How to Talk to Your Kids About Divorce

I know sometimes divorce is inevitable, Http://www.marriagehelpinfoguide.info but I wish people would try a little harder to make it last - it's well worth it in the end.

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A terrific kids' movie about divorce & it s effects:

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Unfortunately, in divorce involving children, there can be a situation of parental alienation. Children should never have to choose between their parents, but especially in the cases of one parent as an abuser---the abusive parent can alienate the children from the other parent. Please read my blog: http://untilyousayuncle.blogspot.com/

And learn the warning signs of parental alienation!

I can't believe any thinking woman would enter marriage and have children unless she was very very secure in that relationship. Nowadays her chances of divorce and ultimately being mainly responsible for those kids upbringing and support, should certainly squelch any rush into matrimony and motherhood.

You can live with your lover openly. You don't have to have marriage. You can decide to have children after "testing the waters". With all the downsides of instant sex and speedy reltionships, at least we DO have the chance to test the relationship before committing. That is possibly the ONLY benefit of this liberal society, So why rush .... take time.

It might be also a good idea to consider if you truly WANT the family lifestyle, Nowadays we have the choice to remain childless if we wish.

Too many life altering decisions are made at too young an age and without enough thought. And then there is misery for all concerned. No matter how diplomatic and loving you may try to be, there will ultimately be bitterness, disappointment and anger. That's the fact. THINK TWICE ...

you let it be and in the end the kids will know. They are not stupid they figure out who the better person is.

I just told my kids that I couldn't live with their mom. I couldn't stand her @%**ing azz. I told the kids if they love her and want to be with her than let it be. The kids agreed with me and said they didn't want to live with her either.
I didn't cut any punches when I explained to them.

First and foremost, you don't make excuses for his behavior to the kids but you also must not condemn him. The simplest answer is: "You'll have to ask Dad," delivered kindly and with a smile. He has to make his relationship with his kids. You might also talk with Dad and tell him his choices will determine his future relationship with his kids and that you will not be making excuses or covering for him when he chooses his social life over his children. If he still can't live up to being a dad, you have a couple of choices: first, go back to court and request the assignment of a parenting consultant - a person who has the legal right to meet with parents and recommend solutions to the court in the best interests of the children. Or you can petition the court to strengthen his parenting time to a court order which, if and when he violates it, could give him probation or jail time. It depends upon what he might best respond to. DO NOT USE YOUR CHILDREN AS PUNISHMENT. You, as adults, need to work this out. I know it's difficult, but it's a huge gift to your kids.

I'm a psychologist and work with divorcing couples so I see this all the time. Good luck.

I know you don't believe this - but your children are lucky. I am in the mist of the most hostile divorce - and they - my babies -are being used constantly as weapons against me for leaving an abusive man/marriage. He has now taken on abusing them as well verbal and otherwise - telling them he is going to kill me; with a knife, gun etc..

It is far worse to try to tell your 4 year old - not to worry - daddy will not kill me, at least not today.

The courts, the $$$ and he wants full custoday? Only because he has $$$ can he continue to fight me tooth and nail. It is a horror I wish on no one and when I read yours - I oh so understand - but know mentally - I'd pefer my children to be safe then in constant fear.

It is not about you it is about the children

That happends to me just recently..My wife was seeing someone while I was taking care of the kids at her work, and she lie about it, just saying we are just coworkers..finally I have to move out the house because it become an inferno..and for my kids sake,,but now I regret it, she was the one that should have leave...she keeps seeing the guy, and the things are going series betwen them..my child is concern because , she present him as a friend and he is around every weekend when I am not there to visit my child..WHAT SHOULD I TELL MY 8 YEAR OLD CHILD ABOUT WHY THERE IS A MAN AROUND AND WHY WE GOT SEPARETED? at first we just told her that mom and dad , don't get alone anymore..but now I just feel that she is liying to her in every way,,,and I know she is just 8 years old, but I just wanted to tell her , that I dont trust that guy and he is the reason this family broke apart.. even tought, I know we had our share, but what do you do , when somebody like my ex..is so selfish that she think only in her benefits, the rest will come alone...that what she said...what should I do..my child, love both of us, and she always is trying to put us in the same sentence..but my ex, does not have a clue what she is getting into...if this was going to fell, then take your time , but not go around with a guy and let my child imagination take a turn..I am so piss, about the situation..help what do I do, what do I tell my kid?

This would be nice but I been with my husband since the 9th grade and I thought I would be with him for the rest of my life until he made a bad decision to go outside the marriage. Sure I forgave him and for 13 years I held it in so that he wouldn't look bad being that he is a minister. I came to a point in my life where I now feel I deserve better and I should be happy and if that means without him then so be it. First I must say that I didn't go outside our marriage just because things weren't always going right and Secondly, our two sons are not 20yrs old and even now they can't handle the thought of me and their father separating. So I thought staying together would make it better not so in fact it's getting worse. I have given 21 years of my life and this is the return. Sure now he sees where he has made his mistakes but now in my heart I have moved on, not with anyone else just for myself. Yes we still live together but that is about it, we just live together, me, for the sake of our sons. I pray that God would allow him to move on too.

Tree: You are absolutely right. There is way too much divorce. People don't take marriage seriously and don't wait til they really know one another and also if they argue they bail instead of working it out. Its a shame kids have to go through what they do with parents divorcing. Too bad the people that are marrying don't consider they are involving innocent little ones in their messed up lives.