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Are skinny jeans for kids a denim do or don't? Illustration by Christopher Healy
Skinny Jeans for Kids Aren't Cool.
by Amy HatchLast time I checked, my daughter's back-to-school shopping list didn't include "items that can help put her self-esteem in the basement," and that's why we'll skip the skinny jeans this year.
When I saw the Wall Street Journal story on skinny jeans for toddlers, I had that "smack the forehead" moment. The story even shows with a graphic how the jeans are designed to "closely mimic the shape and style" of their adult counterpart, the denim trend that has so many women squeezing themselves into a dark-wash sausage casing.
In the interest of full disclosure, let me first say that I am one of those women -- I own not one, but two pairs of skinny jeans. But here's the thing: I am a fully- grown woman who has had 39 years to grapple with -- and come to terms with -- the notion of her own body image.
I'm not a 5-year-old girl like my own daughter, who is not a stick-thin baby waif, but instead has a muscular physique. She's beautiful, healthy and strong, and -- for the moment, anyways -- blissfully unaware that the rest of the Western world sees her as flawed. Not to mention that I'm disinclined to dress her like a miniature hootchie mama. It's bad enough that I can barely find a pair of jeans for her that doesn't ride so low that her underwear shows.
Now, she also has to contend with the fact she already doesn't fit the societal label of "skinny."
According to the Media Research Network, the research group Anorexia Nervosa & Related Eating Disorders Inc. found that one out of every four college-age women has engaged in unhealthy methods of weight control, including skipping meals, excessive exercise, self-induced vomiting, fasting and laxative abuse.
That number is staggeringly high. And now, we are starting even our toddlers off with the idea that they can -- and should -- sport the label of "skinny." The idea that they're just kids and that the message won't be absorbed is misguided at best and, at it's worst, dangerous. Any parent of a toddler can tell you that kids understand a lot more than we give them credit for.
And just why are we making clothing for little kids that mimics what adults wear? So often we bemoan the fact that our children, especially our girls, are growing up so much more quickly than ever before. We worry about teen sexuality, pregnancy and the objectification of our young women as nothing but sex objects, and then we set about creating a piece of clothing --for babies, no less -- that is designed for maximum sex appeal on adults.
We're hypocrites, too, pointing fingers at celebrity kids like Suri Cruise and her high heels, tsk-ing and judging her famous parents for decking her out like a miniature grown-up, and then we turn around and do the the exact same thing. The only difference is that we don't have to contend with the paparazzi.
Besides that, what ever happened to dressing kids like kids? I'm no puritan, and I love fashion-forward duds. I'm not advocating a return to Peter Pan collars and ankle-length skirts, but outfitting children in the exact image of adults and then expecting them not to adopt a precocious attitude makes no sense.
Recently, a major women's retailer was caught with their Photoshop showing, when an unedited image of a model showed up on their website next to the edited one. In the second, doctored photograph, the beautiful model's body was altered drastically to make her appear almost painfully thin. Women expressed their outrage over the image, taking the business to task for perpetuating the beauty myth in such a severe and obvious way.
Dressing babies and toddlers in skinny jeans does the exact same thing -- it sends a message, both to our children and to those who market to them -- that that you can never be too thin.
And that is just not cool.
Skinny Jeans Are Just Cute Jeans, People.
by Lesley KennedyI'm not gonna lie. I love shopping for my kids even more than I love shopping for myself. Cute headbands. Cute shoes. Cute dresses. Cute shorts. And, let's cut to the chase here: Cute skinny jeans.
Oh, I said it. Skinny jeans on kids are not too grown-up, they're not inappropriate and they don't send the wrong message. They're just cute. Like, really cute. And I'm not about to stop buying them because folks are balling their fists up and shaking them in air -- positively outraged that the popular denim trend has trickled its way down to the tot market.
"You're making 5-year-olds body-conscious!" they cry. "How dare you make my little girl worry about being skinny so soon!" they bemoan.
Please. My daughters, ages 5 and 3, are not concerned about their weight. They don't know what a diet is. They certainly aren't wondering if their butts look big when they pick out their clothes each morning. And let's talk about how "skinny" these jeans actually even are: I don't know about your kids, but slim-cut styles still hang off my girls and need to be belted to stay up most of the time.
My 5-year-old, a fashionista in training, goes from uber-girlie princess to copying iCarly to skateboard chic -- all in the course of one afternoon.
My 3-year-old? If it's not a dress, she won't wear it. But, occasionally, I'll convince her to wear pants underneath, and, seriously, if there's anything more adorable than a little girl wearing a dress over slim-cut jeans, I've yet to come across it.
You see, for kids, skinny jeans are simply jeans. They have absolutely nothing to do with sexiness or weight or body image, but everything to do with skateboard culture, comfort and -- yep -- looking cute.
And it's not just a girl thing. Skinny jeans are the must-have denim for boys today, too. But do you worry about boys becoming bulimic because of their jeans? No, you just send them off in their cool pants and Vans slip-ons and smile at their good fashion sense.
I think it's the name "skinny jeans" that gets people riled up. Thank goodness designers didn't decide to dub their latest versions of this style that's been around for decades "cigarette pants," as they were called when Audrey Hepburn and Sandra Dee wore them in the '50s and '60s -- can you imagine the outrage?
Because if it's not the name, shouldn't leggings stir up the same sort of anger? Did folks go crazy when girls started wearing them again in recent years with ... well, practically everything? They're certainly more form-fitting than skinny jeans, but they're totally accepted.
I bet if skinny jeans were called "skater jeans" people would see them for what they really are: slim-cut denim that's trendy and cool, super fun when done in bright colors and offered in a unisex silhouette.
When I see my kids in skinny jeans, I'm not thinking Lindsay Lohan -- I'm thinking Lindsey Vaughn. Skateboarders, BMX riders and other X-Games and Olympians have worn skinny jeans for years because, not only do they look good, they stretch and they are easy to move around in. Also, since they fit close to the body, there's no need to worry about baggy pants getting caught in spokes or wheels.
Fashion with function? Sounds like the perfect combo for kids' clothing to me.
Look, your daughter is not going to turn into Britney Spears just because she picks out a slim-cut pair of jeans. And, if you hate the trend, haven't you figured out that if you just sit back for five minutes, those five-sizes-too-big baggy jeans belted way down around the hips -- or, heaven forbid, the stonewashed pleated and tight-rolled styles I wore as a kid -- will soon be back in style?
Now, when that happens, you'll really have something to complain about.











ReaderComments (Page 1 of 14)
8-18-2010 @ 2:34PM
Lauren said...I read both sides of this argument, I have no children but I am a college student with a younger brother. I know for a while my brother wore "skinny jeans" and I'd just like to point out a fact here. Skinny jeans ride up on men and boys which forces them to wear them lower, as see by many people this is the "boxers-sticking-out-the-top style". Also for boys, since both people mostly address girls, hasn't it been proven briefs lower sprem count because of being too close to personal parts, imagine what a pair of skinny jeans are doing to his "parts". As for young girls, now a days self image comes really early. When I was in 4th grade I started to realize I wasn't in the same clothes as my friends (I couldn't afford them). I felt very self concious about this, it took me untill my senior year to become comfortable with my own self image. The parents who sit there and say a 5 year old is immune to self image issues maybe right, but for how much longer? How long will it take for these girls to realize that some of their friends look cuter? Girl grow up fast, remember that. Be fair to them and don't try to push what you want on them. Let them choose their cloths.
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8-20-2010 @ 2:54PM
Lea said...Either you are a parent or you are not. A5 year old child usually wants to copy Mom. I think the parent should that she is a child and I (the parent) would like her to remain a child and not dress like a miniture adult.
8-20-2010 @ 3:42PM
Lisa said...I agree with most of your reply--it's important to let your kids explore and pick the clothing you like. However, when I was little, my entire wardrobe consisted of "skinny jeans" (which were not called as such) and leggings, and to my knowledge there was nothing controversial about it. I truly think if they were called something OTHER than "skinny," this would not be an issue. As long as they fit correctly, I'd rather have my child wear jeans instead of teeny tiny shorts.
8-20-2010 @ 5:43PM
Brittany said...I agree with Lesley. I never thought of "skinny jeans" being for "skinny" kids, but more about the way they are cut to be form fitting!
Good lord people... lighten up and pick your battles.
8-20-2010 @ 6:10PM
nonya bizness said...I agree, I'm also a college student, I have two younger sisters, I think kids should have a say in what they wear. But from another point, you don't let your kid have everything they point out on those ridiculous infomercials. There is a line for everything, and ultimately it's parents who draw that line. Just because other kids wear skinny jeans doesn't mean a parent has to give in and say "Alright, maybe I'm being too strict." They're the parent, if they're not strict, who is? If they don't want there kids wearing skinny jeans/booty shorts/tube tops, that's their decision. A kid's still a kid, give 'em too much freedom and they'll get out of control (9 times out of 10, I know everyone wants to believe they have the perfect/special child, but be honest folks, that is not at all likely).
8-20-2010 @ 6:55PM
Rebecca said...Briefs do not lower sperm count. In order for the temperature to get hot enough in those "parts" to lower it, the guys would be really uncomfortable.
8-20-2010 @ 7:45PM
rolanda said...I totally agree with Lauren on this one. I first became paranoid athat I was too fat when I was just started elementary school! And till this day I'm still have a little scars and concerns about my body weight and image. But now when I look back at my old photos, I realize how much I looked like any other average size child. And that was from the pressure of my mother (unknowningly) teasing me about being small and making it seem like gaining weight is gross. It came to the point where I cringe when I hear the word "FAT", the pressure from sister jealousy that I was never overweight like she was (even though she lost the extra weight now), and of course the pressure of the media SMH.
8-20-2010 @ 8:19PM
c said...people,people,,, this is a throw back from ths 80's. straight leg jeans and leggings..relax.. i'm sure something more hideous will come along to get your panties in a bunch
8-18-2010 @ 3:14PM
not21anymore said...I totally agree. It's all the name.
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8-20-2010 @ 4:32PM
Natosha said...It has to be the name..because these pants have been around since the 50's. I am in my thirtys so when I wore them as a 10 to 13 year old. they were called stirup(sp) pants, bascially it was the skinny jean with the stirrups around the bottom of the foot. same exact thing! differnt material. like a cross between the tights and what they now call skinny jeans. if I might be so bold..sometimes I think the people screaming and pointing fingers about kids cloths most of the times are the ones that happen to catch a glimps of a 13 year olds butt, and think she looks grown..scream at the parents! they bought her those cloths! also people rememeber..your parents complained about kids cloths..we complain about kids cloths...its a cycle, it wont end..I also agree with another point, I would rather my two year old..or when she is 12 wear skinny jeans rather than short shorts, or micro minis!
8-20-2010 @ 8:07PM
sophia said...I know
WHATS THE BIG DEAL!?!?!?!?!?!
8-18-2010 @ 4:44PM
Ali said...What confuses me is what you consider "kids". I consider 12 years olds kids, but you keep talking about toddlers. I think skinny jeans are fine. I wore them as a kid (and still wear them) and I assure you, I've never felt self-conscious about my weight.
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8-18-2010 @ 5:45PM
TaShayla said...I have a 10 month old and she wears skinny jeans and the leggins that look like jeans and they are abosolutly gorgeous on her! I think its just people that had issues as a child themselves, that have an ongoing fear of nonacceptace from the society because they were never able to accept themselve for who they are.some people just are lookin for something to stir up shit.
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8-20-2010 @ 2:57PM
Mr. Bates said...Well when your child gets to the tender age of 12 and she's pregnant what will your comment be then. Maybe your one of these types of people that have to keep up with the jones and your kids are just pawns for you to address the lack of child hood you may have. I children today are surrounded by a bunch of sex hateful music(hip-hop & rock) and television commercials that promotes violence and more sex. Why don't you try being a mother that cares how her children looks and not teach her or them at an early age how to expose themselves to the public.
8-20-2010 @ 2:51PM
trish said...That is ridiculous.....grown up clothes do not belong on children, and parents who don't want to sex up their children aren't doing so because of their own issues...the issue isn't just skinny jeans, how about half shirts on tweens..thongs hanging out? are those cute too? .try teaching middle school and see how parents let their kids dress..starting now thinking it's cute, where do we draw the line?
8-20-2010 @ 3:05PM
RN BSN said...Mr. Bates~If my 12 yr old is pregnant at the tender age of 12 due to skinny jeans...I'll eat my degree. Go back to your hole in the wall and let kids be kids. Skinny jeans are the least of society's worries!
8-20-2010 @ 3:11PM
Mindy said...I'm having a hard time picturing "skinny jeans" with the diaper bubble butt. :)
My daughters are now 12 and 15. My oldest is short and solid. No fat on her - very strong and muscular, but definitely not "skinny." She's voluptuous and beautiful and even though she obsesses about her appearance (because she's 15), she has a pretty positive self-image. I'd like to think that is because I have spent her life talking about being healthy and strong, not skinny, not thin, not fat. My 12 yr. old is still a little girl, no puberty yet, petite, slender. Eats like a horse but doesn't gain weight. I've spent a lot of time talking to both of them about being comfortable with their own body types.
My oldest likes skinny jeans, and except that they are always too long, she can wear them. We've always taken it to mean that the JEANS are skinny, not the people wearing them.
My youngest has no interest in anything fashionable; she goes for comfort. I'm sure that will change eventually, but for now, soft and comfy wins every time.
My point is that all kids are different, and their self-image will come far more from how we as their mothers talk to them about both their own bodies and ourselves, than it will from clothing trends. I'm not ignorant to the impact peers have, but they can deal with that as it happens if they have a strong sense of self before they reach the age of meanness around middle school.
If we promote health and help them believe, at every turn, that they are beautiful if they are healthy, if we teach them how to cook and eat healthy foods, if we promote an active lifestyle with them - family bike rides, etc. - then we can stop the childhood obesity epidemic as well as help our kids value what is important within themselves.
8-20-2010 @ 3:42PM
Sunday said...Yep! Exactly!
8-20-2010 @ 3:44PM
Sunday said...My comment was in response to TaShayla.
8-20-2010 @ 3:59PM
Dina said...If you think that skinny jeans look cute on a toddler, please keep in mind that there are perverts out there who will see her, not as cute, but as sexually available.
Also, there will be body image issues as she grows older if other children tease her about her clothes. Toddlers should dress like toddlers, not like adults.