Is the Name I Love "Taken"?

Sooooo you were either neglected because you have the same name as someone else, hate your child, or hate your child because they are named after someone in your family who also happened to have a kid and named it the same name. Either way, you are FFFUUUULLLLLLLLLLLL of some hatred home-slice... chill man... chill...

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Name the first one Jack-be-quick and the second born, Jack-be-nimble. Simple solution!!!!!!!

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In an Italian Family the 1st boy is named after the husband's father, the 2nd boy is named after the wife's father, 3rd boy is named after the father, the same for the girls. My mom is Italian and the family was loaded with John's & Veniera's after my maternal greatgrandparents. It was not confusing because they all had different middle names. If a name is all you have to worry about: grow up, and stop being so obsessive about something that does not really matter.

My mom gave me her last name as my 1st name and my father's 1st name as my middle name because I was born when my dad was overseas in the Army.

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Like typical women we have to tell people everything rule of thumb keep your mouth shut until the baby is born

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i was born nineteen seventy eight and well beyond that time frame you got either sarah jane or suzy or ta da jennifer that's right when i meet people for the first time this is what they say too me you don't look like a jennifer or act like a jennifer then i think too myself well what in sam hill are we suppose'd too or even look like for man some name's are timeless other's irrigreatable or some are even forgetable remember if you date a guy who's name is steven and you see his bc don't freak out he's not a con man he most likely legall'y change'd his name too have a better job or surprise station in life come on would you want an embarrasin'g name on a resume neither would i

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Names can indicate love for the person for whom they were named. My maternal grandfather's name was given as a first name to his son who is only 3 years older than me. As the eldest grandchild and garndson it was also given to me as my first name. I have 3 first cousins who have the same name as their first name. What a tribute to one of the grandest men I ever knew, a man who truly loved each of us beyond compare. No confusion--at family gatherings we were called by our first and middle names. Sadly, not one of us named a son after such a great man, and not one of our children has named a son after him!

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My mother married a man named John; she also had a brother named John. Both men wanted to name their sons John. Also my father's sister married named John who had a son named John by a first marriage. But it gets even better. My father's brother-in-law married into the family after my brother was named. The brother-in-law, John, even has the same middle name as my brother, and the brother-in-law's son is a junior. So our family has six men named John and three of them are named John Michael. Reunions are very confusing but we still have fun.

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on my side of the family there are 2 franks, 4 james', 3 joshua's, 2 david's, 2 kayla's, 2 alexis's---so it shouldn't matter if you and another family member want to name your baby the same name. My daughter's name is Alexis and when her brother was born(named Alexander) a great-aunt said that I couldn't name him Alexander because we already had an "Alex" in the family when in fact she was called Lexi. Alexis was shortened to Lexi and Alexander is now known to friends as Xander so there is no confusion.

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No,, there is no problem. in my family there are four Julian,, including my son.

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My boyfriends name is Louie and he was named after his dad. His parents are divorced and with his new wife they had a son and also named him Louie. I would call that a taken name!

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Ah geez one of these. Ok, who cares if they both have the same name...do you know how many people have that name? lol. Plus, if you decided on it 4 months before the he is due, and she has 2 weeks left before she is due and she just picked the name now, she ripping off of you. Your family already knows youve been saying it for months.

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My cousin and I named our daughters the same name. There were no problems for us. Karen I see bitterness in ur post. Parenting is not hard! We don't use every dime we make for our kids. Perhaps because I'm employed as well! We go out places,Buy ourselves things. I would never say it was a sacrifice! We consider our little clan a Family Not a Sacrifice.

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My wife and I had planned on a certain name if we ever had a daughter from the time we married. When our first child was concieved it was a girl and we began announcing her by that name to all of our relatives. Low and behold my sister in law announced that she is suddenly due a month before my wife with a girl and she would be using the name instead. We were torn but decided that we would name our daughter how we had planned. We found out a few years later after a bitter divorce that the child was not my brothers and his ex-wife had her last name changed. We are so glad we stuck with our first choice.

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I was especially close to my grandmother Sarah. I told my husband when we married that if we had a baby girl, I wanted to call her Sarah. No, problem... until my sister had a daughter first and named her Sarah. (She wasn't that close to my grandmother either.) I've never said anything to her, but I ended up calling my daughter after her maternal & paternal grandmothers. Everything ended okay.

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I have two daughters 17 mo. and 17 days apart. When the first daughter was born my husband wanted to name her Maria, but when I first held this tiny pink person, I suggested we give our baby the middle name of Marie and the first name Linnea after the flower from my maternal grandmother's province in Sweden. Our second daughter is adopted, and we had planned on naming her Sonja Marie. BUT, when we walked into the room to see her for the first time I told my husband, "Now, this is your Maria!" We ended up naming her Maria Linnea but we pronounce her middle name with two syllables and the first daughter's name with three syllables. I think that a name should not be written down in concrete. I think that parents first need to see their baby, hold it, and love it, and then select the name. Some names just fit better on some babies.

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Ask The name Lady is so wrong, there is no name culture and no one can claim a name and not expect anyone else to use it. Anyone can name there child anything they want. You don't have to change the name because of someone else. That is your baby name him or her what you want. No social circle has any claim to a name. There are no factors to considerin a name being taken. You take a name when you marry. You give, a child a name when they are born. She just want a column. Don't put too much thought in this just name yopur baby what you want it is your child.

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Since the Jacks are going to be second cousins, I'd think that the relationship is distant enough that it shouldn't be a problem. I have a cousin who's daughter has the same name as mine, I didn't even realize it until we were together at Christmas and my daughter was probably 8, his 11. Never has been a problem.
At one time, and still in some cultures, it is expected that the first born so will be named after the paternal grandfather, the second born son after the maternal grandfather, and same with the daughters and grandmothers. Thus, it was not only common, but expected, to have cousins with the same name.

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My son's name is Peter John, his father's name is Peter John, his grandfather's name is Peter John, and my 1st cousin's name is Peter Joseph. I did not call my aunt and ask if it was okay to name my son Peter. It is a family name. We clear up any confusion by calling my son PJ.

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29 yrs ago my husband's cousin & I was pregnant the same time. We were due the same time & both of us wanted to name our baby Jonnelle. She wanted that name for her husband which his name is John, & I wanted that name because growing up there was a friend of my sister who was so pretty I always said I was going to name my daughter her name so she would be just a pretty. Well I gave birth 1st Nov 30 I ended up spelling my daughter's name Jeanelle-Richea`n after my Tutu Man (Jean Nicole) & my dad (Richard). I always thought Sharon would name her daughter Jonnelle, however she decided to name her Jamie. So it all worked out anyway!

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When I was born, the most popular name at the time was Linda. My mom planned to name me that, but her best friend had a baby shortly before I was born and she named her daughter Linda. Therefore, I was named Barbara, the second most popular name at the time. Go figure.

My middle name is Joyce, after the middle names of all the women in my mom's family. Everyone has Joyce as their middle name and have for about five generations. My daughter's middle name is not Joyce...it's Jo. That was my mom's nickname all her life, so it's my daughter's middle name. I wanted her to be Carrie Elizabeth, but my ex had no idea how to spell Elizabeth. I didn't want Joyce, so chose Carrie Jo and it has suited her all these years (almost 40, to be exact).

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