Diane Falanga's 'P.S. I Hate It Here!' Helps Homesick Kids Adjust to Camp
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Desperate pleas for food, strapless bras and tickets home fill the pages of Diane Falanga's new book. Photo courtesy of Diane Falanga
Diane Falanga's new book, "P.S. I Hate It Here!" is a compilation of 150 hilarious letters written by kids at summer camp. ParentDish recently chatted with Falanga about finding humor in homesickness, and here's what she had to say:
ParentDish: Why did you decide to do this book?
Diane Falanga: My daughter, Bianca, begged and pleaded to go to summer camp when she was 8. We all thought she was too young, but she presented such a convincing argument that we relented, and off she went. Then the letters started to arrive. She wrote that she was homesick and had made a terrible mistake, and said the counselors had made her "scraper, sweeper and maid." I couldn't help but think her letters were hilarious, and since we hadn't gotten a call from the camp, I knew she was OK. So I called my sister and friends to read the letters to them, since I thought they were so funny, and the reaction I got was "If you think that's funny, wait 'til you hear what I got from my child." Everyone wanted to talk about their hilarious camp letters -- and that's when I realized I may be on to something.
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PD: Did you write the book for parents or kids?
DF: I was thinking it was really a parents' book, something we would find so funny, but kids wouldn't. But I was a hundred percent wrong. Parents love it because the letters are inadvertently hilarious, but the kids are finding it to be really funny. And parents now tell me they're buying the book to give to their kids before they go to camp, and it's helping them tremendously.
"P.S. I Hate It Here" is funny for both parents and kids. Credit: Courtesy of Abrams Image
DF: The mother of one of the boys in the homesick chapter told me her son loved the book because he read the letters and realized he wasn't alone. I really think finding the ability to laugh at yourself at a young age is invaluable, as is being able to get your feelings down on paper. We, as parents, are left at home to kind of quake when we read our kids' letters -- but the kids have gotten their therapy, they've written it down and moved on, and are able to just go out and kick a soccer ball after.
PD: Where did you get the letters?
DF: I contacted the American Camp Association and directors from camps across the country and asked them to post my query on their websites and in their newsletters. I told them I needed to collect 150 hilarious letters, and that it didn't matter where or when they were from. Between them and my own e-mail chain, I received close to 3,500 letters, even some that dated back to the 1940s, '50s and '60s.
PD: Do you have a favorite letter?
DF: There's a letter in the "What I Really Need" section that is just crazy that I love; it starts: "Grant has his own gun. It is a black .22 cal semi automatic rifle. I got to try it first period." And concludes: "I have decided that I don't want a ping-pong table. I really want to get a .22 cal semi automatic black rifle." I think that one is so hilarious, it's just genius. Also, some of the letters from the youngest kids are the funniest because they're so reflective on the moment, and not concerned with the words they use or what they tell their parents -- though letters from older kids asking for poker chips and strapless bras are also really funny to read.
PD: What would you tell parents who receive letters like these from their kids?
DF: First, take a deep breath. Then call your friends and read the letters to them, and laugh about them. When you share your stories, you'll understand it's a rite of passage kids go through, and you'll find that other parents will relate and will want to top yours with letters of their own.
PD: How do parents know when to "rescue" their kids from camp, and when not to?
DF: I think that every parent knows their child, and can tell if they're reading something more than just a rant. I also think camps do an excellent job of training their counselors and directors to really watch for signs in kids, and if a child is feeling so homesick that it's a problem, they're not writing a letter, they're going to a counselor.
PD: How do your kids feel about the book?
DF: They're delighted, and so proud of their mom, and I think they see now that you don't let anyone stop you when you have an idea. You figure out if there's a creative way to explore it, follow through, and find a way to make it happen, because it feels so good when it does.
PD: Do you have plans for another book?
DF: At the moment, no. I work full time as an interior designer and the founder of the Heart Homes Initiative of Designs for Dignity, which reclaims gently used furnishings for people in need in the Chicago Area. But if this book does well, I would love to do another one. People have been coming out of the woodwork now saying they have hilarious letters -- so I've started a file with a big question mark about book two.
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ReaderComments (Page 1 of 14)
6-17-2010 @ 5:27AM
C.C. Murphy said...Somehow I don't find it funny that a child at camp has access to a gun and allowed to shoot it. What am I missing ?
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6-15-2010 @ 2:49PM
gracehappenz said...You are missing that the child wrote it in jest...to get the parent's attention. Instead of an "I hate it here" letter, the child creatively thought what event would get my mom to come get me....Ahaa...access to a gun might do it! Funny.
6-15-2010 @ 2:52PM
Gayle said...To C.C. Murphy
My sentiments exactly. Just what is hilarious about a child having
access to a gun at camp and how funny would it be if another
child was accidentally shot?
6-15-2010 @ 3:01PM
Amanda said...Yea, am I the only one who doesn't see how these letters would be "humorous"? Especially when dealing with sad little kids who have access to guns....I feel like the author is saying that it's a right of passage to send your kids away and let them be miserable for three months while they spend the summer at camp.
6-15-2010 @ 3:09PM
Sam said...I am pretty sure the child had the gun at home.. not at camp.. duh!
6-15-2010 @ 3:11PM
Logan said...Haha, I agree with gracehappenz... and C.C. Murphy u need to calm down and take a look at the bigger picture, either that or you just dnt hav a sense of humor.
6-16-2010 @ 3:08AM
J said...Shooting is a sport. Kids do outdoor sports at camp. What part of it is too complex for you?
6-15-2010 @ 3:51PM
E MCDUCK said...You obviously don't have kids. HE MADE THAT UP TO GET ATTENTION OR TO MAKE MOM AND DAD WONDER. mINE SAID HE WANTED A BOA CONSTRICTOR LIKE HIS ROOMIE BROUGHT WITH HIM.. Guess what --stuffed animal
6-16-2010 @ 2:43PM
FRED said...Your missing about 5 decades of moral decay. Some of these were written in the 40's and 50's. Many camps were very much into teaching young boys the basics of shooting (remember WWII?) Most of America is now urbanized and perceives the world through the tainted immorality that comes with city life, where honor, respect and trust are just to foreign for city folk to grasp. Living in Iowa and after moving from Seattle, it is a WORLD of difference. the High-school kids don't wear their pants on the ground, their hats backwards and actually know and talk with adults in the towns they live in. That is one of the reasons we allowed our oldest son to dual enroll (after 6 years of homeschooling) in a public high school in the town of Grundy Center IA. The teens were all pretty decent and everyone knew everyone else's children and kept things in check. A WORLD of difference from West coast "CIVILITY".
6-20-2010 @ 5:17PM
drralc said...What are YOU talking about? We used guns at camp back in the 50s in rural New Jersey --- with supervision of course. What's so strange about teaching kids how to use a gun?
6-15-2010 @ 4:12PM
jimmie said...Here's what you're missing: Riflery and target sports are activities that are found at many camps. While I'm not a fan of riflery, I've seen the appeal that it holds for kids. It's not just about the shooting. It's about developing an individual precision skill that they get better and better at. They are also taught safety skills in a controlled environment and probably have more respect for the weapons than a lot of NRA members.
6-15-2010 @ 4:08PM
Big Mike said...What you are apparently missing is the fact that supervised marksmanship classes and basic firearm safety classes are a good idea. It's a pretty safe bet that you won't be teaching your children either. You are also missing the ability to engage in reasoned thought processes. Have you ever read the Constitution? The Bill of Rights? Have you looked at the statistics? Do you know that over a million times a year a citizen uses a lawfully owned firearm to prevent a violent crime? Can you divide a million by fifty? Can you divide the result by 365? Your state, on average, every day. Do you drive. Does your child? Can you divide 30,000 by 50? Can you divide the result by 365? Your state, on average, every day. Chump!
6-15-2010 @ 4:16PM
Ron said...There are camps all over America that teach safe, responsible use of firearms. To teach youngsters the proper safe handling may well prevent the tragedies that we see all too much of in today's news. It may also lead to helping to save a life some day.
6-15-2010 @ 4:25PM
jmkjr72 said...well guess you have never went to scout camp every year we have boys that go home after trying out the rifels shotguns and arechery equipment and ask for it or send letters home saying how much fun they are having on the ranges
but then again we also let them have pocket knifes and matches too
6-15-2010 @ 4:27PM
David said...Look at picture 7 of 10. LMAO!
6-15-2010 @ 4:41PM
lifluboodle said...Excactly, "DF" is laughing at a simple sentence of childswork. Nothing in this article was...humorous at all. Perhaps "DF" was seeking a heading in the AOL news slideshow? It is a negative thought of humor when a child is threatening terms with parents about arms acess.
6-15-2010 @ 5:04PM
Tim said...Just to let you know that camps do have guns like that. I have been going to summer camp for many years and they do have a riffle range for kids to learn about and shoot. BUT they do not get to just walk on and shoot a gun any time they want. they have to go to class and learn the how too and what not to do.No child can shoot any thing unless they have pass the class and at no time would any child be shooting unless a trained adult was on the range. All riffles are under lock and key. And I am a trained scout leader for over twenty five years TM
6-15-2010 @ 5:11PM
Lynnsey523 said...This is hilarious and wish I had thought of this when I was homesick at camp. Instead I cried to mom via the telephone, who only said, 'THIS IS A NON-REFUNDABLE CAMP. WE'LL BE THERE [AT THE END OF THE CAMP].'
C.C. Murphy you obviously have no sense of humor......people who lack the ability to joke or get jokes are invisible to me.
6-16-2010 @ 9:09PM
bill0dont said...It's simple: the child asks for something he knows he's NEVER going to get BUT then he asks for what he really wants & the parents are more than happy to get & them the less dangerous alternative. I'll make it interesting: want to bet me that the child got what he REALLY wanted?
6-15-2010 @ 5:39PM
John said...We had rifles at camp. We learned marksmanship skills. I'm not an NRA fanatic and haven't shot a gun since but I remember those days very fondly and took a lot of pride in my shooting skills. I remember winning a couple of trophes and earning some marksman medals that summer. I think some of the anti-gun folks don't see the forest for the trees on this issue.