Should I Choose a Name My Husband Hates?

A good name for a boy or girl is Logan.

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To Marie: why is he a jerk because he doesnt like the name Sloan? Just because she's the one going through labor to have the baby doesnt give her exclusive rights to name the baby! After all, He did contribute to the creation of the baby, and will be raising the baby as well as she, so yes, that gives him equal input into the name. and btw, read the article! He did say that he's fine with it, but that doesnt mean he has to like the name!

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My (now ex) husband and all of his siblings have the initials EDB. His son by his first marriage and his brother's daughter both have those initials also. When we were expecting our first, I really tried to find a name with the initials EDB but couldn't find one that we both liked or that hadn't already been used. So I said no to the EDB. He was upset and said that he always knew his children would have those initials. I said that I didn't because I didn't know that that my last name was going to start with a B. Needless to say, our children do not have those initials.

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I think to compromise is good advice, but do you want your child to be named after a company that makes toilet fixtures?

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Let me get this straight: previous posts have emphasized naming children in accordance to their wishes, disregarding the consequences this growing child may have to suffer through a lifetime of coping with their own name and the reflection on their character their name may evoke.

An example of that was demonstrated by a prominent couple naming their children "Moonbeam" and "Chastity." Imagine yourself unlucky enough to carry the name Chastity throughout your life; as a kid, as a teenager, in school, in college, but most importantly, during your career.

Let's say you're in the business world, working your way to the top and signing the daily dozens of checks with the name Chastity Beatsme. Makes you cringe, doesn't it? Easy fix, just use the initial 'C.'

Say you're now a teenager, everybody teases everybody, sometimes in good fun, sometimes viciously and cruelly. Your 'friends' are also quick to shorten your names into a slang that may imply ridicule and cause you much heartache.

Remember, you can thank your parents for it, how they struggled to find just the 'perfect' name for their cute little baby, a name that they could adore, and thinking it will attach some of the name's ancestral or nebulous benefit to you.

Another thing, some parents, striving to maintain their status in their aristocratic world, like giving their children long and clumsy names, i.e., Reginald Percival Youfigure, IIl, Esq. So now you're some bigwig signing documents and checks all day, dragging that impossible name throughout the hours. Well, I guess you could get a stamp and let the hired help take care of it.

One more thing and then I'll quit. Before selecting a child's first and/or middle name, try saying all three out loud. In considering two consecutive names, the first ending in a K and the other beginning in a K interrupts the smooth flow of the names, i.e., Patrick Dawson. Say that name out loud and notice the 'break/pause.' Now change the first name to Ray. Say that out loud and you'll see what I mean. It looks like the law may be, 'Do not pair consonants between word ends and beginnings.' Any other combination of the consonant/vowel seems to speed up the pronouncement, and will aid in personal encounters where the name must be said rapidly and repeatedly, insuring efficiency and professionalism.

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My ex-husband named our daughter Katie-Ann. After I had her; he said what you naming her? I told him Corrine. He wrote Katie-Ann on the birth cert. and left til it was time for me to be released. What a jerk. I hated that name for so long, but I did get to give her my middle name Frances. So I still hate that name after 11 years but would never tell my daoughter that. It is something her father gave her that noone can ever take away.

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Now now mamita (or anyone else for that matter)....dont be harsh. Every name at one point or another was weird or strange. Im sure the name Kim hasnt been around for hundreds of years and people thought it was strange when they first heard it. Every name was "made up". My friend isnt the kind of person to do what makes other people happy. Kids are cruel little copies of their parents. So if they are cruel to him it is only the childrens parents fault....not my friends. If you dont like the name dont use it...duh.

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When I was pregnant with my first, I "knew" that her name was going to be Jinni Lynn. Fortunately, my hubs agreed. And the name still fits that one to this day! When I was preg with #2, we agreed to name "him" after hubs and to call him Ricky growing up. When "she" was born... she didnt look like a Ricky and thank God, we didnt name her Fredericka. After some debate... I wanted Briann, he wanted Brandy... we Settled on Brittney Riann. When I was preg with #3, we figured we will wait until the kid is born to figure out a name. So, my son, was named by his Aunt, and given his father's and Grandfathers middle name. So he possesess the Galic Ryan, from me and the Earl from his father. No fights. when we settled on names, they were agreed upon. My kids, all, love their names.

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You women have no idea why Sloan is a horrible name to name any kid. Guys cant tell you why, but their subconscience is ringing alarm bells. Sloan is a name that pops out at us at an average of 3 times a day. We see it when we are peeing in a urinal. Girls never see the name, because toilets dont have the name in their face when they are doing their business, but to guys, seeing the company "Sloan" will make us think of peeing, and every gross detail about a public restroom. I pee in a Sloan, I don't think your hubby wants to pee on his kid.

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My husband ended up naming both of my children. Now I am angry about it. He picked out a name if it was a girl, I didn't really like it , but he convinced me to name her. She is named after a bird and was teased for a long time. If it was a boy, he had to be named after him because he was named after his father. I suggested using a different middle name and he just wouldn't hear of it. So to save a argument I agreed both times. Many years later after having many problems with having the same name as his son, he finally admitted that he shouldn't have named the boy after him. I tried to tell him the problems my father had with his son being named the same except for a different middle name, but he knew best. He has been gone for several years and I still regret not standing my ground to name the kids as I wished and not given in to him so easily. I didn't want any arguments........

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I'm scared knowing that one day I am going to have kids which will probably play with all your kids and then I will have to talk to small minded people like the ones on this message board. Name your kids whatever the heck you want to name them as long as it means something to you, don't listen to idiots who say "Logan is a boys name". If you had a grandfather named Logan and have a daughter you sure as heck can call her Logan. I do agree that BOTH parents have to be in agreement about the name, just as long as you are not naming your kids a bunch of nonsense just for the sake of being ridiculous like that kid whose mom named her Lula Does The Hula In Hawaii (or some crap like that) that is good for a show dog, not a child.

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I sure do feel sorry for all of those poor guys that end up with someone that is as selfish as this woman. Any relationship with this person is doomed to fail.

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Sorry but I think of Sloan as either a male name or a last name. When it comes to naming the child, both parents should agree. If that can't be done I can suggest what we did..we did agree on the choice of names but not the order they would be used. We finally worte both names on slips of paper, but in a hate and got a 3rd party to draw one out. That became the first name with the one left behind the middle name. We did agree in advance that we would stick by the choice of the drawing. I do wonder if this mother-to-be is in any agreement with the father of the child. Why would she be so selfish as to think that she wouldn ame the child without any real consideration of the father? After all, he is the one that will be doing the financial support of the coming child. I would also add that parents need to take care when they name their children. Think about the names well and think about the future llife of the children and don't go with names that are catchy and clever. Other children and adults can be very mean when it comes to names. What may be cute today will be a joke in a couple of weeks.

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I think it's about time husbands start demanding that mothers stop giving their babies cute, unusual names to impress their girlfriends. What is cute for a baby at its birth or christianing is a life-long pain for the child. School children can be very cruel to others who are different and that can affect the rest of their lives.

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Let me get this straight: previous posts have emphasized naming children in accordance to their wishes, disregarding the consequences this growing child may have to suffer through a lifetime of coping with their own name and the reflection on their character their name may evoke.

An example of that was demonstrated by a prominent couple naming their children "Moonbeam" and "Chastity." Imagine yourself unlucky enough to carry the name Chastity throughout your life; as a kid, as a teenager, in school, in college, but most importantly, during your career.

Let's say you're in the business world, working your way to the top and signing the daily dozens of checks with the name Chastity Beatsme. Makes you cringe, doesn't it? Easy fix, just use the initial 'C.'

Say you're now a teenager, everybody teases everybody, sometimes in good fun, sometimes viciously and cruelly. Your 'friends' are also quick to shorten your names into a slang that may imply ridicule and cause you much heartache.

Remember, you can thank your parents for it, how they struggled to find just the 'perfect' name for their cute little baby, a name that they could adore, and thinking it will attach some of the name's ancestral or nebulous benefit to you.

Another thing, some parents, striving to maintain their status in their aristocratic world, like giving their children long and clumsy names, i.e., Reginald Percival Youfigure, IIl, Esq. So now you're some bigwig signing documents and checks all day, dragging that impossible name throughout the hours. Well, I guess you could get a stamp and let the hired help take care of it.

One more thing and then I'll quit. Before selecting a child's first and/or middle name, try saying all three out loud. In considering two consecutive names, the first ending in a K and the other beginning in a K interrupts the smooth flow of the names, i.e., Patrick Dawson. Say that name out loud and notice the 'break/pause.' Now change the first name to Ray. Say that out loud and you'll see what I mean. It looks like the law may be, 'Do not pair consonants between word ends and beginnings.' Any other combination of the consonant/vowel seems to speed up the pronouncement, and will aid in personal encounters where the name must be said rapidly and repeatedly, ensuring efficiency and professionalism.

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here is what she will hear all her life: hey sloan gimme a loan.

hey sloan let me hear you moan and graon.

hey sloan will you be my own?
hey sloan wanna get stoned/
toss sloan a bone
is sloan a two=in or a clone?
forget the name mom get a dog nae it slaon name your girl a suitable name.

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First, I don't care for those "unisexual" names, works for bys or girls.
Second, a) I would be worried that my husband was really not okay with the name and just placating me, b.1) There are so many names to choose frrom, couldn't you try to find one both of you like, b.2) the middle name idea is good too, Third, If you really believe he is okay with it, then go ahead because as soon as he has that miraculus wiggly little ball of flesh and blood from his own flesh and blood in his arms, he won't care anymore.

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Sloan Dreamer is selfish. She didn't even ask her husband why he didn't like the name Sloan. Maybe she might not like it anymore after he told her. Soan is the movie Ferris Bueller wasn't exactly an angel. If that is where Sloan Dreamer heard the name then she made a mistake and should have admited it. I agree with the comment writers that suggested a beloved family name.

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