Can I Make My Family Accept My Baby's Name?

Right before my first grandchild was born, we all began the name game. The only name I didn't like was Sierra. I had worked with a girl named Sierra, she was lazy and stupid, And stole ten dollars out of my purse. Guess what my granddaughters name is ? You got it, Sierra. It was my daughter-in-laws idea. Even though she knew it was my # 1 hated name. Passive-aggressive anyone. I think I know what she thinks of me. Sierra is a color of brown, and my granddaughter is a curly blond with blue eyes. I call her susie-q. Or curly sue. She loves it.

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A child's name is not about the parents or the grandparents, but about the child and what they will have to live with for the rest of their life. If you don't give a s*** what anyone else thinks and unless you plan to keep a child protected from all social interaction with peers and home school them, then think of what you are saddling a child with for life. Names matter, and will have an effect on the child's self esteem. Signed, been there and done that.

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Say what you want, but Bill is 100% CORRECT!

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ok for starters some people are getting out of control with weird or original baby names these days. as for cullen its a name from the twilight books and most boys are going to grow up resenting it. as for bohdi its a good name with strange or hippy spelling, i know of 3 cases of bodie in pop culture: the skier, a charecter from the show "the wire" (a classic show and charecter so if thats your inspiration great) or, patrick swayze in point break (hippy). if you like it go for and let your folks deal with it just dont do it to be "cool", the child will know and harbor ill will. every kid gets teased i was charlie tuna, so i became chuck and just went back to charlie cause its who i am

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Ummmm...Has no one ever heard of Bohdi Elfman, Jenna Elfmans' hubby????????

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Well, recess is probably gonna suck for the kid, but that's okay, just have him tell everyone that he's a Hindu apostate. Will you get him his own tree to sit under?

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I can agree with both sides of this arguement. I have a resonably common name but with an unusual spelling formed by taking parts of each parents first names and putting them together to form my first name. I am 63 years old, and have spent nearly all of that time explaining WHY my name is spelled that way or at the least correcting the misspronounciation. Of course you want something unique, but think of the lifelong aggrivation of having to correct everyone from teachers to doctors regarding the correct name to call you.

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Your biggest mistake was telling everyone the name you decided on before the baby was born. Don't ever, ever, ever do that. You will get tons of unsolicited advice about other people's opinions, and it's not their decision. It's yours, as it's your child to name. You may also start a family rift if you don't use a family name, or if you choose one family's name over the other family. If you do want outside opinions, only ask one or two of your most trusted friends or family members, and swear this to secrecy until the birth. Telling people beforehand is never a good idea, no matter how excited you are about the name you chose. Once the baby is born and their name is on the birth certificate, they can complain to themselves all they want - it's legal then.

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I was the first grandchild on you fathers side of the family and every one wanted me named after them it was a mess. my mom had planned to name me Dena Elayne, but it was scream and fight so when she had them all in the hospital room she said I'll settle this she'll be Mary after me and Dale after her dad well that worked out real fine I was teased about my name for years even grown ups made fun of my name I hated it to the point of distraction. In 1982 my husband came to me and said Baby come on we're going to the lawyer and having your name changed to anything you want it to be. We did. I chose Winter Raynes and have never regretted it and have never answered to Mary or Dale again. You are the mother and father it's your baby. Tell the relatives if they don't like your choice of name for your baby to have their own and leave you alone. I'd say it more forcefully but even though I'm 60 my mom doesn't put up with cuss words, but she does love my new name and has used it from day one.

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That poor kid is going to grow up with horrible tauntings like "Fat Bodhi" or Dead Bodhi", or worse, all because the parents wanted to be stylish or unique. This was a BAD idea, because now the kid will have to live with THEIR mistakes!

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What your idiot family members should take into consideration is that at least you didn't pick...Ashley...Brittany...Courtney...That even though you didn't get pass your "A, B, C's" at least you found a name that was unique and different within the first three letters of the alphabets names for both sexes...And have you ever seen a 60 year old grayed out hag with the first name of Brandy with a "Y" and or Brandi With a "i" instead...Not that cool at that age...Just ptitful...If they do not like it, tough noogies on them because it is not their own child that they brought into this world.

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Why cripple your kid with a terrible name?? If you must, call him Bodhi as a little pet name, but don't put it on his birth certificate. Better yet, name your dog Bodhi.

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Our oldest daughter was named after her two grandmothers. We used my husband mother's middle name Hedwig and my mother's first Ruth. My mother in law wanted us to name her ruth hedwig because people would call heddi. But I refused. and long as she lived at home she was hedwig. when she was a senior in high school and 18 there was a falling out. And she left home and became Heddi. To me she will always be Hedwig.

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Bill is a moron of a man because he didn't live up to his first and only given name of "William." He took the second version that is a knock off known as "Bill." So he needs to put up for real, stop being a fraud to his real first name or just slink away to a corner and shut up.

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My name is Robin, which I like despite all the teasing I received as a child: Robin Redbreast, Robin Hood, Rockin' Robin, etc. But that was years ago. Now I work as an educator for a state wildlife agency and I am really love it when people make a connection between my name and the bird species. And one of my favorite actors is Robin Williams. Rock on, Robins!

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Bill nailed it. A major problem with the name, Bodhi, is the ease with which it can be mocked by a child bent on attracting attention and/or establishing his or her false sense of superiority and elevated placement in the playground pecking order. Example: such a child states, "You're 'boaty' alright; you're always drifting around in a fog!" OR "You're 'booty' alright; with that fat butt and those big feet you couldn't be anything else !" Unfortunately, some children and adolescents, as well as adults, can be very cruel. The parents should take that into account and seriously consider selecting a name, even an unusual or uncommon one, which does not lend itself to such similarity with words which can be used by the thoughtless and selfish to mock the child with such name.

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