Celebrity Moms Better Not Hire Nannies if They Want Daryl Hannah's Approval

As to those of you that want to know if she's paying for your 2+ children, the answer is YES - we all are. This planet has too many people on it already. Be earth conscious, and do not replace more than yourself. God bless the childless people, as they know what narcicistic parents of 5+ are doing to our future!!!

1. Daryl Hannah's version of responsible parenting is to "put your personal life first." I guess putting one's children first is a level of parental sacrifice she could never understand.

2. Adopting children is not like bringing a pet home from the pound. You don't adopt a child out of some misplaced desire to do a good deed.

3. The one thing she does get right (hey, even a broken clock is right twice a day) is that parents should not turn their children over to be raised by the hired help. Nannies rarely stay with a family throughout the entire upbringing of the children. That means that these children form bonds with people who are continually yanked out of their lives and replaced with new people.

4. For the defenders of "Quality Time," let me remind you that your sweet moments with your kids tend to really stand out when you only have them on a limited basis; the pursuit of Quality Time leads to parenting out of guilt, fearing that discipline will ruin the happy, fuzzy memories that Quality Time parents are trying to create. Real quality time is what happens when you're relaxed enough to enjoy your children and the time you spend with them, not something that can be scheduled into a busy day. Right now, my children are playing while I write this, and they interrupt me with questions, crafts to show me, hugs, etc. Our day-to-day life is intertwined, not something that requires a daily briefing at dinnertime.

Gotta go...we have to go grocery shopping, then I'm taking them to the pool, which isn't very crowded, because most of the kids in our neighborhood are in daycare "camps" while their moms are at work. How sad.

Seriously? Test? Get a grip and just write your comment.

lp,

You remember who as being needy and clingy? Daryl Hannah? Did you know her long ago? Or do you remember her as being needy and clingy according to the Enquirer and People, the great news source for people who need a lot of pictures?

I totally feel the same way. I had it both ways when my 2 daughters were little. Their father left me for an 18 yr old when the girls were just 3 and 5 1/2 . All that time I was a stay at home m om and was there for them.We went to the mall or visiting, out to lunch and things and it seems I didnt really "play" with them or give them 100% of my attention bc I was just ALWAYS there with them and thought that was great ...BUT then when i was forced to work full time I had to make our time that we had "quality time" it was so much better. I joined "indian guides" with them nad we did crafts weekly and campouts, hay rides, pine car derbys etc...they/we loved it. I had tea parties at home with them and we had Picnics on the living room floor with blankets and baskets and cut veggies and ham/turkey /salami cube with toothpicks. They called it "tooth pick picnic" and we just enjoyed ourselves alot. I had always read to them each nite they got sang to (ea 2 songs) and 2 books ea... I loved it and when i got home from work we fixed dinner and talked about our day and we had a much more quality time then than we had before. Its just my experience and my opinion....thanks

Yeah, kids don't need attention 24/7, but they need a LOT of attention. And the whole 'Quality over Quantity' ideal is far too often used as an excuse to not spend enough time with your kids. The time you DO spend with your kids may be pretty fantastic, but if it's not enough, it's not enough. I think Daryl's right. Don't adopt kids if you're not going to have the time to invest in them. That's just stupid, and selfish. And Lisa, just because someone doesn't have kids doesn't mean they're clueless. I don't have any children, being only eighteen myself, but I know that Daryl's right, because it's common sense. Common sense says that if you have kids, you're supposed to raise them yourself...not let a nanny do it. Yeah, it's tiring, and yeah it can driving you completely insane. But if it's too much for you, you should have thought harder about having kids in the first place. The fact that kids are a lot of work is NO secret.

I am not a man, but I know what a good man is. Just because Darryl is not a mother does not mean she should limit her comments to exclude what a mother looking to adopt should or should not do. That is silly.

Boy that is sure nonsense. Its very much how much time you spend, and not just the quality of the time. No matter what, you cannot make up for time not there while the kids are young. They need a parent every day. If you can't give a child most of your time, then do not adopt. Its wrong and unfair to the child. And you better not adopt just to fulfill some unmet psychological need of the parent.

That's Total BS working Moms in the past have used! Your kids need YOU there when they are young, they need to know that they can count on you. Quality? How on earth would you ever truthfrully describe that? An overworked, overstressed Mom isn't going to be giving anything of quality after a day of work. No matter how badly she wants to. You're used up before you even get home! They need your body there. Unless you are in desperate need of money (and I know that can happen) you need to stay home with your kids until they start school. By then you have formed a strong bond that Only occurs with physical time spent together watching their "firsts" and growing together. For better or worse, you're there. Single Moms? Don't have a baby with someone you don't know VERY well and can't count on. Brains need to be involved, not just hormones. Use birth control until you are Ready and Able to have and take care of a child. It's easy. They aren't little accessories to your life!

Did you ever stop to think that even though Hanna may not have a child that maybe her childhood was terrible with absent parent(s) and she was tossed around between relatives, nannies or babysitters so her parent(s) could go out and do whatever it was they HAD to do that was more important than giving a little child all the love and attention they crave. My conscious still stings after being a single parent for 7 years and having to work two jobs to make ends meet, then marrying the absolute WRONG man who didn't want my son around. I thought I was being protective "enough" until I saw how my son was being treated like an "alien" and left out of activities the other family children were invited to. I gave birth to a beautiful daughter who can see right through this family's phony BS and she couldn't care any less what they think or do. My son loved the times when were alone together, but hated me for forcing this family upon him and I can only pray that some day he can forgive me for a very bad choice. The only good part about it is my beautiful, talented girl who loves her biological brother.

I disagree with those who feel it is not "quantity of time but the quality of time" and I rank them right up there with those who use the term "kids are so resilient" when describing stupid things parents do that they think won't affect their children.
Children want their parents around whether it is qualtiy time or not. Just knowing they are in the other room is a great comfort to children. I am so curious about what people consider non quality time? All time spent with children is quality time even if parents are doing other things. It is being together that matters. My parents worked 6 days a week from 9-6. I missed my mom so much, every day! I would go and smell her clothing in her closet just to feel like she was near. I totally understand that people have to work to get by and if you do that, I understand that you are doing it to keep your family fed, however, if you are working for a bigger house, better car or to keep your name up on the marquee at the movie theater, fine, but don't tell yourself that it doesn't affect your child. It does! Quality time is time spent together doing every day things! Not a trip to the zoo or time at Disneyland.

Wrong. I know precisely what it takes to raise children. That is precisely why I don't want any.

Lisa, thank you! As a father of two children, and YES I have done a lot to bring them up, including cotton diapers! But Hannah wouldn't know about that, would she? Oh, and that comment that those of us with 2 children, should adopt the rest.....Is she paying for their expenses, I sure can't afford it! Hannah, can't act to save her soul, any thought she might have in that little mind, would be alone. As far as child raising, Hannah, "Shut-Up" and let those of us that know what we are doing, take care of that! Thanks Lisa

I hate Actors like her who give arrogant opinions on something they know nothing about first hand. This comes from someone who has 2 1/2 year old twin boys and a 4 year old girl who are 15 months apart.I am with my kids 24/7 except the 6 hours i am at work a day 5 days a week. and i have a nanny to help me and trust me my kids get so much for us as parents and a loving nanny. I still change diapers, feed my kids and bathe them and everything else that goes with a ful time parent. You try raising one child by yourself and see what happens. The chilid will probably be just like you. Depressed, introverted and nuerotic!!! Good Luck trying to find someone to have one with you. How many relationships have you had overe the last 25 years. Children lke stability most of all. I am sure they wouldn't get that from you.

Luigi

I see nowhere that Daryl is trying to tell people how to raise a child. She's saying don't have kids if you won't make time for them.

Just because someone popped out a child does not mean they know everything there is to be a parent. Just because someone is not a parent does not mean they don't have good parenting skills. I hate this attitude of "entitlement" and "I'm super mom because I had a child". Beethoven did not immediately become a renowned composer the moment he got a piano, so what's with people thinking they are worlds most expert mom because they got knocked up? And no, I believe there are many people out there who have a pretty good idea of what it's like to parent without having children. Once again, the "I popped out a kid" entitlement. Although certain aspects such as intuition and patience is imbedded before having a child being a parent is something you LEARN. If you're not willing to seek advice and information how can you be a good parent? Are you going to discredit what your childs teacher, doctor, or therapist says just because they may not have kids?

I work at an animal shelter and I've had several cases where children would run up to the animals and when I would try to tell the parents their children can't run up to the animals and children need to be supervised I get the whole "don't tell me how to raise my kids" spill. This is why I can't go anywhere grocery shop, the bank, where-ever without a running screaming child and the parents who don't do anything about it because omg you can't "offend" the poor mommy!