Colleges Tell Parents to Shove Off - Politely
Incoming freshmen and their parents endure -- er, enjoy -- speeches at the school's Martin Luther King Jr. International Chapel. Then the new students are marched through the gates of campus and parents watch as the gates swing shut behind them.
No villainous laughter or ominous organ music sounds, please.
This is a serious moment. Separation at the University of Minnesota, however, is a little less formal. The Times reports parents are invited to a reception, giving their kids a chance to sneak off and meet their roommates without adult interference.
Parents. They can be soooo clingy and needy.
That's the problem, The Times reports. We live in an age of "Velcro parents" who are highly involved in the minutia of their children's lives, and colleges and universities want to cut the apron strings as soon as possible.
Administrators at Grinnell College in Iowa hold a ceremony where freshmen sit on one side of the gym while their parents sit on the other. President Raynard Kington greets students, his back turned to the parents, and, shortly thereafter, parents are cordially invited to get the %$#! off campus. In a nice way.
But they don't always listen. Many college administrators tell The Times parents often loiter about college towns and campuses for days.
Beverly Low, the dean of first-year students at Colgate University in New York, tells The Times of parents who attended the first day of classes with their daughter. Later, they stormed the registrar's office to change her schedule.
Joyce Holl, head of the National Orientation Directors Association, tells The Times colleges are increasingly telling parents to shove off.
Formal ceremonies are rare. More common, The Times reports, is explicit language in drop-off schedules telling parents when, exactly, they need to get out of Dodge.
This helps students talk to their parents, Thomas Dunne, the associate dean of undergraduates at Princeton University, tells The Times.
"It's easy for students to point to this notation and say, 'Hey, Mom, I think you're supposed to be gone now'," he says. "It's obviously a hard conversation for students to have with parents."
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