in social situations. The parents may feel that the boy doesn't know how to behave around their precious princess (and she may or may not be comfortable with his behavior as well).

But I agree, if they made this decision based only on his being victimized/bullied, then they are vile.

Maybe the girl didn't want to have anything to do with him. She goes to that school to and peer preasure can be tough on a kid that age.

As I was reading this, I was struck by the fact that the offenders were NOT juveniles. I must deduce that they are indeed adults. If this was my child that was tortured in this manner....I would remain silent. I would catch each individual responsible, drape them in a tow sack, then proceed to beat that sack with an aluminum baseball bat. Problem solved, lesson forever learned, and generously saving the taxpayers the money of trying these young gentlemen in a court of law. Moral: Mess with my kid,...I become the law.

Ironic how badly you tried to articulate your point, and somehow still managed to misspell the word "by" in your sentence. Trying to compare these two examples as the same is ridiculous. Apples and oranges. Way to many factors and variables to even begin to argue why they aren't the same.

To ezzellcharles: Misspelling does not create irony. Morgan 378 had a good point: because the forced mutilation was of a sexual organ in an area usually clothed, it does add an element of sexuality, specifically sexual power of one over another. I doubt people would be this upset had the tat been on his shoulder. Too bad you can't spell too, kinda lessens the impact of your righteous indignation.

The suggestion box is just a way for kids (who are afraid to be bullied themselves for telling) to make staff aware of possible abuses, so they can be investigated and stopped before someone gets seriously hurt, like this poor kid.I worked in a very large HS for 23 years and a suggestion box is the safest way for a student to leave word of something wrong taking place without the fear of being targeted themselves involved in going to an office or being seen telling a teacher...

You may not be understanding what you are reading. You suggest using violence to punish violence. The idea is to STOP bullying, not to reinforce the idea that the biggest fist wins! That is how to create more, meaner, rougher bullying instead of stopping it. Try to remember how many serial killers began this way and that brutalization creates brutes and a string of victims.

Having to work and pay off the removal costs coupled with long-term court- mandated therapies (and better education) is how you do it in a free society. Try to fix them before you make them more dangerous by tossing them into a sea of seasoned criminals and abusers to learn rottener ways than what got them in prison in the first place.

Bullying is still not addressed seriously in America. Nor is stalking or domestic violence. We have some serious waking up and ACTING to do. Lawmakers have to respond in an effective way without making things worse by getting it wrong... the way I think you have.

Just think about it, OK?

I think that a suggestion box has its pros and cons...
It may weed out some bullies but it might still draw attention to the victims who are seen putting in "suggestions" . I think that any little thing helps.

That is not going to work. Many kids CAN'T defend themselves. What the kids need to do is to find someone they can talk to on staff. If a kid is being threatened, and a teacher doesn't do anything about it, and the kid later is attacked, the teacher CAN by law, be held accountable. All the teacher has to do is to tell the principal and they have accomplished what they need to do.

When my sister was in school, this kid bullied her to take her lunch money. When she got fed up, what she did was put some superglue on the coin and when the kid made her hand it over, she made sure it went on two fingers. The kid had his fingers glued together, and the coin guled to his fingers. He tried to get her in trouble, and she calmly told the principal that "he demanded my money so I gave it to him." Took the principal a while to stop laughing.

The Educational psychologist who said get a suggestion box is scary. I am a psychologist and this just proves that manty so called professionals who work with our children SHOULD NOT BE BECAUSE THEY DO MORE HARM THEN GOOD!

Tell some poor kid about to hurt himself to send in a suggestion??? Beyond stupidity!!!!!Tatoo the Psych in the nose and teach playground justice plus more!!!! God it never ends...stupidity

Thank you, Debi. You proved my point with your second paragraph.

You start by saying that the kids should go to the teacher who can then tell the principal, so that, at least if the kid is beaten to a pulp, the teacher has deniability, and has followed typical CYA procedures. But telling it up the chain of command has done NOTHING to help that child that is being bullied.

Your sister was a genius in her handling of the bully. She confronted him, stood up to him, and I would venture a guess that he never bothered her again. But what good did it to for her to tell it up the line? None. The bully understood when she spoke his own language.

As Dr. Jack said... sometimes "playground justice" is the right answer to the problem.

Contrary to the lovely Dr. Borba from the article... kids don't need someone else to be their "hero and savior". They need to be taught how to be their own hero and savior.

Otherwise, the bullies continue to win.

(I have no problem with telling teachers, but I also teach my son - who is, in fact, in self-defense courses - to defend himself whenever necessary and however possible.)