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Today's dads are taking a more active role in raising their kids. Credit: Corbis
Today's new dads equate being a good father with "being there, being present, spending time and being accessible," and not with being a traditional "breadwinner," according to a new study released by the Boston College Center for Work and Family.
With Father's Day around the corner, these timely findings demonstrate a shift in men's attitudes about parenting and workplace commitment.
"Overall, our research found fathers who were deeply committed to care-giving and sharing the work as evenly as possible with their spouses," the authors write. "Men seem poised to embrace a new definition of fatherhood and to step up to the challenges and the rewards of parenting in a much fuller sense than was the case in the past."
Surprisingly, most fathers in the study reported their self-image at work increased in a positive way after having children, enhancing their reputation, credibility and even career options. However, the researchers found that most new fathers did not arrange formal flexible work schedules, as new mothers often do, even though the dads say they felt supported by their bosses with regard to work-life flexibility.
Instead, the authors report, these fathers used more informal, sometimes "stealth" approaches to balancing work and family issues.
Less surprisingly, the men studied said they were not prepared for how much work it takes to care of a young child. Yet, they said they choose to spend time with their children, frequently at the expense of personal activities they previously enjoyed. Often, their priorities changed to focus more on family and less on work, say the authors. And, in some cases, the men adjusted their career ambitions to take into account their "new responsibilities and joys."
It is clear that women have earned legitimacy in both the home and the workplace, as women comprise 50 percent of the U.S. workforce for the first time ever, the researchers say. In addition, they report that young women are less likely to take on the position of "accommodating spouse," placing their career aspirations second to those of their husbands, and are just as likely as men to seek jobs with greater responsibility. Differences in values from the baby boom generation to the current Millennial Generation also factor in here, according to the authors.
"In many studies, younger workers have placed a greater emphasis on autonomy and work-life balance than is the case with previous generations," the researchers explain. "One hypothesis is that the affluence that the youngest working generation has experienced has led to a greater emphasis on and concern for quality of life issues, as opposed to simply focusing on earnings and promotional opportunities as the most important determinants of success."
The shift in men's attitudes about parenting and workplace commitment is attributed in large part to these demographic, societal and generational factors, but the researchers emphasize that men have not experienced a similar revolution in terms of their role in the home and family sphere.
"The low number of stay-at-home fathers suggests that for a whole host of reasons, men's role as father, nurturer and caregiver is still not fully embraced in our society nor by the vast majority of employers," the authors say. "Fathers struggling to balance career aspirations with a focus on parenting, thereby finding legitimacy in both work and home spheres, may encounter 'paternal walls' not unlike the maternal walls working mothers have faced."
In conclusion, the researchers suggest the view of fatherhood in the workplace must change, as fathers increasingly take on an equal share of family responsibilities. They say employers need to see fatherhood as a more serious and time-consuming role and stop assuming that being a good father simply equates to being a good breadwinner.
"Men seem poised to embrace a new definition of fatherhood and to step up to the challenges and the rewards of parenting in a much fuller sense than was the case in the past," the authors say. "It is time we helped and encouraged them to do so."
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ReaderComments (Page 1 of 3)
6-17-2010 @ 4:52PM
joeobryan said...Only thing I can say is dont get divorced because then you can just see what the courts think of us fathers. Look up STUPID GUY IN THE MIDWEST on facebook.
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6-18-2010 @ 8:01AM
reidgator said...Moms and Women's Groups have been asking fathers to step up and be more participative as parents. Experts say it is better for the children. Even Prez Obama said that Dads need to do more. BUT - the courts and legal system still strongly favor the mother. I was THE stay-at-home parent (PTA officer, field trip chaperone, and volunteer coaching, etc) and I am the one who got kicked out of the home! How many stay-at-home moms get kicked out of the home??? Until that inequity is resolved, it is very hard for Dads to make that investment!
6-17-2010 @ 6:33PM
amy said...i have to comment..
newer moms are more prone to be crazy and childish due to immaturity. so if you are a young mom like say below 25, grow up and get over your ex and move on, please
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6-18-2010 @ 7:58AM
Beverly Fisher said...My kids will tell you they didn't even know their Dad until after they become adults. I am happy they think it is important that their children know them as fathers and part of the family rather than someone that eats and sleeps at their home.
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6-18-2010 @ 8:09AM
Karen said...I can tell that this was written by a woman. As a psychologist, it makes me sick what has been done to men in this country. Welcome to socialism at its finest. I could pick this research all apart and make her look very foolish, but I will restrain. I tend to believe in the "traditional" roles of parenting, as well as everything else. We weren't in such a mess back then...think about it.
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6-18-2010 @ 8:28AM
JET said...I have to agree with a LOT of what you have said. There are quite a few holes in what they state.
I personally would love to hear what you have to say on the article.
Being a medically retired, sounds so much nicer than disabled, Physician Assistant Certified in both PA & AK and having worked my hospital duties in psych. There are too many holes in this article for it to truly be making any valid points.
I agree Socialism at it's finest ... but it hat always the way in this country?
6-18-2010 @ 9:15AM
g said...@Karen
I Concur. I'm all for tradition as well. Men (fathers) of today have turned into wusses. I don't mind staying home and raising the kids, just as long as he's bringing home the bacon.
Is it unfair what the courts do to the dads? You damn right it is! But when you think about it, in terms of divorce, the woman does get left with the children 9 times out of 10. The courts aren't necessarily in the best interest of the mom as they are of the children. If they kick mom and the kids out of the house, they'll be homeless.
6-18-2010 @ 10:41AM
gysbigbutt said..."what has BEEN DONE to men"?!
You sound very silly in the head for a psychologist. Men have CHOSEN to take more responsibility, partly because more women have CHOSEN to work than in the past....and many fathers enjoy it! I am a very involved father of a 2 year old, and I love being a big part of my girls life. You should really consider turning in your license, because you treating people is dangerous!
6-18-2010 @ 11:11AM
James said...Thank you for speaking up. The death of marriage and the traditional family continues.
6-18-2010 @ 11:27AM
Kevin said...I am a 43 year old father of 2 girls (10 & 7) and have been married 17 years. I am a professional with a doctorate. I coach my girls teams, go to their schools for parties, and attend field trips with them both.
You lament the loss of the "good old days" and ask what has happened to men in this country? REAL MEN ARE TAKING RESPONSIBILITY AND BEING PART OF THEIR KIDS LIVES!!!!!
In the good old days (60s) my dad left my mom and I was raised in a single parent household and my dad never had a damn thing to do with me. That is the "good old days" of our country.
I can tell that you are not a real psychologist. You probably read a few books and maybe took a course at a community college. I'm betting you are one of those "traditional family values" people who forget that YESTERDAY was not that different from TODAY.
6-18-2010 @ 1:44PM
Dan said...I strongly agree with you. The traditional roles were always of equal importance, despite what extremist feminism has taught young women and people in general. No matter how the media tries to shape things, the sexes have always been and will always be, better suited and more well equipped for the traditional gender roles.
6-19-2010 @ 1:38PM
Juli said..."Socialism at it's finest ?!!! You idiots are nuts ! That doesn't even make sense ! My son is now a grown man & my husband was very active in raising him & you are actually saying that's a *bad* thing?
Well, if fathers having more of an involved role in their children's live & not just dumping all the responibilties on the moms is a socialist plot, sign me a up, cause I'm a card carying pinko !
Seriously, you people are nuts !
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6-18-2010 @ 9:10AM
Engliv said...I hear that a lot of younger people are having a very difficult job finding jobs. Maybe that contributes to the men not being the breadwinners.
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6-18-2010 @ 9:18AM
Len said...Happy Father's Day weekend to all the Dads, and God bless all those Dads who have gone on to heaven.
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6-18-2010 @ 9:29AM
Hank said...Its a good thing as long as they not turned into a girly man
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6-18-2010 @ 9:36AM
Bob said...Hogwash....society has not benefitted one iota from this grand social experiment. In fact it's suffered severly....consider the crime which occurs amongst our youth today. "Replacing" men in the workplace, political positions, etc. has resulted in what? Recession, more wars, social discord, metal detectors in schools, teenage suicide, illegitimate pregnancies on and on....all to satiate the woman's "need" to feel important at the expense of the very children she bears....shameful.
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6-18-2010 @ 10:20AM
Meg said...Bob I so agree with you! I wish more women would know their role as a mother and stop placing their career first. It has led to disastrous consequences!
6-18-2010 @ 9:59AM
Dawn said...You know...I used to believe all this rhetoric. I no longer do. My husband was a stay at home dad. He did EVERYTHING for our 2 children. He was the perfect role model for what society is demanding of our men...problem was, it eventually completely turned me off. I became resentful that he not only had the vast majority of time with our kids, but that he was a better mother for them than I. I began to see him as weak, and ultimately I found another man I was attracted to, had an affair and we divorced. Just bein honest....just not convinced about all the stuff anymore...
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6-18-2010 @ 10:41AM
guysbigbutt said...you being resentful toward him for being a good father was YOUR ego issue...not his. You should have gone and gotten therapy instead of being a stupid tramp!
6-18-2010 @ 10:57AM
mike said...WOW Dawn, it sounds to me that you are blaming your husbands being a good dad on your desire to be a trifling whore. I am amazed that you would actually admit that in a public forum. I hope your kids grow up knowing that mommy was a slut and left daddy because he spent too much time with them.